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Curlyhairdiary

@Curlyhairdiary

Voyager

Posted: 8 years ago

Making a post after ages. But just couldn't stop myself after watching yesterday's joke of an episode. I would like to tell a personal story. I was born after 10 years of my parent's marriage. I'm an only child. Though there was nothing physically wrong with either of my parents, it just wasn't happening. But still, my mother had to face countless taunts and insults from the society for not bearing a child. Everytime someone spoke about a baby, my mom would break down into tears. What was worse, there was nothing wrong with either of them so the doctors didn't have a problem at hand that could be treated.

In Dev and Sonakshi's case, they have a problem. They are rich. Dev owns a freaking hospital. Sonakshi is a doctor. And medical science is more than capable of suggesting ways of treating this condition. Maybe it will work. Maybe it won't. But they have to atleast TRY. Sitting at home and cursing your fate or pulling a 'Khush toh bohot hoge tum ' is not going to help anybody. To solve a problem, you have to first acknowledge that the problem exists. Treating a child as a means to an end - the end being mahan ishwari bonding with Sonakshi, is absolutely not the right way to go about things.

I always thought Dev was a problem solver. He is impulsive, but he makes decisions to solve the problem in front of him. Today, I saw him merely delaying a problem and making it 100 times worse. Not getting something in the first place doesn't hurt as much as getting the illusion of something and then having it snatched away cruelly. I see no rhyme or reason why Dev would take such a step. And till what time can he hide this truth? Max 2-3 weeks. Sonakshi will get her monthly cycles by then and she'll figure out what's going on. What then? We were shown that Dev knows exactly how Ishwari treats his wife, she doesn't consider her a part of his family. After finding out the truth, how does he think she will react? Instead of standing by his wife and making his mother understand, he wants to become a real life khargosh by closing his eyes to reality and pretend that everything will work itself out.

I thought the CVs can't disappoint me more after the calling asha maa as aunty debacle. I was clearly wrong. I have mentioned this time and again that infertility is a highly sensitive topic and there are millions of families who go through it. Making a mockery out of this is absolutely not done, CVs

They are portraying a message that it's okay to lie to your wife about her medical condition as long as it helps her in bonding with your mother. Shaheer has said countless times that many men come up to him and tell him they are able to relate to Dev. And this is what the show is teaching them?

Each time I feel the old charm is coming back, the CVs do something that royally screws it up. I think it's time I stopped watching coz I don't seem to have anything positive to say anymore.

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sia.krpkab

@sia.krpkab

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Posted: 8 years ago

I feel you Malvika.

The show is all contrived now - watch it as a mute spectator, and avoid from being too invested.
That's how I watch it now.
The very 'Dev Dixit' who was the pillar of strength is long gone. A person can be emotionally immature, but this guy is acting like a loser. Actually the character has gone awry.

I think the reason for which he lied will soon backfire and this facade will end - that's where the story will pick up (if it does).

On a lighter note, I am an only child of my parents too, just like yourself. But I was born too soon 😉!

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Curlyhairdiary

@Curlyhairdiary

Voyager

Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: thedramaqueen

Thanks for your kind words 😊

I agree, they showed the doc saying she has 7% chance. This should've immediately been followed by - here are your options! The CVs are conveniently forgetting logic while trying to prove a plot point.

I guess supriyaji spoke to the CVs so now Ishwari is uber sweet.

This is getting too OTT and dramatic for my taste. Specially Dev pulling his 'Aaj khush toh bohot hoge tum '. I'm sure Shaheer is gonna nail this scene. Emotional scenes are his strength and the makers know this is their biggest trump card and they won't shy away from using it.

I just wish they would've used a little more logic and sensitivity while handling this track!

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Curlyhairdiary

@Curlyhairdiary

Voyager

Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: sia.krpkab
I feel you Malvika.

The show is all contrived now - watch it as a mute spectator, and avoid from being too invested.
That's how I watch it now.
The very 'Dev Dixit' who was the pillar of strength is long gone. A person can be emotionally immature, but this guy is acting like a loser. Actually the character has gone awry.

