DOTW #5: Foundation of a Relationship..

I think its high time that she tell robbie everything. One day or the other he is going to know about Divya and Sagar. He is going to be more hurt when he comes 2 knw about it later. It is definitely better to face the truth now than later. Hidding things from a person, lying to that person to hide the truth is never going to help you, as kasturi's mom told her dat sometimes people hide things from otherz coz of fear thnking that this mght hurt a person... But if you are truthful to that person, you hav peace of mind, that person will have peace of mind, and you wont have to lie to him/her every now and then and the trust which is the base of relationships will remain...

NO she should have just told him the truth...yup itz better she tells him the truth now than later cuz then her relationship iz gonna suffer alot...

Originally posted by: smartc

Now coming to the thoughts to ponder this week.. I present to you the following questions..

Do you believe that in a relationship, one should always remain truthful to one's partner and tell him/her everything that goes on in life? Consider this.. Some people may have a past and while they choose to not talk about their past relationships and do not let it impact their current situation, what if their partner comes to know about it and takes it the wrong way? What if the issue of mistrust and withholding info. comes to bite them? Should one come clean about everything before starting a relationship or are there somethings that are better left unsaid? What is the true foundation of any relationship?

Di, the true foundation of a relationship is trust... in one another and perhaps more so in yourself. When we take up any new endeavour at any point in life, there always has to be something that drives you to that point, and then something that maintains you there. People will tell you all kinds of things, some positive and some not so much. It is up to you, as to how you take the situation. And that, requires faith... Trust in yourself. In such a manner, a relationship is another step up the ladder... If you have confidence that you can share your entire life with this one person and feel comfortable... Then you can. If you're in that position, the need to lie may not be present. From there, the trust aspect should build between you and your significant other. Tell them what you want, and they would be comfortable with that, as they would not want to "push you over". Perhaps telling them of life before them is the right thing to do, but it is you who shall decide how much significance that part of life held [in terms of specific events]. If the guilt starts rearing it's head into your life and the past becomes a burden on your today, I would think letting it out is best. Depending on how much "the other" trusts you, it should make little difference {negatively} in your relationship.

Considering the thought above, do you think Kasturi should have continued to lie about her whereabouts these days? She cant see Robbie getting hurt but don't you think she is already hurting Robbie by not telling him the truth? Isn't it better to face the truth now than to repent and do things that will cost you your relationship eventually?

In this regard, I completely agree as to what you're saying. The truth that she is trying to hide is not that big really if you think about it. One day or another, everyone shall eventually find out about Divya and her pregnancy, but when Robbie finds out that Kasturi knew, that would most certainly hurt him more than anything. Considering his fierce persona, Robbie holds blind faith in Kasturi and considers her to be a reflection of himself... an open book. I think the fact that he trusts her so deeply, he will be shattered when the truth unveils. Sure, he will be furious about Divya and her issues, but that he can overcome within a few hours... The kind of pain that Kasturi is causing him by keeping things from him, will leave a more resonating impact.

Ronak is the savor of Kasturi since day 1. Do you think there is a possibility of a Ronak- Kasturi hook-up? I detest the idea personally, have seen it numerous times before.. But a serial must go on.. Do u think that Robbie will misunderstand Kasturi and will step away? Would Devika succeed in her viscious and evil plans? 😡 More so, does Ronak like Kasturi as more than a friend? 😕

Di, I am not willing to digest that possibility either. I kow that it carries high levels of likelihood, but I just hope it doesn't happen... for once. *ahem* You talk about R-K relationship as being more than what it seems for Ronak. Personally, I don't think that is true. Ronak has a past, and that past holds him back from forming such bonds as "love" again... Seeing his relationship with Robbie, he would never do such a thing. Ronak knows Robbie perhaps more than any other character, and saw the inevitable linking between Robbie and Kasturi before anyone else did. He would never get in the way of his best friend. As with Kasturi, he respects her and her love for Robbie. Just seems to me that Robbie is kind of insecure with Robbie as they share such a close relationship. Having Kasturi walk into Robbie's life, I think Ronak has realized that only she has the capacity to handle the former. Hence, he will do anything to keep them together. And I sincerly hope nothing as the triangle love story comes through... but the possibility is high!

