Dev : Mommy problem or it's just him ? - Page 3

Thanks a lot to everyone for sharing your pov, and here I thought I was the only one who observed that lack of interest in Dev now when he got approval from his mommy..

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Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun

Ok I am really confused after watching the episode 😕 Lots of questions -

Is this a show about Dev and Ishwari's deewaangi for each other and to what extend they can go for each other ? Today the way Ishwari kept repeating to herself that she won't sit in peace until she gets Sona for Dev - was kind of scary ! 😲 Will these Mother-Son duo ever visit a counselor or psychiatrist or not?

Second doubt - Sona's reasons of rejecting Dev.. She is clearly rejecting Dev knowing Baba wont accept it.. But if tomorrow Baba comes and gives her permission from heart, will Sona burry all her worries about Dev's being a Momma's boy and go marry Dev ? I think it's time Sona stops using her parents as her shield to cover her actual reasons and calls a spade a spade.. Dev will never be able to tell Ishwari that Sona calls him Momma's boy, let Sona only do that

And the biggest question - Dev.. This guy is really going down each passing day in my eyes.. I mean today's episode he was not in focus, even then his lack of actions annoyed me so much.. He had 3/4 short scenes where he has just accepted what Sona told him and has started living with it.. Really ?? In 2 weeks if you see Sona laughing and enjoying with another boy, will you again start your stalking, haunting, manipulating, interefering, and nothing till then ? What exactly do you want Dev ? The passiveness is apalling 😕 Don't you really value Sona at all ? From your attitude it really really doesn't show that you're willing to work on cracking the puzzle behind Sona's rejection.. Are you going to sit and let Mommy do it for you? And if not, waiting for Sona coming to your office everytime and you grabbing the opportunity of talking about your marriage and relationship only then ? This guy is one lucky chap, both ladies are willing to get all the insults from the other party just for his happiness... But when Dev perfectly pays it back to Ishwari, he never ever feels the need to pay back to Sona.. A relationship can't go on and on with only 1 of the 2 giving selflessly and relentlessly and the other one happily absorbing all the good things and not giving back anything or even worse, being the reason behind all her pains.. I just hope Dev wakes up and gets inspired from his mother, if not anything, atleast Ishwari's determination is worthappreciating .. Wish Dev had even 1% of that for Sona ..

Dont tell me Dev sitting in fronta his macbook looking at the wall or blank was actually start of his thinking 😕 😆 I will be indeed happy if so though I wanted to hear all the thoughts like they show for others 😆

@BOLD and RED

This is exactly what i am grappling with myself. I am finding this Dev completely confusing me. i am not able to understand what he wants, if at all he wants.. i am grappling with the fact that from an all lost, possessive, drunk lover, he wants to just let Sona go? Why is he even worried that Sona's engagement has broken. Did he not want that? or seriously he wanted all of us to think that he really and genuinely wanted to move on in life... even move, with whom? ( i think we all know who!!!). Or does he want someone like mamaji to tell him all that he spoke to Sona and Ishwari when he was drunk? This swing to the other end of where he is shown to be placid has me dumbfounded.

Huh! i am fully confused, honestly.

Bang on. Seriously i would be really surprised if someone will still support Dev's act.

So m back with my thoughts here..bt its a half hearted rply since M not keeping dat well since 2 days..pardon me for that..

I agree that Dev has fone into that mode where it feels he's totally disinterested..
Well going by how Dev is and how majority guys are in general I can think of a few reasons why he's behaving the way he is.

1. Since the engagement now is over so somewhere he's relaxed that it didnt happen..the last few days wud have been taxing for him both physically and mentally and emotionally he went thru a volcano.
Still not out of the emotional stress of last few days..

2. He Really doesn't know what to do in such situation...and to make it worse he must have thought ..lets not do anything for a while. Somewhere thinking and hoping that situation will improve on its own. Does not realize that it will only make it worse.

3. Putting effort in such matters dsnt come easily to men. They run from complicated matters and hope things to work on their own

4. The background Dev comes from , he's only seen and always thought that if there could b any problem in a persons life it can only b related to money and poverty. So any other problem than money problem is something he's faced for the first time in his life. To categorise the issue as a problem, a problem that needs solution and him to perform some action is new to him. And the fact mentioned in point 1 has somewhere made him think that he can take his sweet time to deal with this.

5. Somewhere he feels that convincing his mother was a task not at all acheivable and now that it has happened, he feels convincing Sonakshi will still be easier. Also adding to this fact is that somehwre He remembers Sonakshi telling him dat she'll come running if he agrees to marry her so now he feels she is annoyed and so watever she's saying is due to the reason of her being upset.

Crux basically is that somewhere Dev knows that Sonakshi is not going anywhere and he'll somehow win her back.
But for Sonakshi and for us its very important how he does that which probably to him he has not thought coz he's like that child who is like I want what I want and I will get it. The journey right now has taken a back seat.

I agree. The problem with Sonakshi is that while she is a strong, independent person, she is also emotional. She is led haywire by her heart.

Ctrl+c ctrl+v ( copy pasted fromantic your other post.. just waNT every critic person having a headache from the 8 year old Dev to read this and relax)

Yes, Dev is flawful character but is practically the way human beings are. A son for who hs grown up with a notion that his mother has sacrificed her life for him and his success. He still doesnt knw mom was only fending for herself in the given situation and instead he is the one who has sacrificed his childhood to fulfil his mom's dreams. This immature and impulsive chap has fallen in love with a girl who is totally a different character, she is very practical, can see and understand situations in much practical and realistic manner. This is journey of imperfect Dev. He at the time of proposal had said " Main bahut kuch seekh gaya hoon air bahut kuch seekhma chahata hoon. U make me want to b a better person". Thats the beauty of Dev's character, our hero is full of flaws but his heart is pure gold. Thats y he deserves our beautiful pure gold (sona). In actual life also even after being rejected by our love, v go back to them when they call us back, if v r still standing there. V don wait from to bum flawless. This is what love is and this is what journey of life is. Sona still loves Dev and no matter how hard she wld try she wont b able to stay away from him

Great post. Thank you for penning down the thoughts that must be in the mind of many in the forum regarding Dev and whole Dev-Sona-Ishwari angle.