I was offered a job when I was 3.5months pregnant! - Page 3

Originally posted by: grace4317

Pinot...it is not Pre's or the baby's health that is bothering all of them.

During Pre's first trimester, which is the most dangerous phase nowadays, Pre was made to run long distances, fell flat on her stomach, had to go through the emotional turmoil of loosing her father, got humiliated by her lover which could have led to mental trauma for a long time, was thrown over the wall by Komo, was kidnapped by Ronit....yet none of these so called lovers were bothered about Pre's or baby's health; their only botheration was Pre's self respect & never had a complain about the writers.

In her second trimester, she was shown stopping a pole falling on Anu, was hit on head by Ronit's goons in Swiss, was provoked to go for paragliding, again running long distances on hearing about Anu's accident and above all was subjected almost everyday to psychological pain & trauma induced from her deal marriage.....yet noone had a complaint; even advised her to continue in the marriage which was suffocating her. Then too they were like just go with the flow.

Now in this third semester, she started getting back her happiness by working & her happiness doubles to see Anu near her, she feels butterflies in her stomach, after ages she became old chatterbox Prerna.....then all of a sudden these lovers get reminded of CV's logiclessness & starts complaining of Pre trying to be happy in Anu's presence, nagging CVs to remind her of what Basus did to her & to concentrate on her baby. And the irony & funny thing is that, these were the same people who were justifying Pre trying to move on in the previous track saying Pre can't always live her life thinking of the past & that there is no issue if she is trying to forget her past with Anu. Now all of a sudden they want Pre to remember her past & are finding KZK without logic.

This is what is called 'Hypocrisy at it's best'. These lovers were never bothered about Pre or her baby. The only thing that bothered them is Anu's presence in Pre's life. For them, always it was Pre's selfrespect more important than Pre's happiness or peace of mind. Which as of now looks like not going to happen any soon. And so, we will get to see more rants & frustrations happening with the upcoming episodes.

So much wrong in this post I can’t even begin to write..

Prerna never cared for the child. A mother has such an animalistic instincts to protect her unborn I had not known till I had 2 kids! And I don’t see a shred of it in Prernas behavior...

Prerna shud have moved on from the toxic love she had long ago.. in first trimester she was busy playing Sassy Prerna and no she didn’t want to get back to Anurag she was doing all that to teach him a lesson.. was there any care about the unborn child.. I don’t think so..

Anuraag was busy planning his accident and she ran a marathon the moment she heard his accident.. she fell on road.. did she care about the unborn??? I don’t think so...

I worked till day before my delivery... so yes pregnant woman work and till last day but... and there is a big But... no one will offer a secretary job to 6-7 month pregnant woman...

she is not a scientist/ coder/manager.. just a regular Secretary.. not any exceptional qualifications required... so the logic is not at all there...

about her happiness... you can’t have happiness if u don’t have self love.. and u can’t have self love if u don’t have self respect...

so as a woman I feel pity for Prerna as she is the weakest FL I have seen on ITV...

jindagi Anuraag pe shuru and ussi pe khatam.. this kind of love is called toxic where u loose your individuality...

Originally posted by: _Seera_

So much wrong in this post I can’t even begin to write..

Prerna never cared for the child. A mother has such an animalistic instincts to protect her unborn I had not known till I had 2 kids! And I don’t see a shred of it in Prernas behavior...

Prerna shud have moved on from the toxic love she had long ago.. in first trimester she was busy playing Sassy Prerna and no she didn’t want to get back to Anurag she was doing all that to teach him a lesson.. was there any care about the unborn child.. I don’t think so..

Anuraag was busy planning his accident and she ran a marathon the moment she heard his accident.. she fell on road.. did she care about the unborn??? I don’t think so...

