Originally posted by: aban1
You spoke my mind. Hats off. Neha should go about earning money for her own things. She should have worked before her marriage. But no. In Indian soaps in Indian set ups the girl does not "work" .She should stay home cook clean serve food serve others badiya se chaai banaao etc. These things do not earn money . Not much anyway. Otherwise stay home enjoy the comforts create problems live off parents get spoit etc.
No one ask Neha to stay at home, cook and clean.
Then get married. Marry someone of your whims and fancies. Not very realistic. Do not speak or discuss about how one should live after marraige. Again it is a girl she is only as rich as her husband is. If he is poor so is she. If her sasuraal is without comforts she should go without comforts. And bear it to "adjust" in her sasural. that is considered being a good bahu.
If you love someone you should love that person and not try to change him/her. If you need to change someone then don't love her/him. she knows Ranvir self respect issue, still she does that job things. she knows Ranvir doesn't want to take something from in-laws so she should wait a little so Ranvir can arrange things for her(As ranvir can gift her gold earring for her vhaia's engagement and 10,000 to her sisters in Juta churau rasam then it's shows that he knows her demand and wish). If you can't tolerate middle class life for a single month then don't marry a middle class man.
Again no control over your own finances. You hubby provides for everything. He cannot live without his bhaiyya bhabhi or his mom. But you bade ghar ki beti has to live wihtout your parents or brothers and sisters. and wait for him to provide all the comforts of life at his own pace. Therein lies your khushi. After all how would you show you are not a "spoilt" bade ghar ki beti? only by waking up before your husband. bathing before everyone in the house (in cold water if need be) towel around your head go wake hubby with coffee/tea.(He can drink bed coffee/tea you cannot) And flirt a bit with your husband feel shy. At best he can bring gajra in the evening only for you (that is not bad manners) and put it in your hair (sick) that is your happiness. Not AC or car or a good house even.
So basically forget you parent and relatives just because you love someone. Really? what is the guarantee if someone can leave his house and family for me today will not leave me for someone else in future.
No money to call your own not allowed to work ( how can you be typical bahu if you work? Who will cook clean massage sasumaa's legs? make papads, sweep mop wash etc? If you don't do all these you are considered spoilt rich.
is that Ranvir's family said that to her. No. In fact they are trying to convince Ranvir to shift a new house. Don't you think if some one is thinking about you, you should think about them as well.
As for Sona she makes a good living by giving free advice. She works she earns her own money. She does not give advice to Neha to do the same. She will marry rich and live in comfort.
if you all the time ask you parent to send everything then why living in your sasural. stay in your maika. and make Ranvir gar jamai. isn't that will be more convincing.
But Neha should live poor. After all she made her own "bed" literally so . She should lie on it.
She is not saying Neha should live poor. she is saying live to live what you have and try to make yourself capable to achieve what you want. don't just being a parasite and live in your brother's money.
