Does Anurag Really Deserve Prerna? - Page 8

Originally posted by: Cute_Virgo

Where did I call Anurag hot or justify his actions. I just said who Prerna wants🤔

And yes she decided who she wants and gave RIGHTS, that a woman would, only to him only. Her choice!

Oh but then...

I think I've said everything I had to. So won't be quoting or replying to you if I have to literally repeat the stuff I already mentioned through the thread.

Thank you for your contribution.

OH. ONE LAST THING.

Since MOST people missed it.

The title is really a play on Anurag's own words. Because HE TIME AND AGAIN keeps saying *I DESERVE HER* and as many of you rightly pointed out the statement itself is problematic. So thank you for that.😆

To the topic maker: I freaking love this post, take a bow.

I have nothing to add since your post is 1000% on the mark.

I have SO MANY ISSUES with Pres character and Bajaj too but Anurag’s always gotten a free pass.

Anurags more problematic character traits have been swept under the rug, when they highlight ‘the ideal son persona.

If you watch carefully, he has been overbearing with Pre. His attitude during the Komo track of blow hot and cold, to always keep her on the hook, and let’s not even get to the fact his family has always insulted P and not once he has spoken up.

Here,The day he decided to risk his life to win her back, he made it all about him, not the woman he supposed loves. And now that Bajaj has challenged him and questioned him, all he can think of is how to win the challenge and he’ll do anything to get back HIS love. Including crossing all lines of decency. He doesn’t even care who catches him, so long, he gets to constantly be around Pre like..., I’m sorry, but a housefly.

It’s interesting also that he is constantly telling her, I know you aren’t happy, I know you love me.,, not, HOW are you doing? WHY did you marry.

I think he has given up all aspect of life like work, friends, and has focused all his energies on proving to B, Pre loves him. Once he gets ‘proof’ his next move will likely to pressure P to divorce B.

I always had an issue with the execution of this show, from Ps character development( who doesn’t have a forking life outside of these two men and that child) to the sheer whiplash inducing story telling.

First of all hi

I don't know may be u don't remember me but we have met on some other forum. I really loved the way u expressed in ur posts.

Coming to this topic

I don't think Anurag is treating her as commodity I mean he is pushing her to express what's in her heart and he knows its him.Now coming to his dialogues u r mine I think it's a way expressing ur love . Don't people say my baby or my love .... everywhere there is mine mine mine ....So everyone is everyone s commodity 😆 but that's just a way of expressing ur love.

In real sense if anyone treats prerna as commodity it's bajaj because he knows she loves Anurag he wants to kill him to make his position. He is manipulating to be nice infront of prerna. He is playing mind games. The moment prerna comes to his reality prerna will leave him.

Originally posted by: FleetingWishes.

Bold 1: Anurag and Anurag stans have quite a pattern here.😆

Can you not see the problem in your own reply? Do you not realize how each paragraph all you've said is what HE THINKS. What went wrong with HIM. What he deserves. What he's justifying. HIM. AND HIM. AND HIM.

Bold 2: Okay. Let's say you're right. Let's say Anurag is doing all of this so he can *help her* come out of whatever problem she is. So she can tell him whatever's the problem.

But then as I've pointed out in other discussions. Why gloat to Bajaj? Why tell her how his mom chose 50 girls for him but he chose her. Why tell others Prerna took insults from his mom to get to him but NEVER address the emotional/mental/physical abuse his mother puts her through? He hardly blinks when Mohini blames Prerna nowadays. All he does is cajole her.

Tell me another thing okay. So Bajaj confesses to Anurag. And Anurag WHO IS SOOOOOOOO CONCERNED ABOUT Prerna. What does he do? He further eggs him. Someone for whom Prerna and her safety should be the first priority, shouldn't he be careful with what he's doing? Anurag doesn't know Bajaj will not harm Prerna. So shouldn't his thinking pattern be like: Prerna is in danger. I shouldn't trigger Bajaj because this can somehow indirectly go back to her too. AND I SHOULD DEFINITELY NOT validate myself in front of Bajaj BECAUSE I DON'T NEED TO. Because what transpires btw me and Prerna is btw US. It's personal. I don't have to gloat to him to prove our love. I need to understand why Prerna is stuck in this marriage.

Second point. He is so sure she loves him yet he keeps asking for validation again and again. He's so sure that this marriage isn't normal to the point where he's been a legitimate peeping to make sure yet he demands of her to WALK BACK TO HIM. To come back to him. Wouldn't a person think, if somebody is forced they might not really have a lot of options?

Anurag's priority should be Prerna's mental and physical safety, her comfort, her health.

But those things hardly matter.