I worked till day before my delivery... so yes pregnant woman work and till last day but... and there is a big But... no one will offer a secretary job to 6-7 month pregnant woman...

she is not a scientist/ coder/manager.. just a regular Secretary.. not any exceptional qualifications required... so the logic is not at all there...

about her happiness... you can’t have happiness if u don’t have self love.. and u can’t have self love if u don’t have self respect...

so as a woman I feel pity for Prerna as she is the weakest FL I have seen on ITV...

jindagi Anuraag pe shuru and ussi pe khatam.. this kind of love is called toxic where u loose your individuality...

Ditto...the only valid and logical point being raised is that no company would hire a woman who is 8 months pregnant.. she will apply for a maternity leave in 15 days ? Then the company will look for a replacement ? What's the point ? If she was working already in the company for sometime, it's a different matter...Yes kzk has always been illogical so this is just another point..the problem comes when makers themselves and the fans try to show that they are sending out a good message by showing a pregnant working woman ! It's no less than a joke when the woman in question never cared for her pregnancy and even now she doesnt...and she never cared to work also, when anurag went missing she could have taken over his office responsibilities too if they wanted to show empowerment.. that time she was moping around in his house making coffee for people who didnt give 2 hoots to her ...7th and 8th month are moderate risk where pre mature pains can occur due to over extertion or any other reason..yes they can work but with ample rest and care...there is her brother sister bhabhi younger brother who are fully capable of working so she can definitely wait for another month to seek happiness ? What could make her happier than becoming a mother?

As for anurag and her together, they are still not together,intact I would like to see them together only so that they move on fro this juvenile "romance" where both haven't moved an inch from feeling giddy at each others touch...forget about having a proper conversation....point to be noted , this is being justified too !!!!!...this is when the girl is carrying that boys child in her womb! She is definitely not working for the sake of her self respect ..lol

Ok. It is SO illogical, SO ILLOGICAL, that I dont even feel like discussing over this level of stupidity. 😆

My 2 cents rants😂😂😂

Any woman can avail maternity leave if she has worked in project for 3 months .. It applies to new joiners as well..even in thier probationary period maternity leave policy applies..

This is as per the latest policy which was discussed in my company.. Where one woman was hired in her 4th month and She was availing maternity leaves & woman hid this fact during HR round.. And there was HR who was questioned on bewakoofi and this is what HR team came in defence and diversity team supported this arguement in name of woman empowerment & employee was benefitted...

Woman empowerment & diversity team is part of every company ...🤗🤗🤗🤗 & the HR team knows to protect their policies...

As per background vetification, there is no need to go for medical checkup 😆if u are hired for normal projects..

But few projects hirees need to go for drug test in their bgv packages as its cleint specific project..

So star & kings is in kolkatta and its normal publication office...

So no one will ask the pregnancy details in their HR round ..as they must be knowing maternity leave policy 😂😂😂

Asking any woman on pregnancy or marriage related questions in their HR round is against policies..

And one more thing we just have 3 rounds of interview 😂😂 2 technial rounds and 1 HR round to hire..

Star & kings is publucation house and the post is for secretary so 1 round was fair enough😂😂😂

Originally posted by: IAdoreYou

Er I don't expect this from you. You have been here for long enough, I guess. These issues have been always brought up and the logic had always been questioned then be it the running instances, falling instances, humiliation instances, paragliding instance (by the way - she has to be a really, really weak and dumb woman if she did it by getting provoked for in that case - she put it over her kid's safety and just to clear - I had said this even back then)

You have addressed people - :them' and wrote the stuff that actually shows your lack of knowledge about the posts, and responses in the forum which I find really awful.

I am sorry but there is no hypocrisy here. A lot of people here have always bothered about her unborn, perhaps a lot more than the woman herself did. So you actually think that people here are insane enough to rant out of a kiddish frustration of seeing Anurag's presence in her life because they don't like it? You have stressed on only quite a lot of times which is even more awful.

Ah the famous self respect issue. I wonder if real happiness can really be found with losing the self respect! Also, it is even more intriguing why and how is it okay to lose to one's self respect in love! Does true love demand one to compromise with one's self respect and if it does, is it worth? Perhaps, for a lot, it is, it seems!

