Sona agreeing to marry Dev in current situation : Suicidal decision..

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dikshat

@dikshat

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+ 2

Posted: 8 years ago

#11

This audio is jst bang on 👏 😆 😆

Awwlelelele... 😆 😆

I found it hilarious but sadly the issue it focuses on is damn serious

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SaloniVats

@SaloniVats

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Posted: 8 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: dikshat
This audio is jst bang on 👏 😆 😆

Awwlelelele... 😆 😆

I found it hilarious but sadly the issue it focuses on is damn serious

@Bold- I was thinking about the same.. How is it that children lose the power to think.. i mean being an individual means you have the capacity to think and sadly here in such cases its not healthy loving devotion..its a Creepy form of unhealthy devotion where the sons brain is instilled with seeing his mother as an actual God with no flaws at all. Unfortunately, he is incapable of seeing his Mother's insecurities , her issues, unable to understand that maybe she needs Help, that maybe she isnt really Godly afterall- she has her flaws and its perfectly natural to be flawed.

Ishwari is not evil or vicious when it comes to Dev - standalone. Her upbringing has made him a successful independent man, he respects women, is well mannered and is sensitive to the needs of others however in the process she has built a psuedo world for her son where only he and she exist and that he should must and forever till his last breath be indebted to her for what she did for him and that nothing and noone can come in between this ..not his sisters, not his relatives, not his friends no one. She has drilled this thought so deep that its not a close mother son relation with loving devotion, rather a tight suffocated mother son bond which has no room for conversations, discussions, sharing and empathy and the only fact that prevails is that I am your God and you cannot ever even dare to think that I maybe wrong. It's not his fault, but his conditioning and the only person who has challenged that conditioning is his new found Love! Bam the Mother is shocked, cannot take it, her world comes crumbling down like a pack of cards!

The son conditioned and nurtured in this manner has no sense of logic or practicality or maturity and is unable to Man Up! He didn't think twice before breaking up, he didnt ever question his mother or have a sane conversation regarding the sleeping pills fiasco(he very well knew the reason which he spitted out while he was drunk), he never Questioned her why she has agreed to Sona all of a sudden, why she needs to be the mediator between them and I am sure with the way things are going he will never Question even- because he has been taught to never Question anything wrt to his mother! HE cannot man UP unless he realizes that his mother is a human and that she needs treatment and he needs to get up and get going. And unfortunately he would not be able to see that on his own and The only person who can gut him out is SOnakshi. Im feeling Sorry for her as she is in for a ride in this mad dysfunctional family!

My heart still wants that somehow in some way Dev gets to understand the deep rooted issues on his own, atleast a teeny weeny bit but looking at things and the pace i don't think that would happen!

PS: The relationship between a son, his mother and his wife, needs a son's touch!!

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gemini54

@gemini54

Voyager

Posted: 8 years ago

#13

For the last couple of my posts all I have been doing is cribbing about the show..now I am tired of it as I know thru the hard way that makers will show what they want to show because they seem to have an audience for it..

The only part I feel sad about is this is the first forum I have been ever a part of..first as a silent reader, then starting writing and in the course met some great writers and like minded people who I loved interacting with this is the part I am going to miss if I don't come to the forum..so even though the show is dead for me I will continue to come and read all your beautiful insights for I cherish them.

Thanks to all of you

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Push-pull

@Push-pull

Sparkler

Posted: 8 years ago

#14

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Dev's BLIND faith towards Ishwari and total disregard or lack of ability to understand Sona

In all this I would only blame Sona if she chooses love blindfolded.. Dare she cribs and cries, complaining anything anything about Ishuuu to Dev😆.. 1. She has to just handle Ishu 😃 by giving back not taking in any of her audacity in the name of ideal bahu

2. Just not cooperate with Dev 😉 whenever he obeys his mom ignoring to see the facts around it..

And the audio was hilarious.. Listening to a live character of Dev...😆🤣 I remembered the post where someone asked whether you will marry a guy like Dev... This audio is a must listen to everyone.. Both men and women... Thanks for sharing it dear... 🤗

Edited by Push-pull - 8 years ago

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Tia.0

@Tia.0

Sparkler

+ 6

Posted: 8 years ago

#15

That's exactly how I feel. Contrary to cliche statements, love is NOT the end all and begin all of any relationship. Every relationship needs four pillars to last long.

