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I totally agree with you guys that Ishwari should not flaunt that her son is like a trained puppy who follows everything his mother says. But like it not, that's the truth. He does follow everything she says.
Anyways, that's my opinion. I of course respect all your opinion as well. Let's see what today brings.
Was that a decent thing to do? Hell no. The fact that Dev automatically falls into everything his mummy says is the very thing I was very vocal against from the get go. He is a mummy's boy and always will be.
But Sona knowingly, with full knowledge is marrying this mummy's boy. When I was protesting against people stating that all men are mummy's boy (I think there was a post on would you marry a man like Dev), I said very strongly that 1. Not all men are mummy's boy and 2. I would never in a million years play a second fiddle in any relationship. I should not have to. Since my husband comes first for me and I am not ranking him against my family, I expect the same from him.
But some people in that post were perfectly okay to marry a mummy's boy. It's not for me to judge whether they are right or wrong. It's their choice and even their parents can't stop them from making their choice let alone a nobody like me.
I am PRO CHOICE every time - Right or wrong. Only you can make your own choice for your own life, but you can't make choices for others. That was my issue with Ishwari, that was my problem with Dev, and that's my complaint against Bijoy.
I understand Bijoy's frustration. He could still try to convince Sona to think again. How's taking his frustration on others help?
His sarcastic remarks would have been right if he was in a restaurant or in a neutral place. But I guess I am off the belief system that when you invite someone into your home, as a host, you have certain responsibility. One of them is being polite even if you don't like them. Bin bulaye mehmaan ko tum kaise bhi treat karo chalega. But invited guests should be treated with courtesy and manners.
The manners Radha showed, didn't Bijoy showed the same?
Again, he could have very politely but sternly replied back to everything Radha said. I am not blaming him for his reply to Radha. That was appropriate.
But his reply to Ishwari was inappropriate, not because she was from groom's family, but she spoke the truth and NOT in a taunt.
So if you can't digest the truth, that's not the speaker's problem, it's yours.
I am sorry Bijoy is in a difficult situation.
I am sorry he is having to watch his daughter is getting into a mad house.
I am sorry that he is feeling helpless to stop the obvious issues his daughter would undoubtedly face in that house.
But it's her choice. Like I said, agar koi khai mei kudna chahe, tum usse samjha sakte ho, rokne ki poori koshish kar sakte ho, lekin jise kud na hai wo to kudega. Tum kitna apne bachho ko protect kar sakte ho?
They have to make their own mistakes and learn from their own mistakes. Aur agar kuch naa bhi sikhe, to tum sikha sakte ho. Lekin galti karne se rok to nehin sakte.
Anyways, that's my opinion. I of course respect all your opinion as well. Let's see what today brings.
Ghum Hai Kisikey Pyaar Meiin