Anyways, my point was - people haven't got issues because of Anurag. People have always had issues and people would continue to have them, with the reasons best known to everyone even if it is denied of the same!

Hi....i am replying to you because you are one of those whom i found have always been neutral as and when required, inspite of having your own favorites in the show.

Coming to your comment to me using the word hypocrisy....i would request you to go through the below thread i had made months before....Except for Pari, none of the frequent members of the forum, neither AnuPreians nor PreRish fans commented on the way the CVs have been playing with a pregnant woman all along. That time, i was really affected that EK was playing with a lot of woman's sentiments who had have a tough pregnancy. But gradually, i accepted that this is just a show & i should just start concentrating on the positive things in the show. So, now when i see how all of a sudden many are having a problem with Pre working in this stage & behaving like a lovestruck teenager and seeing them calling out the CVs, I couldn't control myself in pointing out the double standards. That is it.

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/kasautii-zindagii-kay-2/5105850/ek-and-cvs-it-is-high-time-you-stop-playing-cool-with-a-pregnant-pre

Now coming to the self respect part, I can talk only from my experiences. 20yrs back, if i had given importance to this so-called self respect which seems to be a precious thing to many nowadays, today i would have been finding myself as a lonely, coward woman who choose the easiest way out of the problem. Today when i see my son basking in the happiness of a loving & balanced family and him being content & compassionate, compared to the confused & bitter kids whom we have come across from broken families or from those families where parental fights are common, the respect i have for myself as a mother is beyond words. When today the same person, who at one point of time made me feel that i was a burden to him, makes sure that all my wishes are fulfilled even before i share it with him, the respect i have for myself as a wife cannot be explained. When i see the person who once saw me as the reason for her son's grief, today being the first person to scold/advise him if at all she feels that i am sad or being hurt by him, I feel proud to have proved myself as a good daughter in law. Above all, when i see the happiness in the eyes of my parents and siblings when they are wholeheartedly taken care of by my hubby, tear start rolling down my eyes for being a good daughter & sister to my family. So, today i as an individual am proud & content within myself because i always believed that my self-respect is not something that is dependant on what others, be it my dear ones or an outsider, thinks of me; it rather was a feeling i had for myself and i worked towards it. So today instead of being proud of my individuality on my own, i am proud that i succeded in getting others too feel proud of my individuality and that is what self-respect means to me. And the profound happiness i get from it cannot be explained in simple words.

Above all, i always believe that the success of a marriage or any partnership is not when you grow individually; it is more on how you grow together & are happy together. And my AnuPre is one of those couples who are happy only when they are with each other. The growing together part is where they have failed till now; but i am sure that if EK can keep her ego apart and feel meherbaan to focus on AnuPre as a couple, then we will get their growing together phase too which for sure will be full off bumps & potholes, yet will be beautiful as they are.

Originally posted by: Pinot

So it does happen in real life! I took the job of course, with full disclosure. I live in the US, but my senior boss was an Indian man! So many stereotypes shattered that day, 22 years ago! 👍🏼

This drama is so unreal in so many ways, but sometimes it ends up showing stuff that actually happens in real life.

The way they are portraying it is completely flawed. They have shown Prerna to be incompetent and on top of that they have given a pregnant lady the job of a secretary which entails running around as per the show.

What I feel thinking about baby, behaviour of Prerna as a pregnant women (Running and falling, pain and stresses) and most of cases relevant to pregnancy in society.... Simple thing is that if baby needs to come into this world, even though there are more obstacles, he/she comes out with safety as a well-growth child.

If the baby does not need to come into this world, the miscarriages might be occurred. In some cases, after the birth, they passed away within 2-3 months, as well as younger age.

Originally posted by: grace4317

Hi....i am replying to you because you are one of those whom i found have always been neutral as and when required, inspite of having your own favorites in the show.