While people may seem divided over the question of hiding some secrets from their significant others at times or not, Kasturi hit the nail when she said that "for a relationship to succeed, you need to have trust and understanding". Her mom further stamped this thought by emphasizing over having a truthful relationship that is honest and is full of trust... Do you think that Robbie got jealous for that little moment when he saw Ronak-Kasturi together? Do you think that his outburst was simply a reaction towards the lies these two have been feeding him or was there a hidden fear of losing Kasturi deep down inside? 😊

Kya di... What a way to put it, and my thoughts exactly! I definately think that Robbie is fearful of losing Kasturi. For a man who has for so many years locked his precious heart in the highest towers and finally allowed a wanderer to show him the path to "life", I think he has become really possessive about her. If you watch the part where he beats up those guys when they tease Kasturi, you can clearly tell she means the world to him. If in any way, she drifts away... He will be shattered, and perhaps become like stone. Or so, that's just what I think. Theres no doubt that he trusts both Kasturi and Ronak equally and blindedly, but insecurity is definately an issue considering what he has grown up with [parents]. As for Devika's plans, of course she will succeed... to an extent... but "love will find a way"😉

Predict what next Monady's episode will bring along for us.. What did Robbie see that shocks the living daylights out of him? 😳

Gawd... tough one... I dunno, I kinda think that Ronak and Kasturi got away with it again... Another lie, another burden... another trump card for the evils to use in the future... And in all honesty, I don't think his facial expression radiated much shock...😕

Please post your favorite dialogue and scene of the week in a couple of lines here. 😊😊

Hmmm... will have to think of this one, will get back at'cha... Edit later.




Sana Di, fantastic layout and great thinking/questions... You're amazing!!👏👏

Cheers,

dc

Hi Sanadi!!

Great DOTW! I have the questions here.. will post my answers in the morning. Its 3am here and I cant function anymore😆...

a) Do you believe that in a relationship, one should always remain truthful to one's partner and tell him/her everything that goes on in life? Consider this.. Some people may have a past and while they choose to not talk about their past relationships and do not let it impact their current situation, what if their partner comes to know about it and takes it the wrong way? What if the issue of mistrust and withholding info. comes to bite them? Should one come clean about everything before starting a relationship or are there somethings that are better left unsaid? What is the true foundation of any relationship?

I believe that trust and communication are very important in a relationship. If those two arent there, then the relationship is faulty. I think that a person should know of their partners past. If they hear of it from another source, the trust is gone!

b) Considering the thought above, do you think Kasturi should have continued to lie about her whereabouts these days? She cant see Robbie getting hurt but don't you think she is already hurting Robbie by not telling him the truth? Isn't it better to face the truth now than to repent and do things that will cost you your relationship eventually?

She shouldnt lie/hide the truth no matter what. Yeah Robbie is going to get mad, feel bad. But if he finds it out from some one else... aka ...Pooja/Nikhil/Alka Chachi. Thats going to be a bigger blow to him. As he trusts Kasturi and Raunak more than he trusts his own family. And ummm, I hate to break it to Kasturi, but pregnancy is something that one cant hide. It'll show sometime. So the best thing would be to tell Robbie everything.. and FAST!

c) Ronak is the savor of Kasturi since day 1. Do you think there is a possibility of a Ronak- Kasturi hook-up? I detest the idea personally, have seen it numerous times before.. But a serial must go on.. Do u think that Robbie will misunderstand Kasturi and will step away? Would Devika succeed in her viscious and evil plans? More so, does Ronak like Kasturi as more than a friend?

NOOOOOO, I dont want that Sanadi. I want it like what SBS said, RK will get married! I hope Robbie doesnt step away and fights for his love😉. As for Raunak liking Kasturi, it looks like it from his expressions.. but I hope not.. crossing fingers and toes that its not a R-R-K triangle..🤢🤢

d) While people may seem divided over the question of hiding some secrets from their significant others at times or not, Kasturi hit the nail when she said that "for a relationship to succeed, you need to have trust and understanding". Her mom further stamped this thought by emphasizing over having a truthful relationship that is honest and is full of trust... Do you think that Robbie got jealous for that little moment when he saw Ronak-Kasturi together? Do you think that his outburst was simply a reaction towards the lies these two have been feeding him or was there a hidden fear of losing Kasturi deep down inside?

Of course, in relationships there is insecurity at times. And to see your love with someone else, it does hurt at times. Also, R-K have been going out for awhile too. So the insecurities will be there. I dont think the outburst is of the lies.. its of losing Kasturi. I think Robbie is scared of losing her.

e) Predict what next Monady's episode will bring along for us.. What did Robbie see that shocks the living daylights out of him?

