Who is at fault,Dev or Sona!? - Page 2

one of the major problems in life is the approach to find faults in others. Why would we even get to this kind of thinking as to someone is at fault, beats me!

this is probably one of the many reasons for failed marriages. What we need to focus on is effort. Sona is making an effort and i would like to believe that even Dev is making an effort. Both may be failing but the intent of making the effort should never be let go.

Dev needs to talk or make the effort to talk - to Ishwari. She has to be told that he is no more single and that he is now a husband too and a husband has certain responsibilities to fulfill. Ishwari knows about it but needs a reminder. I liked how Sona spoke to Ishwari today. it was not a confrontation but a sort of level headedness that was factual and devoid of any accusations or blame.

Yes, Dev has to learn and learn quickly.. he should make every effort to resolve his own inner conflict. Example - the spoiler. If Ishwari made arrangements for his birthday, the least he could do was tell his mom that he has to pick up his wife who is waiting for him. Nothing wrong in that. Instead he sends the driver!!!! Now this is not effort being made.

Originally posted by: WeRockTheWorld

I dont think it matters to her if he does his work or not...what matters is to get dependency on his mother out of his system. Because somewhere she is feeling insecure...She wants him to depend on her...the problem here is Sona has no choice as she is staying at his place.. when things dont go rt , he goes to his mom who solves his problem...please keep in mind he goes to her ONLY for activities like ironing cleaning cupboard etc...his emotional dependency is on Sona which she hasnt realised ...😉😆

Now coming back to Sona, we will soon see her depending on her mom...calling and talking to her because she has started feeling insecure...that is when a girl calls her parents as men are not great when it comes to providing this kind of emotional support...they dont empathise/sympathise much...for them every problem has solution and they will either try and find the solution or avoid it... ...when she frequently starts relying for emotional support on someone other than him , he will start feeling insecure...because he wants her to share all her problems with him...being her husband he wants to find solution for them as well...this will be seen when he gets to know abt her online consultation...😉😆

We are going to have some nice interesting tracks coming up...it will be worth watching...

Exactly!!!

Men dont emote.PERIOD!...they feel every situation is like on/off button...women think of 1000 different possibilities😛😛

Here the fault is with both of them...Sona needs to stand up more for herself...Dev needs to man up and think beyond his mom and himself...

Originally posted by: pkbdas61

one of the major problems in life is the approach to find faults in others. Why would we even get to this kind of thinking as to someone is at fault, beats me!

this is probably one of the many reasons for failed marriages. What we need to focus on is effort. Sona is making an effort and i would like to believe that even Dev is making an effort. Both may be failing but the intent of making the effort should never be let go.

Dev needs to talk or make the effort to talk - to Ishwari. She has to be told that he is no more single and that he is now a husband too and a husband has certain responsibilities to fulfill. Ishwari knows about it but needs a reminder. I liked how Sona spoke to Ishwari today. it was not a confrontation but a sort of level headedness that was factual and devoid of any accusations or blame.

Yes, Dev has to learn and learn quickly.. he should make every effort to resolve his own inner conflict. Example - the spoiler. If Ishwari made arrangements for his birthday, the least he could do was tell his mom that he has to pick up his wife who is waiting for him. Nothing wrong in that. Instead he sends the driver!!!! Now this is not effort being made.

he always does that...tries to fix the current problem that he sees and pushes aside the other things...even when they were at Sona's place...he was so into pacifying Sona, he could have alteast used the Boses landline to call his mom and let her know...and again looks like he is dumping Sona for mom...It should never be like that...Dump one for other...Talk, Communicate not lie to other party...they WILL UNDERSTAND!

Originally posted by: diyah_us

even though sonas intentions r good to make dev little more independent

& not be dependent on his mom so much, I feel her timing is wrong.

they are still in the very initial stages of their marriage. sona knows very well

that dev loves his mom a lot too much I must say. first of all she must try to

get more closer to dev more on emotionally. For that they need to spend lot of time

together which is hardly happening. Usually in love marriages the wife gets upper hand

compared to mom bcos the guy already would have been closer to the girl. But here the

case is different. Even before marriage, they have hardly been together for few months.

So sona should first concentrate on building her relationship with dev rather than trying to

change him. Once their relationship is strong then she can do whatever she wants to do.

Originally posted by: moonkli

Sonakshi should make dev independent of ishwari's manipulations rather than fighting on such petty issues. They don't communicate that's why they have such problems. Dev can afford housekeeper to manage his wardrobe why does he need to do that himself..

Originally posted by: pkbdas61

one of the major problems in life is the approach to find faults in others. Why would we even get to this kind of thinking as to someone is at fault, beats me!


this is probably one of the many reasons for failed marriages. What we need to focus on is effort. Sona is making an effort and i would like to believe that even Dev is making an effort. Both may be failing but the intent of making the effort should never be let go.

I agree with you that finding fault in other is very easy and making effort is really difficult. I wanted to say that if they ended up in this fight its because both made mistakes if they had discussed properly this situation would have not arrived.Both are making efforts and they need to communicate well as its really necessary for making a strong relationship.

Dev needs to talk or make the effort to talk - to Ishwari. She has to be told that he is no more single and that he is now a husband too and a husband has certain responsibilities to fulfill. Ishwari knows about it but needs a reminder. I liked how Sona spoke to Ishwari today. it was not a confrontation but a sort of level headedness that was factual and devoid of any accusations or blame.

Dev shares a "alag" rishta with his mother so I really doubt it happening soon and if at all he tries she pulls him back through emotional manipulation. Dev has been shown dependent on his mother and these habits can not be changed in few days. Sona will also have to give him confidence that now I am your wife, I share this room with you so we will manage our room without taking help from Maa.

Yes, Dev has to learn and learn quickly.. he should make every effort to resolve his own inner conflict. Example - the spoiler. If Ishwari made arrangements for his birthday, the least he could do was tell his mom that he has to pick up his wife who is waiting for him. Nothing wrong in that. Instead he sends the driver!!!! Now this is not effort being made.

Well written balanced post

Originally posted by: AfiChanAC_CA

This is exactlyyy what i have been saying...taali donon hath se bajti hy 🤣 donon ghalat bhi hain, donon sahi bhi hain..yehi toh sara funda hy!!🤣 buss kal k epi jesi bak bak krliya karain thodi ek doosray se, sara maamla set hojaye ga!🤣 Team DevAkshi zindabad! 🤣

Originally posted by: sona_naksh

Well written balanced post

Kal ka dose jo dev ko mila ...m very sure vo handkerchief fold karna to seekha hi jayega ab ..😆