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I watched a small clip of yesterdays show where the sisters, Sona and Dev where enjoying with cake and they freeze when Easwari walks in they wipe out the cakes from their faces, wipe out their smiles and almost stand as if in attention and try to give reasons for their enjoyment.
As a mother that scene was very disturbing to me in a lot of ways. We Mothers and fathers want our children to be happy, laugh and be carefree but the vibe that was got from that scene is that Easwari does not like that and the question is why?
I read lot of genre's of books and poems and read a book called
Will I ever be good enough by Karyl McBride
This book really talks about how an overbearing, insensitive mother can psychologically damage their daughters for life. This book talks about daughters because the context was how daughters grow up sometimes feeling inadequate.
Some excerpts from the book
Daughters of narcissistic mothers learn that maternal love is not unconditional, and that it is given only when they behave in accordance with their mothers' often unreasonable expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters consequently have difficulty overcoming their insecurities and feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, sadness, and emotional emptiness. They may also have a terrible fear of abandonment that leads them to form unhealthy love relationships, as well as a tendency to perfectionism and unrelenting self-criticism, or to self-sabotage and frustration.
I am thinking this was so apt if we substitute Neha and Dev, for this seems to apply as much to Dev as it is to Neha.
In the book it talks about a 3 step program for the daughters to gain back their life
Step 1:. Recognize your own experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on all aspects of your life
Step 2: Discover how you have internalized verbal and nonverbal messages from your mother and how these have translated into over achievement or self-sabotage
Step 3 Construct a personalized program to take control of your life and enhance your sense of self, establishing healthy boundaries with your mother and breaking the legacy of abuse
Sorry if I was bringing in a heavy topic for discussion and not even sure if the intent of the makers is to delve this deep. But Psychology always fascinated me and being a Mother what they are portraying in the show is disturbing to me
Maybe it is time for me to step back a little from this show I am doing it slowly stopped watching, reading only written updates but I am just unable to part with discussions in this forum as I have made great friends here and I keep coming back
Thoughts ?
