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Dev Dixit's focus is always on the present moment; what does he need, what does his family need, materially speaking, in the here and now? This attitude is of course, largely shaped by the circumstances of his upbringing and the emphasis that was placed on financial security. His responsibility is to provide every material comfort at any cost, and he takes it for granted that the women in his household will deal with the consequences. This equation allows Dev to maintain the idea that he is all-powerful and can do anything for his family's happiness. But every so often there comes a moment so overpowering that Dev sees an honest reflection of himself, with all his flaws, and he struggles and fights, without the tools to handle these revelations and channel them positively.
He didn't actually think about what Neha's wedding entailed until he saw the car pulling out of his drive way. Suddenly, he was hit with the realisation that he had lost a precious part of his life, not just in the person of Neha, but in all the unackknowledged time, all the neglected chances that could gone into building a more meaningful relationship between them. He was so caught up in providing her every physical need, that he forgot how much he needed her, as a sister, friend, and fellow struggler, and for the first time he acknowledged Neha's real problem, of being ignored. Shedding all his bluster of being Neha's "protector and provider," Dev had a rare moment of complete clarity on their relationship. It is only in times of extreme vulnerability that we can see the whole truth of our feelings, and were it not for Sona, this momentous realisation would have gone unexpressed, and eventially would have been lost once Dev's ego came to the fore again.
He didn't actually think about what Neha's wedding entailed until he saw the car pulling out of his drive way. Suddenly, he was hit with the realisation that he had lost a precious part of his life, not just in the person of Neha, but in all the unackknowledged time, all the neglected chances that could gone into building a more meaningful relationship between them. He was so caught up in providing her every physical need, that he forgot how much he needed her, as a sister, friend, and fellow struggler, and for the first time he acknowledged Neha's real problem, of being ignored. Shedding all his bluster of being Neha's "protector and provider," Dev had a rare moment of complete clarity on their relationship. It is only in times of extreme vulnerability that we can see the whole truth of our feelings, and were it not for Sona, this momentous realisation would have gone unexpressed, and eventially would have been lost once Dev's ego came to the fore again.
However, thanks to the unburdening of his feelings and a little redirection from Sona, Dev's negative emotions were translated into such a beatiful, positive outcome! Instead of wallowing in guilt and self-loathing about what he couldn't do with Neha, Dev turned his attention to what he could do with the sisters who still live under the same roof: form a real bond, based in love and mutual confidence. The most beautiful part? In doing that, he showed that he truly understood and acknowledged what Neha's presence meant in their family, what she had done all these years, especially for these two younger sisters. In the end, isn't that all Neha ever wanted from him?
