Originally posted by: SheAish
Alright lets see if I can make you see why I wrote what I wrote based on your write up.
For me it came off more as a critique against Anurag and his actions which comes off highly toxic and problematic and thus questioning what is there about him that makes him deserving of Pre.
A lot of us took the deserving part to be irrelevant and only something that is for the individuals involved to decide and thus all the talk of Anurags actions seemed irrelevant to many of us.
If you were looking for people's thinking with regards to toxic masculinity then had you worded in a different way without just pointing out one person's behavior then many would have got the point I feel.
Infact many times many Anupre fans and Pre fans and even Bajaj fans have talked about how Pre has been the most neglected character and everyone here recognized that her actions are made to be just props for either Anu or Bajaj to establish who she belongs to and why. It has never been about her in this marriage.
During Anukom marriage both the girls fighting over Anu had a similar tone to it. IF we look at their clashed Anu was talked about in the same manner. But I can see why that is less of an issue because, he was also given a voice and so although the girls talked in an objectifying manner viewers can see the man himself is not treated as an object by the show itself.
This time around Pre has been totally mute and both the guys are the ones speaking for her and worse she is made to just go along with the flow based on their behaviors only without any indication of what she the person is going through and her views, feelings and grievances is given no voice. She doesn't show any emotion unless badgered by either males.
Generally if you had wanted to highlight on masculine toxicity portrayed, then many would have been more forthcoming. Because that's one aspect that has been talked about many times in Anupre At as well. During the last couple of months many Anupre fans have not indulged in serous discussions outsife the AT because it very quickly gets to Anu vs Bajaj and gets locked down pretty quickly. Only recently have there been a little bit more discussion being done by Anupre fans outside the AT. But still there have been topics made on Pre and how she as a character is used as the crunch as you are saying here in your responses.
If you really look at Pre's situation, the girl who is manipulated to think that the only way to save her fiancee from Jail is to marry a guy (nearly 2 decades older than her) with the intention to make her a primary care taker of a differentially abled preteen kid, then that is the biggest action that has treated Pre as an out and out object with scant regards for her as a person. The girls was literally crying through out all those ceremonies and it was horrible to see a woman in that state being reduced to .In front of that Anu and Bajaj talking about pre like a trophy to be won between them is really mild...Actions always speak louder than words doesn't it.
Nobody is going to argue against the fact that Pre as a woman is highly objectified in this show if we look at her current state so I feel maybe if you had really wanted to focus on Pre's status than highlight just one aspect where Pre is objectified, all of us would have had a better discussion here.
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