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Sargesh mehta

@Sargesh

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Posted: 8 years ago

#21

All r saying dev has not changed after separation. But he has changed a lot he is allowing that sarojini market in his room is a big change🤣. Nd trying to do things by himself is also his dedication everything can't be possible overnight.But somethings can't be bearable then better remove it.

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gaurimisha

@gaurimisha

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Posted: 8 years ago

#22

A simple "Jhula" has triggered such a big response. Come on, each to his own choice. Devakshi shud b deciding what suits them best and their room. I don't see why people are reacting just like Ishwari is in the show...if pitying Dev we can say Sona is too much then why ever find fault with Ishwari...after all she is his mother.
End of the story..Dev asked SOna to do all she can to their bedroom, she did it and he did not object as her husband. So, no pitying Dev here or Sona is not too much. Even though husband-wife, no one shud act like "know-it-all", Dev should feel free to share his thoughts with Sona. He needs to understand the relationship changes that comes with marriage. There should be no room for complacency or hesitation of any sorts between a married couple...atleast not on how they decorate their own bedroom.
Its hardly a case of pitying someone or considering someone else insenstitive...both are adults,they both don't deserve it from any of us...also definitely not from ISHWARI!!!

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Jyoti Thakur

@JyotiBThakur

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Posted: 8 years ago

#23

No wonder, i was expecting something like this from you dear. And don't say this post is not for you like you told the other member here. As much as you have the right to share your POV and reply on each and every post in the forum. All of us do have the same right to do so.

And coming to your post. Since day 1, its not about your thoughts on a issue when you make a post, its all about your strong dislike towards SOnakshi and most of us will completely agree to it. Sometimes, try to think beyond the disliking and be a bit reasonable too. BTW, i have never seen you making a post when Sonakshi was right or Ishwari ji was wrong. Anyways its your choice. But it is damn clear by now, that you deeply dislike Sonakshi's character and find everything right about Ishwari ji.

I have a different POV, For me whenever a character is doing something wrong, its wrong no matter if its about Dev, Sona or Ishwari Ji and alomst all the forum members have shared their thoughts keeping aside favoritisim.

And talking about Sona's taste, my dear everyone has a different taste when it comes to their rooms or clothes or anything. If you have a different taste that doesn't make you better than the other person. And talking about love, when you love someone deeply, its not always that you'll understand that person's displeasure towards something, when the same person is showing agreement in whatever you do. Its not a fairytale, its life. You need to convey your displeasure and disagreements through words instead. Its difficult to understand the same every time. Though most of the time Dev and Sonakshi understand eachother's feeling.

And arranging your own clothes is not a crime my darling. Yes he works hard but Sona too is a working lady, she too handle her own wardrobe and all.

Now coming to the main point, i agree Sona is taking a bit faster, if at all Dev need to learn to do his work on his own... She need to give him time. She is definitely making a mistake here It is a slow process and will not happen all of a sudden. And about the jhoola and all we all must agree Dev is not showing his displeasure as he loves Sona immensely and cannot see her hurt. But again, DevAkshi need to learn to communicate. Communication is very necessary between a couple.

Dev is not fine with the changes in their room, they can sit and talk about it as it is getting difficult for him to adjust now. If he'll not talk to her, how'll they find a way out. Dev and Sonakshi's relationship is such that they can talk it out and their conversation always results in finding out the solution. So here i feel communication is the main issue.

This phase can bring a lot of development in DevAkshi relationship, with them understanding the need of communicating and tackling things further. They are still a newly married couple. And these kind of problems will definitely arise, which will make them learn further to strengthen their relationship. Initial disagreements and all happens with every couple i suppose... But they'll get to learn from this.

And your first line about overlooking the real issue... I think you are overlooking many real issues going on in the show... This jhoola and clothes thing can easily be sorted out between the couple, but all the other mess that has been created should be of the major concern.

And i don't think there's anything to pity about for a jhoola or doing your work on your own. These issues can be easily sorted between a couple. The word pity doesn't fit in here with the issue not being that big.

Solely my POV.

Edited by JyotiBThakur - 8 years ago

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stuti

@stuti123

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Posted: 8 years ago

#24

Originally posted by: JyotiBThakur
No wonder, i was expecting something like this from you dear. And don't say this post is not for you like you told the other member here. As much as you have the right to share your POV and reply on each and every post in the forum. All of us do have the same right to do so.

And coming to your post. Since day 1, its not about your thoughts on a issue when you make a post, its all about your strong dislike towards SOnakshi and most of us will completely agree to it. Sometimes, try to think beyond the disliking and be a bit reasonable too. BTW, i have never seen you making a post when Sonakshi was right or Ishwari ji was wrong. Anyways its your choice. But it is damn clear by now, that you deeply dislike Sonakshi's character and find everything right about Ishwari ji.

