Selfish!!! EDITED: Today's Thoughts Page 1 - Page 5

Originally posted by: thedramaqueen

slightly different view point. I think today sona and dev are acting silly now. I can see what 's going to happen. Dear mother in law will give a lecture on finding a middle ground

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Originally posted by: .Neela.

Thought provoking as always 👍🏼

I agree with Sabita and the others who have undergone a progressive change in relationship with their MILs. Good for you and definitely happy for you.

As a woman, when a mother wants to give something better to her kids than what she had, why doesn't the same rule apply for a MIL who is also a mother and was a DIL at some stage in her life. MILs like Ishwari are indeed shame to woman kind who can't think that I want to treat my DIL better than how I got treated by my MIL. - Totally agree with you. That's exactly how it should be. You don't have to fall head over heels in love with your daughter-in-law to be compassionate and kind. After all saas bhi kabhi bahu thi. Who will understand her situation better than you?

There is a dialogue by Ishwari (& if I remember it was also a promo) where she's shown to stand in front of the mirror and say to herself - remember Ishwari, your MIL also accepted you into her family. But Ishwari has chosen to be so oblivious of her past that she's just doing exactly opposite of what her MIL did to her. And she tries to convince herself saying that her MIL treated her nicely because she was her MIL's choice not her son's choice 🤢 - Good memory, Neela. Yes, Ishwari actually had a better mother-in-law. On the other hand, her mother was a shitty mother-in-law. Remember Radha was once bad mouthing her mother-in-law being too controlling and Ishwari said, "Bhabhi. Aap mere maa ke baare mein baat kar rahee hain." Like I said, Ishwari takes after her mother, not her mother-in-law.

I am not watching this psychotic progression.

And as I read updates of the Marathi serial (which I don't follow either) I can't stop praising the CVs of this serial - Kahe Diya Pardes. They have shown that the male lead stands firmly by the side of his choice (his newly wedded Marathi girl, he's shown to be a Bihari from Varanasi). He supports her to an extent that tomorrow's promo is - him telling his mother that he's going to leave the house and willing to create a world separately away from his mother where the love of his life doesn't have to suffer the unacceptable treatment by her MIL 👏👏 - That's an excellent story. I also watch a show in Bengali where a poor jewellery maker's daughter gets married to the only son of a rich chain of jewellery store owner. There also the husband stands firm by his wife even though his mother & aunts (uncle's wife & father's sister) do everything they can to insult his wife. If they insult his wife, he stands by his wife and looks at them as if they are directing the insults to him. He doesn't fight or insult anyone, just quietly let them know that if they insult his wife or punish her, he will stand by her in everything.

I didn't expect this kind of a graph from a guy like Dev, but in the least the makers would have made him stick to the decisions (&promises) that he keeps throwing at Sona 🥱 - I expected it from Dev. But I never thought he will hurt Asha since he is touted to have great respect for elders and he doesn't hurt them by telling them to stop insulting his wife. But that only applies to shitty elders in his family and Asha is not his family. How many proof do we need really?

Originally posted by: tia.o

You'd have a valid point if Dev and Sona were in a neutral space. When the space is biased towards one, the same rule is no longer fair.

For example, if Dev and Sona moved out on their own and they both had to give up their comfort zone, then yes, both your and Ishwari's point would have been valid.

But here Dev is giving up nothing.

He is in so much of his comfort zone that he might as well be on his mother's lap while his family is cheering for him with pompoms.

The entire house is his personal domain. Even if he hangs dancing flamingos in the living room, Ishwari would still say absolutely nothing and expect everyone else to adjust.

Yet, he can't give a tiny space to his wife in the only place she has any rights on.

I can't find a better example of selfishness.

He is behaving like that boy in the sandbox who wants the claim the whole box and expects his friend to continue to play with him while standing outside of the box. Sorry, could not find a better example than that.

Originally posted by: Push-pull

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I have wanted Ishwari to silently be affected by the changes and slowly picking up the changes seeing the changes in her son.. And seeing him really happy with Sona.. And wished how Sona brings in her happy self into this gloomy environment.. But no.. Sona is pushed into sorrowful state losing all her happy face.. And not even a single soul is aware of what she's lost in trying to become Mrs. Dixit!! 🥱 And everyone is busy worried about their own space being shared with her.. including Dev!!! Is this how real people behaving out there?! No human courtesy at all anywhere? Everything gets lost the moment humans get some relationship names like husband, wife, DIL, sister-in-law, son-in-law, mother-in-law, father-in-law?!!! Do we really don't know why we get into relationship? Don't we really know that relationship means there is something changing?!

If one is so particular then why bring in another life into this world? As a parent one's life is gonna change... And we give so much importance to blood relations thus not being so flexible in adoption options.. Have we forgotten basic humanity and all about sharing mutual love and affection for fellow human beings?! So stupid of me.. If that's there then world would be a peaceful place to live in with no wars and bloodthirst between humans.. Not big difference within the homes too.. it's just a milder version of lack of humanity.. Parents themselves not allowing kids to share the love.. Is love so scarce?! 😆

Originally posted by: rose4ever

Amazing write up as always Tia.

A 28 year old guy keeping his clothes in his mother's room cos he can't manage his own wardrobe? Mr Nappy pads is his new & apt name!Only thing left was him sucking his thumb while standing in Ishwari's room cos his words and expressions sure matched with that of a baby

Just one doubt-Exactly HOW did he become a business tycoon😕

It was literally like this:

Dev:Mommy mommy,us gandi ladki ne mere cupboard me jagah leli😭Uahh

Ishwari:Aww mera pyaara bacha

Dev:Mommy ye aap rakh lo,achi mommy,pyaari mommy

Ishwari: arre haan haan mera pyaara bacha,la de de muje.Mere chote se 4 yr old se kapde fold karwana chahti hai wo ladki? Chee chee.

Dev:Han mommy.

Ishwari:Mera bachha,main hun na

Dev:Mommy,han bus ap hi to ho

Me:🤢

Dev:I love you like a man loves a woman.You are my family.*

*Terms & Conditions applied

1. My mom is everything for me.I do everything only according to her wishes,commands,orders,feelings.If you accept that gracefully and do the same,I'll keep you happy(my definition of happy should make you happy)

2.You are family only in everyone's absence.

3. You are free to choose and do anything you like that I like.Lucky girl.

4. Your family is not my family.

5.You can't interfere in any matter of my family.Their needs are special and can't be understood by you.

6. I only understand my mother's feelings.Don't expect any understanding,adjustments,changes,help or support from me.If it comes down to my mom and you,mom is always right even if she orders a massacre.And if she is against even the color of your suit,it better disappear from your wardrobe.But But,I'll buy you many new better dresses.Lou baby.

Sona( after reading this): But..

Dev: Tum nahi samjhogi.Mera past😭Meri maa ne struggle...🥱

Sona: But..

Dev:shhhI love you like a man loves a woman.

Epic love storyHain na?

Dev, I also have a prize for you. My wish from the bottom of my heart is to your company shares become the worth of your words and your promises... And we all know how much they are worth!!!

^I so wish this happens.