What if the past is much darker?

Today's episode pissed me off so much that I decided to not post any analysis and stay away for the sanity of forum and myself. Every scene felt disconnected and sorry I don't even want to talk about Devakshi scenes ( thats the patch up and romance you can come up with CVs? seriously? who stands two inch apart watering plants when you have craved to be in each other arms for 10 freaking days?) .. My only respite is Bose family dinner which made me smile even though Bijoy's sudden sweetness towards Dev was abrupt. Felt like whole episode missed something and I felt terrible. No this post is not to rant about towards episode..so read on😆

Like everytime when am not ok with an episode, will watch earlier episodes to make myself consoled that good days are not over and they are yet to come. Today too the episodes were going on in background while I was deep in my work and after a while Ishwari-Khatri scene came and suddenly something popped and I felt an immediate sense of relief finding a path of light to today's episode. I don't know if CVs are going to take this way or anyone else in forum thought about this but this made some sense to Dev's weird behavior today.

What if Dev's past hold much darker secrets than we all can perceive? What if this is not entirely about poverty at all? What if both Mother and Son holding some darker secrets from each other scared that it might hurt each other? What if Ishwari's insecurity didn't stem just from her husband's demise?

Let me try to put words to my thoughts . While watching Khatri scenes it was obvious he was blackmailing Ishwari about some terrible past which might shake the very foundation of her relationship with Dev. This has to be definitely more than verbal or financial abuse..am dreading something to do with physical and emotional abuse which obviously Ishwari doesn't want her Son to know. There could have been some incident where Ishwari was saved by Dev knowingly / unknowingly and that formed a deep bond with her son because obviously you hold the person who protects your honor more than your life and so does Ishwari. In course of time that gratitute have turned into some unexplainable obsessive insecurity which may explain Ishwari's behavior now !!

Coming to Dev, we have seen him threatening Khatri too to not come near his mother and also during Sona's accident he mentioned an incident of how he became a man from a boy after watching her Mom carrying knife to protect from vicious creatures. All these strongly indicate some physical abuse which is hidden deep inside him. What if Dev knows something which his mother wanted to keep hidden from him? What if he had witnessed his mother's pain when she was crying secretly? Basically Ishwari doesn't know her son knows whatever the secret she thinks which should be hidden!! Also what if Mamaji's helping hand came at that atrocious time and made them forever indebted to him and his family?

This scenario totally explains Dev's extreme protectiveness towards his Mom not letting even an ounce of hurt for her because he knows she has seen the worst and now deserve only best. This also explains Dev's hesitance to disclose his past to Sona even after her multiple tries..who will want to share something about their mother which may tarnish her image?..

Also I feel Dev sees Sona as another Ishwari , another very important woman of his life, who should be protected from all sufferings even if it means keeping a secret from her (infertility report?) but can be taken for granted because of his same possessive love he have for his Mom ( I guess Dev's possessiveness for his Mom have surfaced slightly in today's episode) So basically Sona = Ishwari for Dev except the romantic intentions !!

We can argue why punish Sona for his past? Absolutely correct its totally unfair...but if you ask me, if I had such a terrible past and when even my loved one try to open it, I will build up a even bigger wall in front of me and stay away..until I can completely trust them to open up my secrets. So basically Sona have not earned that trust yet for Dev or atleast he thinks so or not comfortable enough to open up entirely thats bothering him..it sure will take time..but if there is one person he will eventually share about it..that will be definitely Mrs. Sonakshi Bose Dixit 😊!!

Now being in Sona's place, I will be totally confused and sad that Dev hasn't trusted me enough to share his scars ...but I also knew I married a man who himself said many times he is a difficult man to deal with and I also know he loves me deeply. By looking at Sona after marriage, she looks like a girl who is willing to give time to understand this relationship and will be there by Dev's side when he needs her because she equally loves him too to let go of him so easily😳!!

This is strictly my imaginary POV which came up trying to make sense of today's episode😆..so feel free to critic , add, counterpoint but please all in healthy manner😳.

