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This is a tad bit serious post that I am making (after today's light-hearted, warm episode). It is so because I feel a bit overwhelmed with today's incidents and can so relate them to reality.
Our family values and upbringing build our characters. That is why both dev and sona have different outlook. However, how a family 'treats' its individuals truly determine his/her social standing and shaping up one's personality.
Sonakshi is a beautiful soul - so honest, upright and extremely caring and understanding. But her real confidence and sharp instinctive, individualistic character stems from the way her bose family treats her - in an unassuming and open style communicative manner.
This very Sona, was under severe scrutiny and was treated with contempt, which made her gullible and seemingly insecure sometimes. It almost seemed she stopped breathing!
This very same Sona was a tigeress in her own house today and the way she treated/tackled Dev was invincible. They both had worse fights earlier, but she was in such a happy space that even her differences with Dev seemed less problematic.
In sharp contrast to this, Dev is kept on a pedestal by his mother, treating him like a king of the house - not because he is deserving but too always boost his (non-existent) male ego. That is why even when Dev makes wrong decisions, his mother tries to cover up and never really gave a just treatment to him or to his sisters. That's why he lacks righteousness.
In many of our Indian households, this is a common scenario - couples are rather at ease at the girl's maayka versus sasural.
Ishwari and co. never fail to judge Dev and Sona's actions and reactions, have laid numerous unsaid rules for them to abide by, and treat them as sacrificial lambs on several occasions.
In contrast, both Dev and Sona were chirpy love birds, were equals in every respect.
It's not about how indispensable you are to your family, its more yo do with how you are treated by your own loved ones or family, not as a commodity, or provider, or a guest - but as a human who is immensely loved, regardless of your status, rank, relationship or gender.
P. S. I am excited to see if Dev will be able to diagnose the ailment of his dysfunctional family and how he and his wife are treated in ishwari niwas.
Vanshaj
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