Originally posted by: mango.falooda
mili -- the more I think about it, I am able to understand why I cannot relate to this baby track at all. it is because it is totally contrived. it doesn't hit emotionally.
I only respond to dramas where the guy has to deal with all the emotions in a more honest way and that happens often through circumstances beyond his control -- that is certainly more impactful.
so because I am bored, I will share the outline of a one episode drama (so each ep is a different story) I watched years ago in singapore. so ML is a really successful doctor and surgeon. he gets a call that his younger half-brother is in jail for some financial fraud. basically these two have barely spoken in years -- the last time at their father's funeral.
so the father divorced ML's mom and moved on to wife#2 and son#2. ML grew up with grandparents and so naturally has a lot of resentment. he is not even remotely sympathetic to find his brother got involved in some sort of ponzi scheme and is now in jail.
the brother pleads with doctor to take care of his 8 year old daughter and doctor is flaberghasted. he is like, "where is the mom?" and can't even facepalm that the woman had taken off with the money and left. the brother pleads that he has no one else to request and he does not want his daughter to end up in some orphanage.
very reluctantly, doctor agrees to keep her temporarily till the court case is over. it is all a bit of disaster. she is bratty and keeps acting out -- even his regular top-servant lady can barely handle the child and doctor has to pay extra to ensure she doesn't quit. the girl refuses to eat properly and the doctor keeps getting frustrated because he is all about healthy living. to make things worse, the brother is sentenced to 10 years for fraud which means the doctor is stuck with the child. he is not even remotely amused and is close to having meltdown.
the girl then gets hospitalized for gastritis and he is totally embarassed --- he is a doctor himself and the child got sick under his custody. the FL, a fellow doctor and a pediatrician, then sits him down and explains that he needs to put himself in the girl's shoes. all of a sudden, she is thrust with relatives who do not want her, giving her rules she is not used and making her eat food she does not like.
doctor is like he does not want to be her father but he is stuck with her and is not going to allow her to be bratty and unhealthy. FL then tells him that he does not need to be the father. however, flawed, she already has one who loves her but is far away from her due to circumstances. what she needs is a constant father figure which he can provide as an uncle.
so he does not need to change his character -- can be as serious and schedule oriented as he likes -- but he needs to bend a little and think about things from the child's perspective and make room for her so she feels welcome.
the ML really then reflects about his own experience of how his father left and how that made him feel at his grandparents house and he is able to see what his niece might be experience and understand why she was acting out. because she keeps drawing flowers, he will get these cutters to cut carrot in the shape of flowers for her. he cuts himself a few times but manges to do them.
she is asleep in the hospital room and so he just puts the box beside her bed and then falls asleep on the chair next to her bed. when she wakes in the middle of the night, she sees him and then sees the lunch box. she eats the carrots slowly and then goes back to sleep. next morning, he wakes up all groggy and sees kiddo is already awake. he opens the lunch box to show her and is surprised to see she has already eaten. a small smile appears on his face. she then just says, "uncle I am hungry" and he nods and says, "yea, I will get you breakfast" -- the first real conversation they have.
the episode/drama ends there. even though I watched it years ago, I really enjoyed it and liked the story. so I don't think a journey to fatherhood and dealing with past traumas have to be so silly and cringeworthy like they are doing with viaan.
it can be as simple as having a ML do carrot flowers for his niece and finding a piece of himself and also figuring out what fatherhood means. sometimes that is far more memorable for a viewer.
Exactly, Mango. The whole baby track is too contrived to watch. I a😡m not even sure which audience they are catering to. What if somebody doesn’t like babies, this show will totally put them off. Where is the balance? To be a good man, liking babies is zaroori hain kya He has already befriended Aarav, and being a good friend/confidante to him, stoking his self esteem and confidence, yeh kaaphi nahin hain to be a good father and a good partner, if this is what they are trying to get at. If the writers or makers, think that a cooing baby and a cooing Viaan makes women watching this nonsense salivate, they got another thing coming😡 There is absolutely nothing cute about it. I want them to show Reet doing the same things Viaan is doing and tell us it is cute. Somehow, they feel that a guy doing all the parenting stuff is a novelty, he went above and beyond a guy should be doing for a baby and is therefore cute🤬 I may be reading too much into this, but why isn’t Dodo or Phalguni behen rearing a young boy who is in no way related to them, not put at the same level as Viaan cooing after the baby😡
Wow! It is a heartwarming story, Mango😭. That is what happens in real life na, that nobody goes for a brain transplant, but either learn or become fond of babies/children with time and the process is natural. The bond between a father child can be shown beautifully with none of this cheesy, OTT crap. Look at Silsila 1, you will fall in love with that father-child bond when the ML treats the child as more than his own and the child turns to him when she needs comfort from the world and her own mother❤️ Or Humsafar ( I don’t want to give it away for Shalzie ), but the most heartwarming interactions between the child and father where the father gets to know his estranged child with awe, longing and guilt😭 You fall for those characters who have true integrity woven into their fiber.
Yahaan toh, nothing touches your soul. Why the hell is he taking notes on the phone? Does he need to know the theory for an exam? If the writers think that this reflects his sincerity, then, they are nuts😡Too contrived for my liking. All the while, I am thinking, Katha don’t you have a young child at home who is alone?
They are treating Katha’s rejection as a joke, as if she is a small child who doesn’t know what is good for her😡 Everybody seems to be patronizing her, to try out Viaan😡WTH🤢If Viaan ko apne doston ke Saath filter nahin, toh, he should have told them his blackest deeds too, right? His proposal and execution of the ONS🤬 If he thinks that is personal, then how the hell doesn’t he think that Katha’s rejection and thoughts in his matter are as personal for her? And the preaching by everyone including Amrita who just met her, is 🤬
Look at Ehsan, when Katha goes to him to think in her shoes, he still lectures her vouching about Viaan😡She talks about her fear of pushing him over the cliff by stirring up unwanted emotions, and he preaches her about the goodness, integrity of Viaan😡Not sure why they keep saying Viaan hated women. No, he picked on the vibes and judged “some” women prematurely. He didn’t hate Teji, Farah, Jenny, Nivedita and Jeetu bhai’s wife whoever she was and now they tell us he is jigar ka dost with Amrita. He hated both his dad and Seema Dutta, not just women😡
I just want to see all these faces ( Ehsan, Amrita, Dodo, Jeetu Bhai and co……) who vouched for Viaan when they reveal that he proposed and went along with the ONS. I am not saying Katha is not part of it, that is besides the point. Because all these people keep singing praises from the rooftop, I want a gutsy FL to say, I KNOW MORE THAN YOU GUYS’ DO about Viaan😡🤬💔 I know, in my la-la land🐷
Edited by mili9 - 2 years ago
sometimes, it really does feel like random vlogs/diary entries because nothing happens. I am still keeping my fingers crossed that mr pyramid will come back.
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