Coming to your comment to me using the word hypocrisy....i would request you to go through the below thread i had made months before....Except for Pari, none of the frequent members of the forum, neither AnuPreians nor PreRish fans commented on the way the CVs have been playing with a pregnant woman all along. That time, i was really affected that EK was playing with a lot of woman's sentiments who had have a tough pregnancy. But gradually, i accepted that this is just a show & i should just start concentrating on the positive things in the show. So, now when i see how all of a sudden many are having a problem with Pre working in this stage & behaving like a lovestruck teenager and seeing them calling out the CVs, I couldn't control myself in pointing out the double standards. That is it.

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/kasautii-zindagii-kay-2/5105850/ek-and-cvs-it-is-high-time-you-stop-playing-cool-with-a-pregnant-pre

Now coming to the self respect part, I can talk only from my experiences. 20yrs back, if i had given importance to this so-called self respect which seems to be a precious thing to many nowadays, today i would have been finding myself as a lonely, coward woman who choose the easiest way out of the problem. Today when i see my son basking in the happiness of a loving & balanced family and him being content & compassionate, compared to the confused & bitter kids whom we have come across from broken families or from those families where parental fights are common, the respect i have for myself as a mother is beyond words. When today the same person, who at one point of time made me feel that i was a burden to him, makes sure that all my wishes are fulfilled even before i share it with him, the respect i have for myself as a wife cannot be explained. When i see the person who once saw me as the reason for her son's grief, today being the first person to scold/advise him if at all she feels that i am sad or being hurt by him, I feel proud to have proved myself as a good daughter in law. Above all, when i see the happiness in the eyes of my parents and siblings when they are wholeheartedly taken care of by my hubby, tear start rolling down my eyes for being a good daughter & sister to my family. So, today i as an individual am proud & content within myself because i always believed that my self-respect is not something that is dependant on what others, be it my dear ones or an outsider, thinks of me; it rather was a feeling i had for myself and i worked towards it. So today instead of being proud of my individuality on my own, i am proud that i succeded in getting others too feel proud of my individuality and that is what self-respect means to me. And the profound happiness i get from it cannot be explained in simple words.

Above all, i always believe that the success of a marriage or any partnership is not when you grow individually; it is more on how you grow together & are happy together. And my AnuPre is one of those couples who are happy only when they are with each other. The growing together part is where they have failed till now; but i am sure that if EK can keep her ego apart and feel meherbaan to focus on AnuPre as a couple, then we will get their growing together phase too which for sure will be full off bumps & potholes, yet will be beautiful as they are.

I went through the thread, Grace and I really don't remember coming across it. Had I been, I would have commented undoubtedly but you know, I can't find the threads or instances where this had been brought up multiple times but I can assure you, that it had. It indeed had. A lot of us have actually been raged at CVs and vent it out in a brutual ways how her pregnancy has been played with and how they mocked people and how insensitive that is and how the women can take offense at it. You have to believe me - it has got nothing to do with Anurag or Bajaj or anyone else for that matter. A lot of us have been offended, angry and disappointed with the instances happened after Prerna's pregnancy regardless of any other character and we have time and again put up the same.

I get you and while I would say, it's an individual thing how one thinks of self respect and where it lies on his/her priority list - I strongly believe that mothers - would put it on the last spot if it's about their kids. A lot of women stay in a marriage, even if it's not healthy to them - but for their kids - to give a safe and complete family environment to them and I believe, it's a huge thing, really. Broken families impact kids. There is no doubt about it. I believe, most of the times, women stay in a marriage despite all the issues only for their kids and that is something, only a mother can do.

But also, I would say - it heavily depends on the situations that vary from person to person. I have seen women staying stuck in a marriage - taking all sort of abuses, physical, emotional and everything that is actually not acceptable. Domestic violence isn't acceptable but yet some women bear it all for their kids because their kids are above themselves for them.

In some situations, it would be healthy to part ways. Kids who come from broken families and kids who come from an unhealthy families that hold constant arguments, fights and witnessing the lack of basic human respect their parents have for each other - can have similar amount of trauma.