I have a different POV, For me whenever a character is doing something wrong, its wrong no matter if its about Dev, Sona or Ishwari Ji and alomst all the forum members have shared their thoughts keeping aside favoritisim.

And talking about Sona's taste, my dear everyone has a different taste when it comes to their rooms or clothes or anything. If you have a different taste that doesn't make you better than the other person. And talking about love, when you love someone deeply, its not always that you'll understand that person's displeasure towards something, when the same person is showing agreement in whatever you do. Its not a fairytale, its life. You need to convey your displeasure and disagreements through words instead. Its difficult to understand the same every time. Though most of the time Dev and Sonakshi understand eachother's feeling.

And arranging your own clothes is not a crime my darling. Yes he works hard but Sona too is a working lady, she too handle her own wardrobe and all.

Now coming to the main point, i agree Sona is taking a bit faster, if at all Dev need to learn to do his work on his own... She need to give him time. She is definitely making a mistake here It is a slow process and will not happen all of a sudden. And about the jhoola and all we all must agree Dev is not showing his displeasure as he loves Sona immensely and cannot see her hurt. But again, DevAkshi need to learn to communicate. Communication is very necessary between a couple.

Dev is not fine with the changes in their room, they can sit and talk about it as it is getting difficult for him to adjust now. If he'll not talk to her, how'll they find a way out. Dev and Sonakshi's relationship is such that they can talk it out and their conversation always results in finding out the solution. So here i feel communication is the main issue.

This phase can bring a lot of development in DevAkshi relationship, with them understanding the need of communicating and tackling things further. They are still a newly married couple. And these kind of problems will definitely arise, which will make them learn further to strengthen their relationship. Initial disagreements and all happens with every couple i suppose... But they'll get to learn from this.

And your first line about overlooking the real issue... I think you are overlooking many real issues going on in the show... This jhoola and clothes thing can easily be sorted out between the couple, but all the other mess that has been created should be of the major concern.

And i don't think there's anything to pity about for a jhoola or doing your work on your own. These issues can be easily sorted between a couple. The word pity doesn't fit in here with the issue not being that big.

Solely my POV.

fully agreed Jyoti...communication is what is required the most between devakshi ...my biggest complaint with dev is that if he is unhappy with the changes then he should have told sona on face .than putting up a fake smile ...and Sona also needs to take it slowly ..such changes cannot be brought about over night .it will take time..

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Pehchaan.Kaun

@Pehchaan.Kaun

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Posted: 8 years ago

#25

Originally posted by: ltelidevara

I don't think what Dev told Sonakshi should be taken that way. Promise,breaking all these should be used for much serious issues like Dev breaking his promise and going ahead with the break up and Sona running away with Dev leaving her parents bewildered and Ritwick shocked. She also broke her promise of commitment .

The room is shared by both. So before going ahead with her ideas she should just stop and think about Dev who always enjoyed free space in his room.Any wife will do. I did so and I know many will do.But Sona did it in her own way and caused inconvenience. It is difficult for Dev to adjust but still he is trying to. He is so concerned and caring.

How one makes and takes a promise depends on each individual. We cannot simply pass a judgment that Type A promises should be taken seriously and Type B promises can be broken easily because A has higher priority and seriousness than B, priorities vary from person to person.

For Sona, this swing has been the VERY beginning of her trying to feel a sense of belonging to the Dixit House. She started with the ONLY part of the house where she thinks she has full right on. That is why she merged this issue with the other far more concerning issues that morning. Dev's promises and GKB's taunts are same types - verbal diarrhea, absolutely worthless. Dev made that promise on his own which was the only thin rope which Sonakshi was clinging onto to feel 'accepted' in that house. Now Dev and Ishwari have successfully managed to again wipe her feelings of existence out of that house. 👏

The swing and clothes are just metaphors. What is coming out of these tracks are the below which are damn disturbing -

1. A grown up married man of 29 yrs old gives his pile of clothes to his mother to arrange - his undies might be there, let's not go into more details.

2. A grown up man refuses to do his own chores, yes, he is strained and definitely can refuse to do that work, however, did he appreciate the thought that this is a good thing ? Making someone independent is ALWAYS a good thing. He loves the independent Sona and said those big words right i.e. you make me want to be a better person blah blah. Did he really mean it ? I cannot see that yet.

3. Above 2 points are on clothes. Now about the swing - Sona is willingly doing everything (things which she likes, which she dislikes, which she never did in her life before) for the sake of marriage. What did Dev do so far something which he never did before and which he did ONLY for Sonakshi even though he doesnt believe in it ? In case I am forgetting something, please remind me 😕. Last I remember he followed Sonakshi's advise for his mother and sat in the Puja which gave him immense satisfaction. What did he do for Sonakshi after marriage ? Honestly I cannot recall.

