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Long back five thousand years ago King Pandu ordered Kunti." Putram Janaya Susroni Dhama Kshatriya tejasa." Kunti I want a son who should be the best. The abode of Kshatriya valour. He should be able to conquer the three worlds."
Even before the birth of Arjun Pandu set a goal for him. He should be the best.
After that Kunti told him he should obey his eldest. Help him be the Chakravarti Samrat.
When Krishna came as an envoy to Hastinapur with peace proposal,Kunti asked him to remind Arjun his duty She has high hopes on him getting back Indraprasth for his brother by fighting the battle.
Our Olympic pride PV Sindhu's mother said in an interview after her great performance." Dream come true for me. I always wanted to see her reach there."
Sania Mirja's father Imran Mirja always said that he genuinely wished to see his daughter Be a Tennis Sensation and the number One Doubles player that she is today.
Great cine stars of our times always aspire to see their sons succeed them and we have many such star families like the Kapurs,Deols,Bhatts etc. Even if the son or daughter is not talented they nourish their desire strongly and train them towards that.Success and failure is another thing but expectations are obvious in every case.
Sunil Gavaskar tried his best for Rohan Gavaskar who eventually failed to make his mark. Esha Deol could not live up to Hemamalini's stature.
Nehru family 's expectations are the result of us being ruled by them for the longest period,Indira,Rajiv,Sonia...
Dhirubhai Ambani certainly groomed Mukesh and Anil to be the successors of his Empire.
Expectations? Yes. Success? Can't say.
My student Rahul hates Maths. He likes commerce." Why did you take MPC then? I questioned him.
" Madam My parents want me to do BTech and settle abroad."
Naumika likes Biology. But she is forced to join MPC. Expectations? Yes.
Parthu wants to be a professional cricketer. But no his parents want him to be an aeronotical Engineer.
Expectations? Yes. What will be their future? Depends on fate.
My friend Mrs Mehta tells me." Lakshmi. I will see to it that my daughter wins the national skating championship."
I tried to point out." But Mrs Mehta your daughter likes to learn dance. That too Kathak. Let her...
Mrs Mehta brushed it off smoothly." She doesn't know anything If she becomes a champion she will get medical seat by discount."
My aunts's daughter told me." Even before our son Rohan is born we decided to make him an IITian.
I wondered.Is it fair to burden him?
She said " You have a daughter only. It is important for us to make Rohan set goals for himself. You know how heavy the pay checques are for IIT toppers.
Kiran the poorest student of my college can't be seen without a book any time. I said." Relax my boy. That much studies will make you stressed up." He told me firmly." My mother works as a cook in Girls hostel. I have to study and earn a lot of money Madam. My mother told me only studies could redeem us of our poverty. So I will do hard work.
Burdened with expectations? Yes.Is there any escape? No. Expectations became like an accessory we wear quite common in all walks of life.
Iswari the illiterate woman worked towards financial stability that can be achieved only if Dev meets with her expectations.Fortunately for her Dev emerged a winner.
Is she greedy? We can't say. We never see her tell Dev you have to earn loads of money.
Yes she did make him understand the need by breaking the waze and asking him to study .
Did she deprive him of his childhood? Yes like all the parents who burden their children with their high expectations she also did the same Like some parent who aspired for excellence in sports for her child,Iswari desparately wanted Dev to be well educated and take them out of their traumatic life effected by poverty.
If she is a sinner to do so all the others who aspire and round the clock toil hard to achieve their goal also are sinners.And it begins with King Pandu who ended up not in hell but in heaven for aspiring and expecting even before Arjun's birth.
Let any one say so but I don't feel so. She is an Indian parent. And she is not an exception.
Discrimination
Why Mytri you are our college topper. Doing MBA is your dream I know. Why are you not continuing with your studies? I asked my college topper.
Mytri did not look depressed.She said." Madam My brother is in plus two. He has to do Engineering. You know my mother can't afford both of us studying further. It's ok. I will write bank exams and get a job." I offered her to recommend her issue with the management who can get her a free seat in their Management institute. But she did not accept. I want a job. That is my priority." She stressed.
Is her mother wrong to sacrifice her further studies for her boy's sake? Can't say.
I was upset but then I also understood Maitri's point.
Is Mytri's mother discriminative? May be yes. May be no.
Iswari chose to educate Dev . She entrusted Neha the responsibility of other two.
After Dev lifted them out of their gloom Iswari must have sighed with relief. She is guilty for Neha. But did she know what kind of way she can show Neha to make a mark for herself? No. An uneducated woman hardly knows of such things. For her the best way is to get Neha married.
She sided with Neha during her first match and also during Ranveer proposal.
Probably she doesn't have the courage to suggest or decide for Neha.
Dev could have guided Neha or enrolled her in correspondence course or in any other skill developing courses. But honestly he is too busy with his life.
Neha needs help and guidance. Hopefully she will get them both.
Bade Achhe Lagte Hain
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