I think the reason for which he lied will soon backfire and this facade will end - that's where the story will pick up (if it does).

On a lighter note, I am an only child of my parents too, just like yourself. But I was born too soon 😉!

Yay! Hi 5 !! Single children FTW 😃

I couldn't agree more. I started watching it without letting myself get too invested. But sometimes, things hit home and I can't help but react. Dev once again lying about the infertility and this haywire treating of such a sensitive topic just got to me. And I ranted!

Happy to know I still have like minded people such as you around to knock some sense into me :) I feel better now !

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thedramaqueen

@thedramaqueen

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Posted: 8 years ago

I agree Malvika. Shaheer will nail this. They do show his scenes of this sort every now and then and he does an awesome job.

he was brilliant in the episode on Tuesday too. Even wednesday he acted so well. Dont know where this God aspect came from. Trying to make it appealing to more and more people I suppose.

But the story can be handled better and he can still have his emotional scenes. I wish our wish will be granted soon

Originally posted by: Malvika07
I'm sure Shaheer is gonna nail this scene. Emotional scenes are his strength and the makers know this is their biggest trump card and they won't shy away from using it.
I just wish they would've used a little more logic and sensitivity while handling this track!

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Curlyhairdiary

@Curlyhairdiary

Voyager

Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: thedramaqueen
I agree Malvika. Shaheer will nail this. They do show his scenes of this sort every now and then and he does an awesome job.

he was brilliant in the episode on Tuesday too. Even wednesday he acted so well. Dont know where this God aspect came from. Trying to make it appealing to more and more people I suppose.

But the story can be handled better and he can still have his emotional scenes. I wish our wish will be granted soon

Yup. That's totally true. Even during the dev ki deewangi episodes, if it was any other guy, people would've been creeped out at his antics. It was only coz of Shaheer's brilliant acting chops that they could justify each and every blunder Dev made.

Again, they have brought up the God issue so that Shaheer can deliver another great performance and the audience can ignore the main loopholes in this track.

I hope they read the opinions of the viewers on the forum and actually act upon it. I don't think they do, coz according to Raghuvir shekawat, we are some teenage girls who fangirl over Dev and Sona's coochy coo romance.

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mily_mathew

@mily_mathew

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Posted: 8 years ago

Even I cant watch the show,taking a break now.

The ish_sona bond is so toxic for me,since its foundation is based on selfishness and lies.

For me thats not love.

I used to watch the show for the light scenes of Bose family and the mature love of Devashi.

But all that has taken a backseat.

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Curlyhairdiary

@Curlyhairdiary

Voyager

Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: mily_mathew
Even I cant watch the show,taking a break now.
The ish_sona bond is so toxic for me,since its foundation is based on selfishness and lies.

For me thats not love.

I used to watch the show for the light scenes of Bose family and the mature love of Devashi.

But all that has taken a backseat.

True that. Ishwari's character taking a total 180. It all seems so fake to me, I can hardly enjoy it.

The only way out of it is to watch it without getting invested, just like sia.krpkab suggested!

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LiveLife321

@LiveLife321

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Posted: 8 years ago

Hi Malvika, Good to see you back dear. I can understand your outburst but i think its better for us to stop looking for logic in this show. I am watching each episode as a standalone one with little detachment towards the characters and in this way i am able to bare it in much better way than before.

I am copy-pasting my response from gemini's post here. I hope it can answer some of your Q's.😊

My Mom & Dad were self-made individuals who achieved everything in life solely with their hardwork. They taught me & my brother 2 most important things in life for which we will be indebted to them since thats what gave us courage & strength to fight our own battles with our head held high.