4. He has seen his mother ignoring Sona in the dining table. He knows in his heart that his mother didn't approve of Sonakshi yet. Still he goes shares his displeasure about the swing to his MOTHER, and cannot share the same with Sonakshi even though being asked about it. I did not get why that needs to be shared with his mother ? To have Ishwari dislike Sona MORE ? 😕

5. There are some private talks between husband-wife. Will Dev share each and everything with his mother like he is doing today ? 😕 This is really alarming that Dev and Sona have NOTHING personal in that house. How suffocating that might be for Sonakshi who is new to this environment. 😕

I didn't even bring up the Asha-Maa topic. Dev needs to work on his characterization HUGE HUGE times. Till then the show itself has lost lots of viewership as you can see in the forum. In the name of uniqueness, they are showing a very disturbing psychotic mother-son relationships which regular audience might not be able to fathom for a long time. Hope it improves.

Sona has some flaws, but they are SO SO tiny in front of Dev that it comes under the negligible bucket as of now. Relativity theory you see. 😕

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ltelidevara

@ltelidevara

Sparkler

+ 8

Posted: 8 years ago

#26

@ Jyothi BS Tagore

It is completely my wish whether I like a ch. or not. If I dislike Sona that is my option. I don't need to give explanation why I do so.

If I chose to post something it is again my choice. I am free to talk on anything on anyone. India Forum welcomes all kinds of discussions and posts.

Just like the whole forum finds Iswari wrong and Sona Mahan I find Iswari not wrong and Sona do things that I find wrong.

Jhoola and cloths issue to me is important because it effects daily routine.

Since the begining I never found your arguments convincing That is why I never commented on your much positive posts. Similarly you never find my posts relevant.

It's ok. Every one is a master of his or her own will.

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ltelidevara

@ltelidevara

Sparkler

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Posted: 8 years ago

#27

@ Pehchana Kaun.

Whatever you said on this issue may be right in your point of view. But I beg to differ.

There is a vast difference in looking at things that is why our views differ.

To me my mother in law managing my husband's wardrobe when I leave for work is so common and acceptable. It is a crime for you it seems.

So I did not find Dev at fault when he handed over the clothes to his mother to be arranged in her cupboard. Still Sona is responsible here for driving him to that action . My MIL and me share our work we never asked my husband to do things. And I never consider it as a mark of independence if husband does everything on his own.

To me Sona has too many lapses that are not at all glorified I don't know why.

Dev is far better a person any day.

There lies our difference in outlook. We can never be on the same page.

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rahulvats12

@rahulvats12

Dazzler

Posted: 8 years ago

#28

Originally posted by: vibg
disagree. sonakshi's interior decorating taste or her decoration compatibility with dev is hardly an issue here. bigger issue is maa beta duo's treatment of sonakshi. they dont deserve a beautiful, kind, open hearted person like sona in their lives. both are self absorbed and conning Sonkshi into believing that she ispart of dixit clan! she is nothing to either of them. she is just somebody dev needs for the night inhis bed 😡

Ohh...really... He married just for s*****l need...oh...come on

I know dev have done mistake but don't get blind so much

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rnegi

@rnegi

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Posted: 8 years ago

#29

I agree with points made by @penchant kaun. I personally feel that once married, it is the married couple's bedroom and no longer Dev's or Sonia's. Sona should not need Dev's permission to change it and vice verse. Both should cater to each other's wishes and decorate the room. In this case, sona has hardly been made to feel that this is her house and family so for her to indulge in her one wish is perfectly fine. She has changed her whole life for Dev and family so her one jhoola request seems trivial and no body should be questioning that.

Regarding managing their clothes or leaving their wardrobe messy is up to the adults. They have to manage it or do it for each other. Sometimes sona cud sort or sometimes Dev cud. It's an understanding that the couple has to develop and mum in law should step back from their private space.

But less said about people like Dev the better. They have a twisted way of showing love for their mother. Love is not agreeing with everything your mum says but making her understand that he is there for her always. Every human being will adjust if forced to face it. Dev is indulging her to hide his own weakness, typical men, want to run away from difficult situations.

I think sona has to stand up for her rights and view point. No need for separation, silent treatment will work well as well.

Edited by rnegi - 8 years ago

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vibg

@vibg

Rocker

Posted: 8 years ago

#30

Originally posted by: ltelidevara

@Bold... is Dev talking?.. no. did he once say to her.. let's do this. let's do that.. as usual, his baDi baDi baatein! he gave her full reign to change to do whatever she wants. childlike excitement she did and believing Dev.. stupid her! hasn't she learned anything. Dev's words and promises mean zilch

He is scared of her running to her maika?? i think you are mistaken. she doesnt' take her problems to mummy & papa.. it's dev who is emotionally & otherwise immature and runs to mummy ki godi with problems.

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