Mr.Bijoy and Sona's interesting logic!!!!!!!! - Page 2

Originally posted by: gemini54

<font size="2" face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif" color="#000066">Very good unbiased write up of a different view.👏</font>

<font size="2" face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif" color="#000066">I am one of the oldest ( age wise)😉 member of this forum but this is the first show I am posting on. I started watching this show as it stuck some personal chords with me.</font><font color="#000066">I am biased towards Sona as I see some shades of me in her. I dont agree with some of what you wrote about Sona but some I can see you have a point.I really used to like Dev Dixit the character in the beginning but of late cannot relate to him at all. I am a mother and I cannot relate to the character of Easwari I understand that she did go thru hardships and that makes her who she is but her bias towards one child to the point of bordering on obsession is a turn off for me. My MIL was not educated and they went thru hardships to raise 10 children and she did it beautifully without Bias so I dont buy the hardship the reason for bias . I have for one tried to put myself in her shoes several times and also tried to see her POV did that even yesterday but the archaic and regressive thinking portrayed in this show is a big turn off.</font>

<font color="#000066"><font size="2" face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif">I like what you wrote about Bijoy I love his character but you are right he does have flaws and comes across as loud but I think the reason I like him seems to be because he is the voice of atleast some of the audience including me ( again just my POV). My favorite character when I began this show was Neha because I thought she was the forgotten child the child who suffered a lot but lately her portrayal has been horrible. I even used to relate to Mami because I have seen people like her but repeating the same thing with no progress is kind of a put off. Asha still remains my favorite along with Dadi.</font>
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<font size="2" face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif" color="#000066"> The way I am viewing this show now( reading only the written updates that too skimming) is that the creatives had a beautiful story to tell about two individuals in Love dealing with an insecure mother and embracing her into their fold and she overcoming her insecurities. I have seen it happen in real life as I lived and living it. But this show has really lost its way and that is the sad part.</font>

<font size="2" face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif" color="#000066">Again thanks for giving a different perspective it is always good to see a different POV</font>

