Sharing Responsibility..... Isn't it a team effort??

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Posted: 8 years ago
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While I will never ever forgive Dev for the Asha Maa Aunty issue, I have a slightly different opinion with all the clothes drama.

While independence is important and each person should try and do his/her chores themselves, a little outside help won't hurt.

If Dev is bad at housekeeping skills then Sona is bad in cooking. So much so that when Dev visited her home she couldn't even serve him anything when they were locked inside.

Forget that she couldn't whip up a meal for herself. Dev came and made sandwiches... How making sandwiches is cooking is beyond me.. But Sona couldn't even do that.

One doesn't have to make a 7 course meal but basic survival skills should be present irrespective of gender.

We have seen Dev even cook for his mom as per Sona's chart. But he has never commented on her independence or dependence on her mother/ his mother / kichu bhaiyya.

Before marriage Sona never cooked, didn't she think of sharing her mother's load with a house full of 6 people.

During Neha's wedding Sona felt bad that she cannot cook, we had Dev say I will help you.

People will be ready to call Dev a chauvinist if Dev starts insisting that Sona should take care of cooking.

So now if Dev is not able to manage his clothes why can't Sona come up and say let me help you and slowly you will be able to do it yourself.

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sia.krpkab thumbnail
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Posted: 8 years ago
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I agree. It was strange to see as to why she didn't help him learn. Anyway, the CVs had to show Sona's non-existent flaws, they couldn't come up with anything better. Oh yeah, Bose nutrition is another one. Lol
Nonetheless I want Sona to walk out on Dev. I love her character, beautiful soul she is - not worthy of the insults and hurt.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: sia.krpkab

I agree. It was strange to see as to why she didn't help him learn. Anyway, the CVs had to show Sona's non-existent flaws, they couldn't come up with anything better. Oh yeah, Bose nutrition is another one. Lol

Nonetheless I want Sona to walk out on Dev. I love her character, beautiful soul she is - not worthy of the insults and hurt.


Oh definitely, no one is worth those insults. I am waiting for her to give it back, or talk to Dev how it is hurting her... or better still give a silent treatment to all... But this girl doesn't do anything!! She is too busy upgrading her jhoola. these days...

She would advocate talk... for god's sake talk to your husband..
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Posted: 8 years ago
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All this cupboard n clothes drama started bcoz a day before Ish told Sona how she manages whole house work n cooking n wat not. Sona thought of sharing the load so Ish's work can be reduced. The thing Sona did wrong was not explaining properly to Dev why he has to do his own work..if Dev gets d point that it will reduce Ish's workload n stress he wud do the work without complaining.
n watever it is...big or small issue they can only resolve if they talk abt it with each other without getting angry or leaving the room. Here Dev has to put in extra efforts coz Sona is new in the house n he has to ensure his family members give Sona due love n respect. n Sona has to talk to Dev first before interfering in personal lives of family member like Neha, Vicki, Mami who are not supportive of her.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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brilliant post..Yes i completly blame dev for calling asha as aunty ..I am also mad at him for being super insentitive towards sona when she was showing him the new decorations ..If he dint like it he could hav told her on face..he need not have to do any formality with his wife ..that said and done..I feel sona is at fault too ..if she expects dev to change overnight that will not be possible..everything needs time ..and sona shuld give time to dev too..both need to communicate ..period..
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Completely Agree coz a man who never did any household work in his life how can she expect him to learn everything overnight.She could've helped n y she wanted to train him coz Dev never forced her to learn cooking to help his mom.
And Acc. To me if u love someone,u really want to take all his responsibility happily.
Why is she is training him for??
Edited by Rhy2015 - 8 years ago
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Sona should have managed room and dev's belongings very nicely if she wanted to share ishwari's responsibility and keep dev happy. Dev is a business tycoon he earned so much not to fold,find and manage clothes.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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See its very simple - sona is not asking dev to donlaundry , fold clothes and arrange his own wardrobe..
In the current situation, dev has to be literally spoon fed. He doesnt know where his shirts are his pants are his other stuff with in the closet. Just like he couldnt nit even find the halwa which was right infromt of him in the fridge.

So every morning and evening his mom keeps his the things he will need to wear that day snd he wears only that. One day ishu forgot to keep his night dress and he emptied the whole closet and he was not even looking at the clothes when he was trying to find it.. just like how my 5 yr old does. He takes all the toys out for no reason and makes mess..

Sona is asking to learn how to find things with out making mess. Onviously ehat ever he needs is present in that closet.. But he used to be spoon fed.. Those clothese that dev gave ishwari are the ones that he threw from closet .. Not the ones that cane out of laundry . I am sure kitchu bhayya would be doing laundry iron and bring the clothes to each member.
So this is not a big deal - asking ur husband to know how to take the clothes out with out his mom.. Who will be opening the closet to set it right multiple times in a day ..

Ps: this is equivalent to if you drop something on the floor you pick it.. We dont need to delgate this to others- that is not sharing. Again this is something that my 5 yr okd used to do , he either carelessly or intentionally drop somethibg while sitting at the dinner table and asks us to pick it up .. If we dont he starts whining.. Initially i used to pickit up as he is my raja beta ofcourse ;) but my husbnd stopped me after sometime. He made my son get down and pick it up couple of times ... Now he doesnt drop anything and is careful.. It is a life lesson.. You pick what you drop
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Completely Agree coz a man who never did any household work in his life how can she expect him to learn everything overnight.She could've helped n y she wanted to train him coz Dev never forced her to learn cooking to help his mom.
And Acc. To me if u love someone,u really want to take all his responsibility happily.
Why is she is training him for??[
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What is the bold part suppose to mean?
Take responsibility to fold his clothes, iron them and keep them in the cupboard? She can shave his beard and tie his shoe laces too! That will be true love 😉
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: randommusings

All this cupboard n clothes drama started bcoz a day before Ish told Sona how she manages whole house work n cooking n wat not. Sona thought of sharing the load so Ish's work can be reduced. The thing Sona did wrong was not explaining properly to Dev why he has to do his own work..if Dev gets d point that it will reduce Ish's workload n stress he wud do the work without complaining.

n watever it is...big or small issue they can only resolve if they talk abt it with each other without getting angry or leaving the room. Here Dev has to put in extra efforts coz Sona is new in the house n he has to ensure his family members give Sona due love n respect. n Sona has to talk to Dev first before interfering in personal lives of family member like Neha, Vicki, Mami who are not supportive of her.


I totally agree with you
both Dev and Sona need to communicate
I'm not sure why they lacking that now

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