Just not able to hate Dev!! - Page 2

Originally posted by: VIMAL.M

Originally posted by: VIMAL.M

Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun

👏 And Dev and Sona totally failed in this criteria.

When we have a character like Dev, who cannot come out of the pathetic possessive fatal toxic upbringing he had, who felt so free, open, independent when he met Sona YET failed to consume the all of it i.e. love, who failed to grow an identity of his own out of Ishwari's shadow, in the other hand we have Sonakshi Bose who despite being blessed with such wonderful family, failed their upbringing BIG time. When Dev needed to balance between his obsessive mother and give Sona the much needed respect and acknowledgment, Sona failed to protect the honour of her family time and again and surrendered herself into being a totally different personality, almost feels like a Multiple Personality Disorder Syndrome if I compare before and after marriage Sona.

At the end of the day, every person is the author of his/her own destiny. Cannot help but blame anyone except Sona in this mess which has landed in the house of Boses now. The least Sonakshi can do as a daughter is to respectfully break all ties with her baba since she failed to protect their honour and their upbringing. Let her continue whatever 'XYZ' 'Best Bahu' 'Baby' mission she is into. 😕

Originally posted by: gemini54

Great Post

We are victims of our circumstances . But, we cannot always take refuge that the path of our circumstances has caused us to behave a certain way because then we are always standing in the same place with no growth and without growth our lives do come to a stand still

Dev is not hated just his in actions , his stop gap solutions to find easy way out and his seeming lack of empathy is what is being questioned because that certainly is not good partner material

I do agree with you regarding this

As mothers of sons we need to teach our boys to love and respect all because that is our duty and also make him understand others pain and misery too... Bad grooming and selfish upbringing can only bring misery to family .

I would also like to add that we need to teach our daughters to claim what is rightfully theirs

Originally posted by: Kaustuv

I am of the opinion that your upbringing and struggles can't justify the crimes u commit. It's like pardoning Rape in view of the culprit sorry state.

This argument would have hold true had he defended his inlaws when they were constantly insulted by his mom and RR. Had he done that the situation would not have escalated . He clearly showed his wife and her family their place in his life. He treats them a bit better than domestic help , obvious physical intimacy .

He did not slap his FL ,the slap was directed to his wife to show her place, to his MIL and BIL defending him and of course his FIL the collateral causality which proved his fear abt the family and ML.

About the much hyped sex scene ,ML was in mission merely fulfilling his moms orders. He was making advances throughout the trip , he used all his resource, charm, flirt and what worked for him was his shear male force. FL I can understand her surrender, she was down, in her worst phase emotionally and not to forget she really loves him unlike her hubby.

Originally posted by: WeRockTheWorld

Yes , this is also true...but how...only thru mistakes and watching others...In case of Dev he is ONLY taught to love his mother and understand his mom's needs and pain...for that matter Ishwari is so smart that she has seen to that his sisters also are not close to him...

Would like to quote an example...dogs used for gaurding the farm and hunting are primarily trained to recognize ONE MASTER. Dev is brought up that way, he is trained ONLY to recognise ISHWARI!!...but the natural needs to have a mate in every living beings life brings him closer to Sona...he falls in love with her...now he is confused...he recognises his personal needs but his loyalty to his master is pulling him away from his personal needs. Here there is a big conflict of interest...and this conflict of interest with his temperamental and impulsive character is destroying him.

Now it is for HIM to decide what he needs to do because he is all messed up...would he want to pick up the broken pieces of his life and mend his ways according to his moms needs or would he want to mend ways to live a life of HIS CHOICE !!

Vimal in no way I was trying to justify his actions...for people like me , a mother of single son this story is a great learning ...how not to bring up your son...how ruthlessly you can destroy his life if you bring him up ONLY to recognise /respect mom and her feelings...because me as a mother needs to understand that my son has a life of his own ...where he should take decisions and choices in life...and if his choices are not in line with mine that doesnt make him a bad son...

Many a times especially in our society , I have felt that son's are burdened and emotionally black mailed to do what the parents want by saying how much parents have done for them ...and this is something that we need to remove ...and which is wrong ..parents are blessed with kids , so that they can make a good human being out of them and one day they are going to fly away to have their own family which is what we need...then why raise them with ONE MASTER methods /concept.

My intention of the post of was not to justify Dev but to make us think that upbringing also takes a huge hit on character , some learn to correct by themselves ...others perish...

It is to be seen if Dev will perish or survive...

PS : no child is born out of a mothers womb as a criminal...society ,upbringing and the environment in which he/she is brought up has a great role to play in the character formation of a child.

Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun

👏 And Dev and Sona totally failed in this criteria.

When we have a character like Dev, who cannot come out of the pathetic possessive fatal toxic upbringing he had, who felt so free, open, independent when he met Sona YET failed to consume the all of it i.e. love, who failed to grow an identity of his own out of Ishwari's shadow, in the other hand we have Sonakshi Bose who despite being blessed with such wonderful family, failed their upbringing BIG time. When Dev needed to balance between his obsessive mother and give Sona the much needed respect and acknowledgment, Sona failed to protect the honour of her family time and again and surrendered herself into being a totally different personality, almost feels like a Multiple Personality Disorder Syndrome if I compare before and after marriage Sona.

At the end of the day, every person is the author of his/her own destiny. Cannot help but blame anyone except Sona in this mess which has landed in the house of Boses now. The least Sonakshi can do as a daughter is to respectfully break all ties with her baba since she failed to protect their honour and their upbringing. Let her continue whatever 'XYZ' 'Best Bahu' 'Baby' mission she is into. 😕

Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun

Well I am able to hate Dev. Dev, despite being a grownass man, doesn't have his own identity. His lameass sorry is not gonna work on me. Accident my foot, it was QUITE intentional and how !!

I am disgusted by what they are showing in the episode with each passing day. What did Sona mean that I have to be with him right now ? What a lame daughter.

Bijoy is the most unfortunate character in the show who just witnessed the death of his little princess right in front of his eyes.

Originally posted by: VIMAL.M

More than Dev character.I am worried to see Sona character being butchered so badly.She compromise on everything.Just be with Dev n happily romance him.If she does not take a strong stand for Bijoy.She does not deserve a dad like Bijoy.Bijoy should cut all ties with Sona n should not allow her to enter the house.Sona can be a life long slave in Dixit house.