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Not me, but our very own Sona.
Just saw the episode from yesterday and it was filled with hidden subtle messages... Excellent episode, I must say!!!
First of all, Dev. You really have to fix three things to get Sona.
1. Selective Hearing - Sona didn't say she doesn't want to marry you because she feels your mother didn't accept her wholeheartedly. She said she doesn't want to marry you because you can't take a decision without your mummy. Hear the difference, understand the difference...
The first means that if only your mummy makes a magnanimous visit to her, she will melt like a puddle. The second means you lost that boat when you came after your mummy gave in, not before. It also means that technically Sona, if she says yes, she is better off marrying your mother, not you.
2. Helicopter Parenting - Once you complained to Sona that she complained to her dad who told your mother of your stalking, which she didn't. Ritwik told him. This time, you went running to mummy and she went to fix her son's little problem.
Wooing Sona or convincing her parents isn't her job. It's yours. They expect you to marry Sona, not your mother.
No one gives their daughter to an unreliable groom even if he belongs to the best family in the world. But people often marry a gem of a person even if their family is shitty.
Moral of the lecture: YOU, Dev Dixit, have to be reliable and trustworthy, may be even more so, to make up for a disfunctional family.
Sona on the other hand can be just herself because anyone would like to have her family as in-laws. Heck, some people might even be willing to be ghar-jamai and live with them. They are just that cool, supportive and funny...
3. Get over your Mummy issues - No woman wants to play second fiddle in an exclusive relationship and you and your mother share just that. In your mutual admiration society, you are willing to go any length, stoop to any low to please your mother and vice versa. Even your sister admit that they feel excluded between you two. But neither of you notice.
In fact Neha is more of a mother to Nikki and Riya than your own mother and that should tell you something. When they want to share something, they go to Neha. Not you or your mother and you are blood relations.
And you expect to bring a woman to come and live there with your mother and you where she has no blood relations and no one to talk to. Do you know how it feels to live like an outsider in your own family every single day?
Oh you won't know. But ask your sisters, they would tell you.
How would a wife come to you and share her worries and pain, her hopes and dreams, her thoughts and feelings when you close your eyes, ears and mind every time anyone mentions your mother? When Sona tried to talk to you about your mother, you blew her off as if she is stupid or does not understand anything.
Is this the way you want to treat your wife? And is this the way you want to treat your daughter and son?
Tell me Dev, beyond your good looks and occasional romantic talks, what do you have to offer to an independent girl like Sona who was treated with respect and love in her own family. Why should she leave her family and come live with yours?
Sona - You poor thing. You tried to pass on your messages but neither the son nor the mother got it. Subtlety is honestly beyond these two.
Sona to Dev - Where am I between you, your mother and your happiness?
Dev to Sona - Why can't you consider me when even mummy said yes?
Me: Are you serious? Do you need hearing aid? She is asking where is your consideration for her and you are saying she should consider you because your mother said yes? So if tomorrow mummy said no, should she have her bag packed ready to be dumped? Have you learned nothing from this separation? You are a hopeless case, Dev.
Sona to Ishwari - My parents have taught me right or wrong. I can take my own decisions (unlike your son). The decision to not marry Dev, is mine and they will support me on this.
Ishwari to Sona - Where's your parents?
Me: Women, not everyone is as spineless as your son. Some people, mostly adults, actually make their own decision.
Some Fans - How dare you, Sona? You should have swooned at Dev's good looks. You wanted to marry her. Now you can't change your mind when his mummy said yes in the name of stupid things like self-respect.
Me: When she asked Dev to marry her, he a. hadn't made a promise to move on just after watching her with someone else and broke another promise (you know like when he promised to be by her side forever and broke it) i.e. his promises aren't worth the breath he wastes uttering them. And b. day after her family's insult had not came to propose to her saying his mother said yes, so everything is fine as if her and her family should just rejoice in happiness and forget all the insult and name calling because his saintly mother said yes and he said so.
A woman can tolerate her own insult, pain, trouble. But she can't tolerate the same for the people she loves. Sona tolerated everything from Ishwari and Radha for no fault of her own - insults, taunts, name calling, racist remarks for Dev's actions. But still she loved and understood Dev.
What has Dev done for her family? Nothing.
Did he ever try to bond with any member of her family? Did he make any effort to win them over?
His attitude was Sona said yes. So no need to waste time with Bose family.
What if Sona had done that? What if she treated Ishwari with indifference but respectfully because Dev said yes, so no need to bother with his family?
What if she had given her piece of mind to Radha for her insulting, taunting behaviour? Would Ishwari let Dev accept her? Would Dev still accept her? Heck, in spite of doing everything by the book, she still got dumped for no fault of her own. In fact he didn't even give an explanation as WHY his mother didn't like her nor he asked this question to his mother. Why would she put herself and her family in his mother's mercy again?
Dev needs to prove his worth this time. Ab agnipariksha dene ki bari uski. Yeh Sita na hi koi explanation de gi aur nahi koi agnipariksha degi.