1. Definitely Love each other

2. Respect for each other and their relationship

3. Honour each other's hopes and dreams

4. Protect each other's dignity

Without any of these four pillars, a relationship is weak. You can drag it due to familial and societal obligation but can't live it to its full potential.

When it comes to living in a joint family, a man needs to remember that he is asking a woman to leave everything she has known until today including her family, her life, her independence for him while he gets to have his family, his room and his wife without a single sacrifice. That's asking a LOT which we tell our daughters is an absolutely acceptable demand in the name of tradition.

Some people love to live in joint families which is perfectly fine. But that request should come with certain responsibilities.

The responsibilities to make sure that she never regrets her decision to marry him, to make sure she is as honoured and cherished in his family as she was in hers, never ever measure love for her with that of your other relationships (they aren't your life partner, she is; just like your mother raised you, she didn't... They are NOT the same kind of relationships. If you can't choose between your mother and your child, you should not easily choose between your mother and your wife), protect her from all ill treatment even against your own family the way you'll protect your family if she ill treats them and if the situation becomes unbearable, make a new home for her.

She left her family for you so that you won't have to bear the stigma of "Ghar Jamai" (I mean she could have fed you the same excuse you would feed her like my family needs me or who else will take care of them as if her family doesn't need someone to take care of them because she is a girl) so you have to do the same to protect her honour and dignity. And no, it's not too much to ask.

I don't believe in the claim that a man will always love his mother more than his wife. Can a man answer whether he loves his son more than his mother? If he can't, then how can he love one relationship more than other when they are so different from each other? And if he can, then he has no business asking a woman to leave her entire life behind for him only to get shortchanged in love. That's a really bad bargain.

It's like asking someone to gamble their entire life savings to win less than their life savings. Who will bet their life on such a crappy deal?

I think in very logical and very equal sense. Marriage is probably the biggest gamble any man or woman ever participates in since the person you marry is not related to you by blood hence are not obligated to stay with you forever and the only odds that are in your favour is the love you have for each other. As it is you are already working with 50-50 chance of success. Why would you even screw up the favourable odds which is giving you at least 50% success rate? Who bets on that?

And if Sona gives in now without making sure that Dev understands her value, she will make a crappy deal which might cost heavily in future.

Edited by tia.o - 8 years ago

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_Payalj_

@_Payalj_

Voyager

Posted: 8 years ago

#16

I can imagine a scene where Dev locks the door on wedding night and Ishwari comes running, he forgot to give me my medicines. Mama holding back Ishwari somehow requesting her not to disturb them.

Next morning a guilt ridden Dev sitting at Mom's feet and crying how could I have done this. Then promises mummy that he will never lock the door again.

The only person emerging idiotic in this scenario is Sonakshi because she is jumping into this mess with her eyes open

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libran13

@libran13

Explorer

Posted: 8 years ago

#17

I agree with you. After watching the last episode and suddenly seeing the patch up hug photo, it seems very unrealistic for Sona to agree to marriage so soon. But i think there are a few scenes yet to come before all this. One is the patch up between Sona and her father. Secondly, Ishwari calling up Bijoy for asking to meet up and thirdly Ishwari visiting Bose house again to request Sona to marry Dev. The reason for Sona's change in decision could be due to many reasons. One i believe is Bijoy's change in attitude.

Everyone in the Bose house believes that Dev had come to attend the engagement for the sole purpose of breaking it off. But we were shown that his true intentions were to attend it, gift her and wish her the very best and leave. And that was what he had mentioned in that letter. If anyone from the Bose family gets hold of the letter, they might be aware of Dev's true intentions that night. Maybe that could help in a change in attitude in Sona's parents towards Dev.

But I have a feeling we will get to see a slightly changed Sona after the marriage. I don't think she would stand quietly and listen to every nonsense said to her by Ishwari and Mamiji. Even if she may not retort back to them, she will definitely show her hurt and displeasure to Dev from now on which she never used to before. And in short Dev's work is just going to double after marriage by trying to keep his mother and wife happy.

Anyways I trust the CV's to justify this patch up. So far in every twist there has been a logical reasoning for the way each characters behaves the way they do. Some may seem unrealistic (Ishwari's possessiveness) but it is a true fact of life.