P.S:

Since as you all know I don't make posts on Thurs and Fridays, people who wish to have healthy discussions about the episodes can use this place without any hesitation and I will peep in with comments whenever possible. Thank you @yyy for letting me know the importance of my posts😳 and others who tried to cheer me up after my message in last post. Very very kind and sweet of you all !!🤗

After the massive support to my prev " not so positive post" you guys just reassured my faith in this forum I had initially, that difference of opinions are always welcomed here if pointed reasonably.. Thank you all whole heartedly !!❤️

Originally posted by: deepsel

Today's episode pissed me off so much that I decided to not post any analysis and stay away for the sanity of forum and myself. Every scene felt disconnected and sorry I don't even want to talk about Devakshi scenes ( thats the patch up and romance you can come up with CVs? seriously? who stands two inch apart watering plants when you have craved to be in each other arms for 10 freaking days?) .. My only respite is Bose family dinner which made me smile even though Bijoy's sudden sweetness towards Dev was abrupt. Felt like whole episode missed something and I felt terrible. No this post is not to rant about towards episode..so read on😆

Like everytime when am not ok with an episode, will watch earlier episodes to make myself consoled that good days are not over and they are yet to come. Today too the episodes were going on in background while I was deep in my work and after a while Ishwari-Khatri scene came and suddenly something popped and I felt an immediate sense of relief finding a path of light to today's episode. I don't know if CVs are going to take this way or anyone else in forum thought about this but this made some sense to Dev's weird behavior today.

What if Dev's past hold much darker secrets than we all can perceive? What if this is not entirely about poverty at all? What if both Mother and Son holding some darker secrets from each other scared that it might hurt each other? What if Ishwari's insecurity didn't stem just from her husband's demise?

Let me try to put words to my thoughts . While watching Khatri scenes it was obvious he was blackmailing Ishwari about some terrible past which might shake the very foundation of her relationship with Dev. This has to be definitely more than verbal or financial abuse..am dreading something to do with physical and emotional abuse which obviously Ishwari doesn't want her Son to know. There could have been some incident where Ishwari was saved by Dev knowingly / unknowingly and that formed a deep bond with her son because obviously you hold the person who protects your honor more than your life and so does Ishwari. In course of time that gratitute have turned into some unexplainable obsessive insecurity which may explain Ishwari's behavior now !!

Coming to Dev, we have seen him threatening Khatri too to not come near his mother and also during Sona's accident he mentioned an incident of how he became a man from a boy after watching her Mom carrying knife to protect from vicious creatures. All these strongly indicate some physical abuse which is hidden deep inside him. What if Dev knows something which his mother wanted to keep hidden from him? What if he had witnessed his mother's pain when she was crying secretly? Basically Ishwari doesn't know her son knows whatever the secret she thinks which should be hidden!! Also what if Mamaji's helping hand came at that atrocious time and made them forever indebted to him and his family?

This scenario totally explains Dev's extreme protectiveness towards his Mom not letting even an ounce of hurt for her because he knows she has seen the worst and now deserve only best. This also explains Dev's hesitance to disclose his past to Sona even after her multiple tries..who will want to share something about their mother which may tarnish her image?..

Also I feel Dev sees Sona as another Ishwari , another very important woman of his life, who should be protected from all sufferings even if it means keeping a secret from her (infertility report?) but can be taken for granted because of his same possessive love he have for his Mom ( I guess Dev's possessiveness for his Mom have surfaced slightly in today's episode) So basically Sona = Ishwari for Dev except the romantic intentions !!

We can argue why punish Sona for his past? Absolutely correct its totally unfair...but if you ask me, if I had such a terrible past and when even my loved one try to open it, I will build up a even bigger wall in front of me and stay away..until I can completely trust them to open up my secrets. So basically Sona have not earned that trust yet for Dev or atleast he thinks so or not comfortable enough to open up entirely thats bothering him..it sure will take time..but if there is one person he will eventually share about it..that will be definitely Mrs. Sonakshi Bose Dixit 😊!!