And the lines you've mentioned. I'm sorry but each time he's used them to fulfill his own agenda and validate himself later to Bajaj so what does it even matter then?

Most people missed my point. So at the behest of reiterating her, the past week the writers of this show objectified Prerna and used her as a plot point and crutch between Anurag and Bajaj. Not only that, the writing has been extremely male centric, chauvinistic and problematic. And if you cannot see that, we have nothing to talk over.

HERE ARE TWO MEN. WHO THINK THEY KNOW BEST. WHO THINK THEIR WAYS ARE BEST. WHO LITERALLY IGNORE THE FEMALE'S AGENCY AND EMOTIONAL STATE OF MIND BECAUSE *their methods are best* and *they know best*

I just wrote lot of lines and then removed everything cause I don't see any end to this discussion. We are discussing POVs. Yours is different than mine. So let's agree to disagree. But I will highlight two points.

Bold1: No. I don't see a problem there cause I think you missed my point. Obviously I have written about Anurag's perspective cause wasn't that what the question was? Does he deserve her or not and not the other way around? He is expressing what he feels in front of her. And it was in response to a question SHE asked. But with that there are many places where he has urged her to open up about her feelings. Prerna isn't saying a word about how she feels and it's him further. So I don't agree with you on the point that he cares about himself and is self centered.

Bold2: No, I didn't miss your point. In fact I have acknowledged the same in my comment. Not sure if you read that part. The entire track is about the pissing contest between Bajaj and Anurag where Prerna is stuck in between and yes, it's focused on that. And it's not happening from last week, it's happening from 3 months. And trust me, it is irritating that the CVs don't know a better way to handle it.

The same was the case for Anurag at the time of Prerna and Komolika. I remember elaborate scenes where he has hardly said a word. Only difference is, he was getting monologues. Pre isn't getting that much.

Peace out!

Originally posted by: SheAish

I don't know who gets to decide who deserves who as their partner...except for the people involved. IF Pre does not want Anu then Anu does not deserve Pre and vice versa.

On the other hand if who pre wants is bajaj then also its her choice and Bajaj deserves her because its her choice.

But Pre has been reiterating that her body and soul belongs to Anu so I don't consider myself as an authority on whether Anu deserves Pre or Pre deserves Anu. Its their choice. If both wants each other they deserve each other.

If we are talking about actions of both Anu and Pre and then deciding who deserves who then I still don't know how to say their actions prove that either Pre or Anu does not deserve each other.

Pre showed her utter lack of trust when Anu married Komo just after risking his life to save her and he had already done that while he was her friend too in Naveen track. But I also took into consideration as to what she was going through ie her father just died recently, the guy she loves she was looking forward to marry in the very near future dumped you and you find yourselves pregnant at this time too...That's a lot on her plate so I didn't find it too hard to try and see things from her point of view. What stuck me during that track was that Anu's side of grievance was shown through his monologues and actions so we knew he has no intention of abiding by that marriage and hated Komo and still loves Pre.

Again during that track both girls actions and dialogues treated Anu as an object to be won and who has more haq on who and why. All the clashes between Pre and Komo were like that only.. But I guess we as women find it easy to see men being objectified but not women in that sense.

Now coming to Pre marrying Bajaj again Anu showed lack of trust in Pre in so quickly believing that Pre was capable of leaving him just like that at the alter without even informing anyone for no reason. He only started to believe that there must be something wrong with their marriage very recently. Anu was shown at his lowest low and pathetic at this track and suicidal twice now. Love as an emotion is experienced by people differently and here obviously Anu's whole life suddenly was shown to be consumed by his grief and inability to accept his fate. I'm not gonner lie. It was pathetic and he was behaving like an utter fool...BUt but....it doesn't make him any less a human being undeserving of understanding and empathy either IMO.

In this track compared to Anukom track the difference was that Pre has shown no indication of her stand with regards to if she still wants Anu or not for a whole month worth of episodes and only gave us a glimpse of her feeling trapped in one maha episode. Otherwise viewers were left to believe what ever they want with her going around her business as a wife taking care of Kuki and taking care of Bajaj and Family and at the same time showing attitude and anger towards Anu.

Again only a week before she started showing any positive emotion towards Anu after that accident. And then the latter half of this weeks episodes she is shown breaking down and showing she still loves Anu. And during this time she reminded Bajaj why she married him in the first place.

Hence IMO at this stage I really don't see why Anu is undeserving of Pre IF SHE WANTS HIM.

TBH everyone has agreed that the story writing is really pathetic here and a story consists of actions of a bunch of characters. So obviously the characters in that case if we look at it individually without taking into account all the other characters actions that influence each other, it won't be a fair critique in any sense IMO.

The only sane comment on the thread.. thanks...therr are a few others but i dont want to waste my time commenting.

