Is Ishwari spoiling her own daughter's life? - Page 2

Aazeen, a very beautiful and thought provoking post as usual.

Neha is one of the characters that pulled me to the show. She suffered more at the hands of her family than the society. Her temper tantrums even in her childhood showed how much she craved attention from her mother. Even though her portrayal shouts out a fickle, money minded and jealous person, she is a very caring and reserved individual who gave the much needed stability and love to her younger sisters preventing them from becoming another Neha. She identifies success and acknowledgement with money and education. Can't blame her for that since it was her family who made her think like that. Even though she did her share of sacrifice to pull the family out of their hard days the acknowledgement was only for Dev and Ishwari. It was really unfair. Her sacrifices were always belittled and more than the lack of education this clearly paved way to the bitterness in her.

Her way to overcome was to lash out at her brother who got more than his share of love and opportunities and to show her mother a mirror to make her realize her unfair treatment. Since it is difficult to hear bitter truths they always took her lashing out as her flaw. Ranveer fell in love with this bitter Neha. She was always upfront with him about her fears. She who never believed in fairy tales and happy ever after, who never thought of herself as a princess worth rescuing by her prince charming, who never thought love will ever find her, fell in love with a person who loved her for her, not for her brother's money or any other material gains. She was appreciated as an individual, a total opposite to what her family did.

She knew that Ranveer valued his self-respect more than anything else. This quality of him she appreciated but his complete lack of enthusiasm for the betterment of his life style was a cause of worry to her. But he accepting the new job and his promises of a better future relieved her fears. The respect and love she got at her in-laws she took for granted. She never realized the acceptance and love she got from her in-laws was because of Ranveer and not because of her status as Dev Dixit's sister. Things started taking a downward spiral when Ranveer gave more importance on being a responsible son than an indulgent husband.

Ishwari believed and instilled this belief in her kids that Dev is indebted to the family for all the sacrifices they have made on his behalf to make him the man he is now. Neha believes it her right to be supported and indulged by her brother. As a man of the family she expects Ranveer to fulfill her dreams same like her mother. She is dependent on either Dev or Ranveer for the fulfillment of her dreams and this is why she is jealous of Sona. Sona is an independent woman and even if she is married to Dev she is not dependent on him.

Neha needs to be able to stand on her own, to feel her self-worth. If she is able to fulfill her dreams on her own she won't be this bitter towards life and will try to move forward in life instead of mopping around. Just like Sona is able to support herself and Dev if Neha is able to do it she will also start loving her life instead of feeling jealous of others.

But Ishwari who herself depends on Dev for support and identity will not be able to enlighten Neha. It is her deep rooted belief and Neha who is still young will be much more receptive to this. Sona can show her the path and being the determined person Neha is she will work it out eventually.

Ishwari not trying to talk to Neha's in-laws and her SIL might be because she knows the problem is with Neha and sending her back is not going to solve the problem. She herself is fighting with her own demons and is too immersed in it to think about her daughter's welfare.

Neha doesn't understand what Sona is going through, her fight for acceptance, self-respect and even the right to spend quality time with her husband because she was given all these at her in-laws place without a fight. She is seeing Sona having all that she wants. She needs to value what she takes for granted to understand Sona's plight.

PS: Sorry for the long comment.