Originally posted by: Samanalyse
Thanks for pointing me in the direction of your post, Maham! This forum is really on fire, and it's getting harder and harder to keep up! Hahaha I swear! 😆
I, of course, loved your entire post (like, what's even new? 😆) but there were a few things that really stood out.
Your observation that Dev is trying to approach love like he approaches business is spot on, and I love the little irony you noticed that in trying to learn all about Sona through social media, he missed the messages of the present-Sona who is really the only one who matters. In many ways, our nadaan Dev was much better at this whole love thing before he realised he was in love! He was so confident in his knowledge of Sona when pitted against Neel, for example, and rightly so - he probably knows more about her than anyone except her own family. Now that he is formally in love, he feels like he should really be deliberate and proactive about it. But like our wise heroine advised, it's better to let these things happen organically instead of forcing their hand. Dev really was better at this love thing before he realized he was in love. Even I was thinking about this the other day, he had been so confident about his knowledge of Sona, I mean that was what helped him catch her lie about Neel too. When he was bothered about Sona having a boyfriend, it wasn't just jealousy. He was also greatly bothered by the fact that he might not know something about Sona, the man practically resented it that she kept such a big thing from him because of how close they were. This change in Dev is interesting though... That particular monologue of his with regard to everything he wanted to know about her was both intense and passionate and I'm not complaining about it all. 😆 I guess what you said is right though... he feels the need to be proactive now that he knows she is his lady-love. Sona is always going to be wiser of the two. I love how he learns such little things from her. Dev has always been a bit messed up as person and in this particular phase of life, when he is experiencing new things, acknowledging his flaws and growing as person, he's going to need that kind of help all the time. Its something I can relate to as well. :)
I really look forward to Sona-Elena-Sourabh moments now! Their camaraderie is so easy and natural and it sets up such a stark contrast between Dev and Sona's families, giving you an idea of why Sona is so much more prepared for a relationship than Dev, despite neither having ever been in one. Sona is surrounded by laughter and happiness in her family, the biggest problem at the moment being that her mother doesn't know what to write her book about! Sourabh and Elena especially have been so supportive of her throughout this phase. It breaks my heart that Dev doesn't have anyone to share his joy with who would just be happy for him and join him in jumping around, no strings attached. The very fact that he didn't go running to Ishwari with the news that he had fallen in love speaks to the complexity of their relationship, despite its innocent facade. Word to this. :)
And that brings us to the central issue... the growing concern of Ishwari's insecurities. But, as I mentioned on Neets' post, the promos seem to hint that the problem is as much Dev's as it is Ishwari's. And I think something that is going to factor in in a major way which we haven't considered is Dev's guilt. For those who have always thought about others, and have been pretty much brainwashed into doing so, thinking about oneself doesn't come that easily. Dev may be floating on cloud nine now, but it's only going to take one untoward result of concentrating on himself to bring him crashing down. Even today, I loved his little flinch when he realised he was more interested in Sona's response than what Ishwari was telling him she told her, and he seemed to quickly refocus. Imagine when he forgets something major that has to do with Ishwari. His guilt is going to be monumental, and I wouldn't be surprised if his reading of Ishwari's disapproval is partly the projection of his own guilt onto her. I love the point you have made here. Guilt is definitely something we didn't account for before and now it definitely seems to be very a plausible factor in the mess to come. I love how this show deals with such core human emotions!
So... this got long and rambly! 😛 Haha, I'm a very lazy reader but when it comes to your responses.. the longer the better. Mutual admiration club remember? 😆
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