1. The importance of individuality.

2. Most important one is standing on your own feet.

When i got married(Its an arranged marriage), i was just like any other normal girl with full of dreams about future. It didn't took much time for me to see the reality and to understand the kind of mess i have entered on the name of marriage. We loose hope on future when we see the foundation of most important relation in our life is based on a bag full of lies. I dont know whether to call it as love for my partner or commitment towards my relationship, what ever it is that time i was exactly standing on the same place where Dev is standing today, only situations are different. I know what he did to me but i cant share this truth with my parents mainly because i cant see them disrespecting him & most importantly i cant see them blaming themselves for my condition. I know that i cant hide those happenings for long time and when they face the truth, they will be broken but what i wanted in that state was some TIME to work on the situation & a MIRACLE to see the end result. Thats what exactly happened when my parents got to know about the mess i was in and it killed me to see my dad in guilt mode but later they understood my intentions and became my support in my tough times.

It took me 5yrs to clean up the mess & to witness the miracle i was waiting for in my life. Today, I dont have any regret about any of my decisions in life including my marriage because i never saw the result of any decision as right or wrong, Its only about Memories and Lessons learnt.

I really dont want to comment on whether Dev took right decision or not, Only time will tell this. One thing i can say is he is not completely responsible for this entire mess, Ishwari & Sona are equally responsible. They both started it, he is taking it to further level. We can't see life as a set of stand alone events. Each and every event & reaction in life is interlinked with other events & others reactions. Thats why its complicated some times for a third person to understand from outside.😊

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Curlyhairdiary

@Curlyhairdiary

Voyager

Posted: 8 years ago

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Originally posted by: LiveLife321
Hi Malvika, Good to see you back dear. I can understand your outburst but i think its better for us to stop looking for logic in this show. I am watching each episode as a standalone one with little detachment towards the characters and in this way i am able to bare it in much better way than before.
I am copy-pasting my response from gemini's post here. I hope it can answer some of your Q's.😊
My Mom & Dad were self-made individuals who achieved everything in life solely with their hardwork. They taught me & my brother 2 most important things in life for which we will be indebted to them since thats what gave us courage & strength to fight our own battles with our head held high.
1. The importance of individuality.
2. Most important one is standing on your own feet.

When i got married(Its an arranged marriage), i was just like any other normal girl with full of dreams about future. It didn't took much time for me to see the reality and to understand the kind of mess i have entered on the name of marriage. We loose hope on future when we see the foundation of most important relation in our life is based on a bag full of lies. I dont know whether to call it as love for my partner or commitment towards my relationship, what ever it is that time i was exactly standing on the same place where Dev is standing today, only situations are different. I know what he did to me but i cant share this truth with my parents mainly because i cant see them disrespecting him & most importantly i cant see them blaming themselves for my condition. I know that i cant hide those happenings for long time and when they face the truth, they will be broken but what i wanted in that state was some TIME to work on the situation & a MIRACLE to see the end result. Thats what exactly happened when my parents got to know about the mess i was in and it killed me to see my dad in guilt mode but later they understood my intentions and became my support in my tough times.

It took me 5yrs to clean up the mess & to witness the miracle i was waiting for in my life. Today, I dont have any regret about any of my decisions in life including my marriage because i never saw the result of any decision as right or wrong, Its only about Memories and Lessons learnt.

I really dont want to comment on whether Dev took right decision or not, Only time will tell this. One thing i can say is he is not completely responsible for this entire mess, Ishwari & Sona are equally responsible. They both started it, he is taking it to further level. We can't see life as a set of stand alone events. Each and every event & reaction in life is interlinked with other events & others reactions. Thats why its complicated some times for a third person to understand from outside.😊

Hi latha, so good to hear from you! Thanks for sharing your story. Your parents did give you some solid advice. It truly defines the foundation of any relationship. It gave me a new perspective to look at things as well :)

I completely agree with you on the part that Sona and Ishwari are equally responsible for the mess they're in and it's not Dev's fault alone. The only people I can find faults with are the CVs. Not getting a pregnancy test done was something that I just couldn't digest. Dev and ishwari's characters were kinda ruined long back. But in the recent episodes, I've seen sona go downhill as well.

I even stopped coming on to the forum frequently coz I wanted to be less invested in the show and not get too affected by it. But since the baby track hit a nerve personally, I couldn't stop myself. I'm thankful that the members here always engage in healthy discussions and help me achieve a new perspective. Cheers :)

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