What is more logical???? - Page 3

Originally posted by: sandyaramesh

Neha was shortchanged by Ishwari when she was young. But she had every opportunity to better herself over the last five years since Dev made it in life. All she had to do was ask, And Dev would have laid a golden path for her. Instead, she chose to fill her heart with hatred against her brother and she fed that hatred with more venom and immense care. (That Neha is a straight shooter and she loves her sisters are her biggest strengths)

The only time when Neha forgot to be selfish and not dwell in the venom of her past was when she was in love with Ranveer. And now that she is away from Ranveer and decided that money is more important than love (which once made her feel better and see the world with a more positive outlook),.she is back to being the woman she always was - self-pitying woman.

Neha came back home and she decided to not go back to Ranveer. And since then, all she has done is mop around and bitch and look sad. Everybody at home decided to give her space including IShwari. As long as Dev and Sona's relationship was struggling, IShwari did not even bother to think of ways to mend/fix Neha's relationship (with Ranveer or or otherwise) but now that Dev wants to go on a holiday with Sona...Ishwari is filled with love for Neha and how it is inappropriate for Dev to go on a honeymoon.

This decision of Ishwari has nothing to do with her concern for Neha but about stopping Dev from going on the honeymoon with Sona. She is unable to tolerate Dev getting closer to Sona. Period!

P.S - Neha never ever gave Dev a chance to make any choices for her. To dev, therefore, Neha coming back home to live in Dixit house, meant Neha is back and it wasn't up to him to meddle with her life coz he very well knows that his sister doesn't appreciate it. Therefore, he goes about life the way he usually did. Whether it is right or wrong to go on honeymoon, it is hard to say as this relationship does not fall under normal category.

As far as I know her bitterness was with Ish, because the way she differentiate between the siblings and they clearly show that. Even though whatever Ish did was bc of the halat they were in. But she was too little to understand all that. But when she decided to marry Ranveer and everyone supported her she became happy. Again i met ppl like Neha and cant see how these ppl react when they lack on something how do they react and how they curse there fate.

As far as Ish her character is very difficult to understand, whatever she wants for her daughter she doent want Sona to get it. I m sure when Neha's problem will resolve she might show her the mirror. Currently she is not in the state.

Originally posted by: tia.o

<font color="#9900ff" size="3">The fact that you said that sometimes you have to make compromises in Sasural says the double standard of the society. Because it's quite obvious that here the sacrifice is not on the husband's part since it's his family, not Sasural.</font>

<font color="#9900ff" size="3">Secondly, according to you Ishwari is concerned about Neha. But what has she done for her? Neha came home on 2nd day of Navratri (the same night Dev and Sona visited her family). Did Ishwari took a single step for Neha, cook her favourite food, tried to make her happy or call Ranveer to ask his side of the story?</font>

<font color="#9900ff" size="3">No. All these time she was busy trying to make Dev's favourite food, hover over his married life, try to keep him and Sona apart. So sorry her concern for Neha looks completely fake.</font>

<font color="#9900ff" size="3">Thirdly, if only Neha's happiness was her concern, then just telling Dev to not to create fuss about his honeymoon is more than enough. While they are away, she could concentrate on Neha uninterrupted for 15 days. But all her concern is for how she will stay away from Dev. Every other sentence she speaks is about her being away from Dev. Neha is just a convenient excuse.</font>

<font color="#9900ff" size="3">Fourthly, why should Dev or Sona not choose their own happiness? Did Neha's husband die? No. She willingly got married, she willingly left her husband and out of her own will she doesn't want to go back to Ranveer. Fair enough. No one is forcing her to go back. Then why do they have to pay for her free will with their own happiness? Will Ishwari stop Karwa Chauth because Neha will feel bad? Heck, she didn't even stop celebrating Navratri nor stopped cooking Dev's favourite food for Dusshera. Not once she gave a whit of thought to Neha then.</font>

<font color="#9900ff" size="3">Sorry, Ishwari is selfish and a manipulative woman and neither her nor Dev deserve a woman like Sona or any woman for that matter.</font>

I am never in favor of Ish, her character is very very weird and sometimes creepy but what i was saying is this is not a small thing that ur sister is away from her husband and they did not show a single step from Dev or Sona specially sona being so sensible, except talking to Dev the very first day she did not ask about it.
With Ish she listen to Neha several times but didnt give her any sensible advice as she herself doesnt know how to live in such situation or how it is to be in that situation or u should say how it is like to be poor and how painful is that.

Originally posted by: WeRockTheWorld

I was born and brought up in a joint family ...and got married ( love marraige ) to a nuclear family with just parents and their single child ..their son...so I also undertand how possessive Indian families are when it comes to "sons" .not juts mother even father...so I understand what you are trying to potray...

Dev and Sona avoiding their honeymoon is not going to solve Neha's issues. Its been days since she has come home...not a single person thought of calling her inlaws and trying to understand what the situation was and what happened...one needs to hear both sides...not just your sisters side ...she could also be wrong ...to correct her is your responsibility as a family...in a joint family if a girl comes home this way ...no one is going to wait this long to figure out...

Sona she comes from a completely different culture and family upbringing ...if it was her parents in place of Ishwari they would have asked these two to be a lil subtle abt their excitement and still asked them to go for HM...because to make one child happy you dont destroy other childs happiness..that is not rt...as a parent it is your responsibility to see that all your children are treated equally.

Ishwari , destroyed Neha's childhood for Dev...now she is destroying Dev's adulthood for Neha!! that is NOT the rt way...

The problem is with women like Ishwari, they like their son's more because they feel secured , emotionally , financially etc...Ishwari is not a righteous person...she wants happiness for her daughter then she has to help her find it but not by destroying someone else's daughters dream and life...

Beti ko sab chahte hai, per yeh beti jab bahu ban jathi hain to uske armanon ka gala kot dethe hai...chahe vo Neha ho ya Sona !!

Isnt my statment rt...Ishwari,Dev and Neha wants every thing rt for Neha and thinks what ever Ranveer and his family have done to their Neha is not rt...they are not encouraging Neha to adjust to the new family...but what is Dev and his mom doing to Sona?? They want Sona to adjust and accept them and their family issues...but Neha shouldnt at her in laws place ??!!

That is what we are looking at in KRPKAB!!

PS: I still feel Neha was married to a good family , it is Sona who is at the worst end...I have sincere pity for Sona...and I also blame her to be in this situation...she shouldnt have got married to Dev untill he had come and begged her to do so...

I totally agree with you if show that concern that they want to delay bc of that and family force them to go but planning themselves was little too awkward specially Dev is keep putting Sona's name on eveything which making her image more bahar wali type. I m not saying thwy shouldnt go i m just saying thwy should have show some concerns towards her situation.