He saw Nothing!😆... A spic and span clean room thats all... Ekta and her team cant show anything like that yet!

f) Please post your favorite dialogue and scene of the week in a couple of lines here.

I loved the scene when he was mad at her, and he told her to walk with him.. it was too funny.. and Kasturi running to catch up with him was too cute!

And the scene when he was driving rash and what he tells her in the car was sooo sweeeeet!

sometimes we lied to the people we love
and dont want to hurt them, this is one thing,
but hiding the very basic things about your past or any other
event, which can
and will effect your relationship is not fair,
lies are not always harmful for the relations
but to a limit and not more beyond that limit.
True foundationof a relation is truth,trust and
honesty.

Originally posted by: Lois_Lane

Do you believe that in a relationship, one should always remain truthful to one's partner and tell him/her everything that goes on in life? Consider this.. Some people may have a past and while they choose to not talk about their past relationships and do not let it impact their current situation, what if their partner comes to know about it and takes it the wrong way? What if the issue of mistrust and withholding info. comes to bite them? Should one come clean about everything before starting a relationship or are there somethings that are better left unsaid? What is the true foundation of any relationship?

i think it's best that your open about your life in your reletionships, the base and the long term sustaining of a reletionship is best set upon trust, to me the true foundation of a reletionship though is understanding. What i mean to say is in a great reletionship even if one party is not completly honest the other side should allways consider why their respective other was not honest, you should not jump into conclusions and try to understand things from the other persons point of view, because people can have many reasons for not being honest but if you are willing to forgive and be understanding about the other person then no one can seperate two such people.

Considering the thought above, do you think Kasturi should have continued to lie about her whereabouts these days? She cant see Robbie getting hurt but don't you think she is already hurting Robbie by not telling him the truth? Isn't it better to face the truth now than to repent and do things that will cost you your relationship eventually?

I guess kastu should tell robbie the truth, i don't think robbie will go crazy if he finds out that his sister is pregnent, specially if his friend and his love explain everything to him nicely and make his understand the sitution, robbie doesn't seem like an unreasonable guy to me, i think given the opportunity he will be even a better help to his sister because who knows sisters better than their brothers. and after looking at the episode when after Raunak told robbie that they went to see a land for his birthday how robbie was so ready to forgive them, i think robbie will be a pretty fogiving guy and Kastu and Raunak are underestimating his character.😊

Ronak is the savor of Kasturi since day 1. Do you think there is a possibility of a Ronak- Kasturi hook-up? I detest the idea personally, have seen it numerous times before.. But a serial must go on.. Do u think that Robbie will misunderstand Kasturi and will step away? Would Devika succeed in her viscious and evil plans? 😡 More so, does Ronak like Kasturi as more than a friend? 😕

i don't think raunak has feelings for our kastu, i think he's love for his friend is refelcted upon kastu as well.maybe Kekta in her devious mind is planning such a horrible possiblilty like what she did in KTH, but i have a feeling that this story is not going to go that way, but knowing Kekta who knows. my idea is that Robbie will be lead to believe that kastu and Raunak is having a reletionship by his dear mama and right on the time of marriage robbie will leave kastu and raunak being forever there for Kastu will marry her out of sympathy. lets wait and see what happens. but for now i do not not not not want to see sweet kastu marrying Raunak(who btw is also very sweet)but rather marry Cuty pie robbie.

While people may seem divided over the question of hiding some secrets from their significant others at times or not, Kasturi hit the nail when she said that "for a relationship to succeed, you need to have trust and understanding". Her mom further stamped this thought by emphasizing over having a truthful relationship that is honest and is full of trust... Do you think that Robbie got jealous for that little moment when he saw Ronak-Kasturi together? Do you think that his outburst was simply a reaction towards the lies these two have been feeding him or was there a hidden fear of losing Kasturi deep down inside? 😊

i think robbie didn't want to lose his love to anybody, maybe he didn't even know it but there was defenitly a hint of jealousy in his mind. that's why he was so angry and also who likes to be lied to right?
Predict what next Monady's episode will bring along for us.. What did Robbie see that shocks the living daylights out of him? 😳

Nothing, i don't think he will find them in the room cause that will bring a premature death to the story line. possibly there will be somone else in that room. hopefully robbie's brother in law is going to get an earfull.


Please post your favorite dialogue and scene of the week in a couple of lines here. 😊😊

Tha total scene when robbie is driving the car like a maniac and the dialog is when he says don't worry kasturi i'm not going to let you die cos if you die i'll die with you Because i love you goddammit👏😳