There are a lot of mother in laws who are extremely possessive about their sons even after their marriage. They are scared that they would lose their son's affection once a new person comes into their lives. And that causes them to be overdo things which indirectly creates problems between the son and his wife.

And i personally like the pace of this show. I prefer the story to move on rather that being dragged. Some might find the patch up too soon but i feel it is better than watching cry their balls out on screen for months for the same reason.

Edited by libran13 - 8 years ago

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ananya prakash

@Anni_smile

Beginner

Posted: 8 years ago

#18

I agree with each and every word of all of you.. yet I have a humble request for the whole fourum especially for the critics of Dev, sona and Ishwari. . LET THE EPISODE AIR FIRST! how can you judge that what is going to happen based on sbs segments and promos? Please guys, have faith in cvs... They have given us a mature love story for 6 months and they will continue to do so. THE WRITERS ARE NOT IDIOTS. They wrote the scene where the whole boss family is bashing Dev, right? They wrote the scene where Dev becomes typical mama's boy and ignores sona's pov. And they must have watched it again. So they also know that Dev is going the wrong track. This means, they are planning something big and worth watching. Dev is going to redeem himself.

And for godsake, stop making an issue of that pic. That could be dev's dream.. or anything. Is their any confirmation for patch up? Then? The marriage is not happening soon. And Erica herself said that sona won't agree easily. I know the spoilers and sbs segments are agitating. But a little patience won't kill anyone. So, just let the episode air and then give your analysis. I am damn sure it is not going to be the way it seems right now. IF it does.. then I agree with your pov

Edited by Anni_smile - 8 years ago

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libran13

@libran13

Explorer

Posted: 8 years ago

#19

Originally posted by: Anni_smile
I agree with each and every word of all of you.. yet I have a humble request for the whole fourum especially for the critics of Dev, sona and Ishwari. . LET THE EPISODE AIR FIRST! how can you judge that what is going to happen based on sbs segments and promos? Please guys, have faith in cvs... They have given us a mature love story for 6 months and they will continue to do so. THE WRITERS ARE NOT IDIOTS. They wrote the scene where the whole boss family is bashing Dev, right? They wrote the scene where Dev becomes typical mama's boy and ignores sona's pov. And they must have watched it again. So they also know that Dev is going the wrong track. This means, they are planning something big and worth watching. Dev is going to redeem himself.
And for gods ke, stop making an issue if that pic. That could be dev's dream.. or anything. Is their any confirmation for patch up? Then? The marriage is not happening soon. And Erica herself said that sona won't agree easily. I know the spoilers and sbs segments are agitating. But a little patience won't kill anyone. So, just let the episode air and then give your analysis. I am damn sure it is not going to be the way it seems right now. IF it does.. then I agree with your pov

Well said 😊

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Push-pull

@Push-pull

Sparkler

Posted: 8 years ago

#20

Originally posted by: gemini54
For the last couple of my posts all I have been doing is cribbing about the show..now I am tired of it as I know thru the hard way that makers will show what they want to show because they seem to have an audience for it..
The only part I feel sad about is this is the first forum I have been ever a part of..first as a silent reader, then starting writing and in the course met some great writers and like minded people who I loved interacting with this is the part I am going to miss if I don't come to the forum..so even though the show is dead for me I will continue to come and read all your beautiful insights for I cherish them.
Thanks to all of you

🤗 I can understand how you are feeling... This is not my first discussion forum in IF.. have been part few two other show's forums earlier.. was using a different id then.. The first forum I was in was a great experience.. It's like a first love and had found some wonderful people out there.. Very matured sensible people... it was like an extended family virtually ❤️... Then the second forum was interesting with a different set of people.. Very young dynamic extremely varying opinions... Lots of fights, debates and affection shared there as welll.. ❤️ I sure learnt a lot from these forums in terms of people, their personalities, perspectives, opinions, manners, etc... Learnt how to deal with certain situations and how to put myself where and when.. how to give space to other's and not to barge in everywhere😃... lots and lots.. especially for world peace.. 😆

And this forum too growing on me with an attachment.. If not for the forum and many many interesting things and people here, it would have been a bye for me to show long time.. coming to the forum motivates me to watch the episode so that I can have something to share about.. And yes to vent out via spoofs too I need my dose from the episode right.. 😆

Sure you will have your good time going forward with IF... 🤗

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