That's why I always say - it's really different for everyone because the situations vary.

By the way, I am so happy that you are living a content life now regardless of the past. You have been really brave in doing what you did. I truly wish for more and more happiness and love for you, your kids and your family. Bless you all. ❤️

Pregnancy is not a disease that they can't act and behave like any other normal person if the woman is healthy and perfectly fit. If you are fit, its up to the person to do what ever they want just like any other normal person and no doctor is going to prescribe a normal healthy woman to stop working just because she is in her last trimester....I don't think people here even realize how insulting and misogynistic this is sounding.

Ofcoure none of us are stupid enough to think that the CVs are giving us a working Pre to show empowerment of women. But the point is it is still a good message. No one here can deny that so far Pre has been shown to be a totally fit and healthy pregnant lady so there is nothing wrong in her working in the office what ever might happen in future in her pregnancy.

And a show can't run on without the leads having a way to interact with each other. Instead of Pre being shown to reside with Basus, an office track is a hell of a lot better to provide the basis for interaction with Anurag. You might not like Anu or Pre, or their relationship but I'm sure even you have to agree that as long as they are the leads, the show has to have a way to show interaction between them for the story to progress in any way.

People can nit pick as much as they want but sorry, the way Pre and Anu has been characterized before the introduction of Anukom marraige or BajPre is how their main core characters are and that is what they have reverted back to with this track. Because right now is Anupre the characters and Anupre the couple as they were originally shown and what drew us fans to them in the first place. If you have a problem with that, then really you guys are watching the wrong show.

Originally posted by: IAdoreYou

I went through the thread, Grace and I really don't remember coming across it. Had I been, I would have commented undoubtedly but you know, I can't find the threads or instances where this had been brought up multiple times but I can assure you, that it had. It indeed had. A lot of us have actually been raged at CVs and vent it out in a brutual ways how her pregnancy has been played with and how they mocked people and how insensitive that is and how the women can take offense at it. You have to believe me - it has got nothing to do with Anurag or Bajaj or anyone else for that matter. A lot of us have been offended, angry and disappointed with the instances happened after Prerna's pregnancy regardless of any other character and we have time and again put up the same.

I get you and while I would say, it's an individual thing how one thinks of self respect and where it lies on his/her priority list - I strongly believe that mothers - would put it on the last spot if it's about their kids. A lot of women stay in a marriage, even if it's not healthy to them - but for their kids - to give a safe and complete family environment to them and I believe, it's a huge thing, really. Broken families impact kids. There is no doubt about it. I believe, most of the times, women stay in a marriage despite all the issues only for their kids and that is something, only a mother can do.

But also, I would say - it heavily depends on the situations that vary from person to person. I have seen women staying stuck in a marriage - taking all sort of abuses, physical, emotional and everything that is actually not acceptable. Domestic violence isn't acceptable but yet some women bear it all for their kids because their kids are above themselves for them.

In some situations, it would be healthy to part ways. Kids who come from broken families and kids who come from an unhealthy families that hold constant arguments, fights and witnessing the lack of basic human respect their parents have for each other - can have similar amount of trauma.

That's why I always say - it's really different for everyone because the situations vary.

By the way, I am so happy that you are living a content life now regardless of the past. You have been really brave in doing what you did. I truly wish for more and more happiness and love for you, your kids and your family. Bless you all. ❤️

Bold - This is something which i too completely agree with you. I too do not support any type of domestic violence, be it emotional or physical. Especially when it happens on a day to day basis. My thoughts mainly pertain to those who start acting impulsively and walk out of a relationship at the drop of a hat. And in AnuPre's situation, they didn't even get enough time to be with each other. But no, everyone are ready to judge them & reach the conclusion that they are not compatible. This is where my disagreement arises.

Italics - Thank you so much for such a wholehearted wish and for the nice words. God bless you too.❤️