Originally posted by: tia.o

<font size="3" color="#003333">You have made good points. But here's my two cents worth.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">1. Bijoy adores his daughters and constantly teases his son. But he never used his son to manipulate his daughter or vice versa. Ishwari used Neha not going to honeymoon to manipulate Dev and Sona not going to theirs, yet is arranging Riya's wedding when Neha's marriage is breaking up.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">2. Bijoy Bose never called Sona Daddy's girl nor imposed his decisions on her. A man is not Mamma's boy if he loves his mother or his mother loves her son. But when the mom commands and the man jumps without asking how high and doesn't give a crap who he hurt in the process (Example: Break up and recently aunty drama), then he is indeed a Mamma's boy or puppet. An adult human being knows how to use their own brain.
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<font size="3" color="#003333">3. I don't know about others, but I at least criticised Sonakshi for not wearing the lehenga Ishwari gave her at her wedding. There was multiple posts on it as I recall. So she was criticised for it.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">4. Sonakshi was told by Dev that Non-veg can be at the wedding and he will convince Ishwari. Should Sona claim she knows Ishwari better than her own son and read their mind? If I tell someone something about my mother, will they believe me or pretend to know my mother better than I? I guess knowing his tendencies to lie, she should just never believe him but what to do? Love is stupid.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">5. Bijoy Bose sent them outside his house. Dev and Sona have spent many late nights just outside Sonakshi's house drinking tea, dancing in the rain or chatting. What made Sona decide to take a walk at 2 a.m. I don't know. But I did criticise her for it. But one thing no one can claim that Bijoy Bose didn't even ask about his son-in-law while celebrating his daughter's birthday and cutting cake with her with his family. Ishwari did.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">6. Bijoy Bose never taught his son or daughter cooking. But they did household chores. Sona put her bed and clothes away herself and there was no indication that Asha was running after Saurabh doing those chores for him. They may not have done cooking, but they were not as useless as unable to figure out how to fold a square piece of handkerchief. Sona didn't ask Dev to do vaccuming or dusting. She asked him to fold his own clothes (not hers) and put them away to his own wardrobe so that Ishwari doesn't keep peeking into their personal wardrobe which they both share which you have to admit is very creepy for a mother to do in a married couple's room. Even for this little thing, Dev had to lie and go behind her back running to his Mummy. Mamma's boy? You bet.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">She never asked Dev to cook or do any heavy activity that his manly muscle can't handle.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">7. Regarding wedding custom, yes, Bose family followed their custom. But that's what he said before the wedding that the wedding will happen in Bengali ritual. Dixits should have insisted to have the wedding with both customs and not just one.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">But then Ishwari was desperate to get this marriage done so that she can get her Goddess status back. But the moment the wedding was over, after the fish fiasco, she sent all of Bijoy's gift to his daughter and son-in-law back without once asking Sonakshi or Dev even though the fish tray never touched them. Yet, kept the dining table and ate on it where the fish tray was put. So the true colours came out soon enough.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">8. Regarding Neha, Sonakshi should have stayed out and she was. She didn't interfere until Ishwari used Neha to interfere in her life and disrupt her plans. If they wanted Sonakshi to stay out, then they can't use Neha's problem conveniently appear or disappear to suit their own agenda.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">9. Regarding Saurabh's business, Sona kept it a secret at Saurabh's request. True. But she didn't lie. Dev has shown as much interest in Sona's family since marriage (beyond sending Diwali gift or when he needs to get Sonakshi back) as I don't know, the price of onion.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">Now let's see how many times Dev picked up a phone and called Saurabh or Elena to see how they are doing. Ummm... Never. Sona constantly keeps asking about and keeps seeing his family's problem right in front of her eyes whether she wants to know about them or see them or not. But Dev never asks about them assuming since they are not making an issue about it like his family, they are fine. To be treated like family and for people to approach you, you have to behave like a family first. But Dev has proven with his recent aunty act that he is not family.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">Family nibhane se banti hain warna door ke rishtedar ko bhi log family kehte hain, lekin apna problem share nehin karte.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">10. People keep forgetting because she is such an unassuming person, but Dida is a single mother too and Asha and Bijoy lives with her. Ishwari's rightful comparison should be with her, not with Asha.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">Ishwari has daughters. Dadi has an only son. But yet she opened her heart to her daughter-in-law and never treated her like an outsider or enemy. If she had, Asha won't be so comfortable with her today.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">11. And finally the most important one as to why Ishwari's all issues seem bigger than Bijoy's. Dev and Sona live with Ishwari and not Bijoy.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">I have no doubt had they lived with Bijoy, they'd have the same issues, may be more.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">But since they have to live with Ishwari, her problems are more evident.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">So the solution is that Dev should buy a house across the street from his and live there with Sonakshi so that both Bijoy and Ishwari's problem are seen in small doses.</font>

Originally posted by: ltelidevara

What can I say? Just can't believe what I read just now.

Since the show began I am the one who desparately tried to point out the flaws in Sona's ch. with the same points that you presented here. Especially her one logic for herself and another for others.

This holds true for Mr. Bijoy Bose who has the same obsession like Iswari,he for his daughter and she for her son.

I never hesitated to resent Sonakshi's habit to preach but not practice.

All the points you touched hold true in proving her grey shades along with her father.

But to say anything against Sonakshi is not acceptable in this forum.You will be mercilessly bashed and cornered. You can call Dev with the most unheard of names and can criticise Iswari in any manner you like but that is allowed.

So when I read your post I wondered whether you are ready to face all this.

Nevertheless. I applaud you for voicing your views crystal clear without fear.

Thanks for making my day delightful. Keep writing.

Originally posted by: cscs

Very valid points raised in your post. For me the lead characters are flawed and i like them for the same. Yes sona is also flawed but somehow her flaws are not pointed out and other flaws are exaggerated to an extent that even if they sneeze it looks like a crime.

Originally posted by: M.soni

specially about dev..jab wo kuch karta bhi nahi tab bhi people say he did wrong to sona.😕

Originally posted by: cscs

Lol yes, ab bimar bhi padha toh uske galti hai. Shukar mna jab sona k pav jala tha tab dev ko gaali nahi padhi, vrna dev is like a criminal here n all are crime patrol wale soni.

Originally posted by: restless

i did not like when daughter and dad were discussing about changing Dev.. and training him 😕

Originally posted by: cscs

Very valid points raised in your post. For me the lead characters are flawed and i like them for the same. Yes sona is also flawed but somehow her flaws are not pointed out and other flaws are exaggerated to an extent that even if they sneeze it looks like a crime.