@tm. I see your point and agree with you..anurag has been made like that for the last 3 or 4 months . He has nothing else to say but these few lines...Its objectification or its not..I don't know..but the last 1 week as you pointed out was horrible as he crossed all lines of sanity. However it has nothing to do with who deserves who.

Originally posted by: TakingAStand2

To the topic maker: I freaking love this post, take a bow.

I have nothing to add since your post is 1000% on the mark.

I have SO MANY ISSUES with Pres character and Bajaj too but Anurag’s always gotten a free pass.

Anurags more problematic character traits have been swept under the rug, when they highlight ‘the ideal son persona.

If you watch carefully, he has been overbearing with Pre. His attitude during the Komo track of blow hot and cold, to always keep her on the hook, and let’s not even get to the fact his family has always insulted P and not once he has spoken up.

Here,The day he decided to risk his life to win her back, he made it all about him, not the woman he supposed loves. And now that Bajaj has challenged him and questioned him, all he can think of is how to win the challenge and he’ll do anything to get back HIS love. Including crossing all lines of decency. He doesn’t even care who catches him, so long, he gets to constantly be around Pre like..., I’m sorry, but a housefly.

It’s interesting also that he is constantly telling her, I know you aren’t happy, I know you love me.,, not, HOW are you doing? WHY did you marry.

I think he has given up all aspect of life like work, friends, and has focused all his energies on proving to B, Pre loves him. Once he gets ‘proof’ his next move will likely to pressure P to divorce B.

I always had an issue with the execution of this show, from Ps character development( who doesn’t have a forking life outside of these two men and that child) to the sheer whiplash inducing story telling.

This show is an absolute shitfest. One of Ekta's worst offerings. I can't wait for it to shut shop actually. She deserves a hit to her ego tbh.

Originally posted by: tanvismile

First of all hi

I don't know may be u don't remember me but we have met on some other forum. I really loved the way u expressed in ur posts.

Coming to this topic

I don't think Anurag is treating her as commodity I mean he is pushing her to express what's in her heart and he knows its him.Now coming to his dialogues u r mine I think it's a way expressing ur love . Don't people say my baby or my love .... everywhere there is mine mine mine ....So everyone is everyone s commodity 😆 but that's just a way of expressing ur love.

In real sense if anyone treats prerna as commodity it's bajaj because he knows she loves Anurag he wants to kill him to make his position. He is manipulating to be nice infront of prerna. He is playing mind games. The moment prerna comes to his reality prerna will leave him.

You'll have no objections from my side when you call Bajaj out on his shit. Likewise, Anurag has been treating prerna like a possession for me and I really dislike the you're mine thing in this context. Not that it generally is quite the line but the way he uses it sucks lmao.

Originally posted by: shrutiraina007

I just wrote lot of lines and then removed everything cause I don't see any end to this discussion. We are discussing POVs. Yours is different than mine. So let's agree to disagree. But I will highlight two points.

Bold1: No. I don't see a problem there cause I think you missed my point. Obviously I have written about Anurag's perspective cause wasn't that what the question was? Does he deserve her or not and not the other way around? He is expressing what he feels in front of her. And it was in response to a question SHE asked. But with that there are many places where he has urged her to open up about her feelings. Prerna isn't saying a word about how she feels and it's him further. So I don't agree with you on the point that he cares about himself and is self centered.

Bold2: No, I didn't miss your point. In fact I have acknowledged the same in my comment. Not sure if you read that part. The entire track is about the pissing contest between Bajaj and Anurag where Prerna is stuck in between and yes, it's focused on that. And it's not happening from last week, it's happening from 3 months. And trust me, it is irritating that the CVs don't know a better way to handle it.

The same was the case for Anurag at the time of Prerna and Komolika. I remember elaborate scenes where he has hardly said a word. Only difference is, he was getting monologues. Pre isn't getting that much.

Peace out!

"And now that Bajaj has accepted that as well, Anurag for sure isn't going to back off"

Also there's a but he loves her after the acknowledgement. The way I see it justification after acknowledgement really makes the whole point moot. It's literally yes he's being an asshole about it with his gloating and score game with Bajaj and that's problematic. Period.

See again. You've mentioned 3 lines. I will mention 30. From *Now I've money so come to me to mujhe humaari picture us deewar pe chahiye to i did the accident to have her to she's mine I WILL HAVE HER. I DESERVE HER TO meri maa ne chaalees larkiyan dekhi maine ek* Poora track in linon se bhara para hai. So you're right. Let's agree to disagree.

And as far as Komolika's scenes are concerned. He was a sissy when it came to Komolika. So i'd rather even not go there. That track sucked all on its own. I don't even think it bears repeating how much.🤔