Now being in Sona's place, I will be totally confused and sad that Dev hasn't trusted me enough to share his scars ...but I also knew I married a man who himself said many times he is a difficult man to deal with and I also know he loves me deeply. By looking at Sona after marriage, she looks like a girl who is willing to give time to understand this relationship and will be there by Dev's side when he needs her because she equally loves him too to let go of him so easily😳!!

This is strictly my imaginary POV which came up trying to make sense of today's episode😆..so feel free to critic , add, counterpoint but please all in healthy manner😳.

P.S:

Since as you all know I don't make posts on Thurs and Fridays, people who wish to have healthy discussions about the episodes can use this place without any hesitation and I will peep in with comments whenever possible. Thank you @yyy for letting me know the importance of my posts😳 and others who tried to cheer me up after my message in last post. Very very kind and sweet of you all !!🤗

After the massive support to my prev " not so positive post" you guys just reassured my faith in this forum I had initially, that difference of opinions are always welcomed here if pointed reasonably.. Thank you all whole heartedly !!❤️

Sooo happy to see your post and I absolutely understand where you are coming from. Patchy episode indeed!

I remember watching IPKKND few years ago and the leads not wanting to do basic touchy feel following marriage and that was frustrating for the viewers, as it is very unnatural for a couple to maintain a platonic relationship immediately after marriage.

I understand, they have restrictions on what and what not to show on tele and I am sure the leads express certain restraints but for heavens sake, it is a love story and that means something. So, the makers need to ensure certain authencity while filming. None of us are expecting major physical physical stuff, just believable actions of a newly married couple.

Bose family dinner for me was fine. Sometimes, even if you are not on best of terms with someone in your in-laws family, on a festive occasion, it generally tends to be more cordial. Any problems will be addressed and sorted in subsequent times.

To be honest and not to sound showy at the same time, I have always suspected that Khatri holds the key to the darkest secret in the past. Whether it was molestation/rape attempt/probably attempted murder to protect her virtue/ ...something happened back then. I maybe wrong, hence I never shared my doubt on the forum. And you are absolutely right...it is not entirely about poverty. That night when Dev realises his mother a carries a knife...carries greater significance than already shown.

But I also have a feeling dev doesn't know the entire truth about the past. There is something only Ishwari knows and Dev is in the dark about it.

But D, Ishwari has a deeper set of issues. Her inability to focus on Neha even today after she has returned home and her obsessive need to focus on retaning her position in Dev's life is troubling, even given all the past, IMO.

Ishwari's insecurity and Dev's protectiveness is understandable but the when the lines begin to cross limits, the sanity becomes questionable. And right now, I am questioning CV's about these blurred lines. Why would a mother keep the son away from his bride, after getting them married, just so she could see her son happy. The disconnect between Ishwari's talk about grandchildren prior to marriage and her need to keep them from consummating...the gaps are too wide and too unrealistic for me.

I want Dev to step back for once and remember all the times, he sought Sona for helping him through his problems. I want him to remember that she is capable of understanding and being there for him unconditionally.

They say the show is close to reality...now I am asking...really? Where and how?For heaven's sakes...let the newly married couple behave like the newly married couple coz normal newly married couples can barely keep their hands off each other, despite arguments, Mu's and fights.

Great to see you here Deepa and glad you couldn't stay away 😃

P.S - I also watch old episodes and few VM's to make up for all the negativity in the current times too 🤗

P.P.S - Just came across this on tube ...dialogues from Ae Dil Hai Mushkil...

"In rishton ka rules kya honge?"

"Jo aasani se tut jayenge."

These dialogues are exchanged between twi people who are not looking for a long term commitment because one doesn't believe long term commitment and the other is in love with someone else.

So, why then are the CV's of KRPKAB making Dev and Sona make rules for their marriage that they don't think twice before breaking? Itne aasani se tut gaya woh nah ladne ka rule our sone se pehle makeup karne ka rule 😕