It's always refreshing to read posts that hold Sona responsible for her actions! There is much to admire about her character but am equally pleased that the writers have allowed her to have real and important character flaws, something that not many leading ladies are allowed on Indian TV! Usually, the women have to be flawless to expect any respect, and even then, they often don't get it. An imperfect and confused Sona, making terrible decisions -- whom we love nonetheless -- is probably the greatest contribution of this show to our TV culture!
I completely agree with your views on the way Sona treated Ritwick and Dev when she was trying to rush into the engagement. She became selfish in that moment, trying to make her point clear to Dev and her family, blatantly using Ritwick in the process, and being dishonest with everyone about her feelings. I made a post a while back about how Sona's greatest flaw is her pride, which she guards very carefully and is unwilling to compromise. Dev's rejection brought out the worst manifestation of this, where she was willing to put her whole life at stake in order to defend her pride.
And honestly, this isn't a new trait that has come out only in this time of adversity. From the beginning, Sona has hesitated to put her pride on the line, and this has caused her to refrain from major, risk-filled decisions and actions. She couldn't confess her love to Dev, despite having ample opportunity and Dev's friendship on her side. Dev was the one who forgot pride, humiliation, awkwardness and confessed to her decisively as soon as he realised. Only when she knew Dev's feelings did Sona disclose hers.
Similarly, she didn't have to wait for Dev's permission to tell her parents about their relationship, but she did because she knew what her parents' expectations were, and that they wouldn't understand Dev's family complications. Basically, she wanted to present her parents with a perfect relationship with a perfect man... not the "cowardly" Dev who was scared to talk to his mother. Finally, I think (and I know I am in the minority on this) she accepted Dev's decision to break up very quickly, for all the promises she had made. And when Dev was out of the picture, she followed her parents' wishes for the sake of their happiness. If you don't make your own decisions, based on your own wishes, it becomes easier to hold others responsible for your unhappiness.
It's much easier to point out wrongdoing in people who actually take action, rather than those who play it safe. When she impulsively ran to Dev from at engagement... that was fhe first time I saw Sona step out of that safety zone. So while I do see your point from a logical perspective, that Sona shouldn't expect Dev to be something he is not, what I saw in yesterday's episode was a Sona who was finally taking a stand for herself and calling the shots instead of going along with whatever Dev decided, just because she loves him. This is not the same Sona who believed implicitly in fairytales and happy endings; that Sona would have happily rushed into Dev's arms and accepted all his conditions. Now her eyes have been opened to the darker side of human nature, and I'm happy for her! I would love to see a Sona who is more willing to take risks, take charge, and fight for what she wants... no matter whether it pleases her family or not, and no matter whether it involves Dev or not (even we know it does, because fiction! 😉).
Edited by Samanalyse - 8 years ago
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