Prerna had a choice, really? - Page 3

Originally posted by: _charu_

Sorry i don't understand how it is difficult for prerna to make a choice in future life. Kuki is not an orphan, his father is there for her and if he dies, prerna can adopt kuki and live with anurag. Is it that tough? I understand she is blasted from all sides but most of it is self invited.

Anyone Sane would fight tooth and nail for their life before giving up. That time she didn't know about kuki. Anurag was set free before she got married , she could have done anything , there were hundreds of options for her , but not marry bajaj. Like she could have faked her death , She could have told anurag if she trusted him , he would have tried his best to protect her. If she married anurag what could have happened? Bajaj would have destroyed basus financially right ? Did she trust anurag enough to live with him under any such circumstance? She thought money will be more important to him ?the way he is going mad after her ,he is already giving up on everything including his sanity.whatever may have happened in the future , she would have got her epic love isnt it ? Trust toh karo kisi par ? Who is to be blamed for that ? Intact bajaj found the perfect bakri who would have given up easily in her emotions ,it was so easy to get her. So this.is the choice she had. That is "TRUST her LoVE" but she chose not to.

Even now she can walk out anytime , hell with shadi rishta and everything..why not ? Like bajaj can be selfish and manipulate who is stopping her to follow his steps ? Like you expect the entire world to give everything to you on a platter only then you will start acting ? Not fight for what you heart desire ?

Nice options charu😆

But prerna ke paas itna dimak kaha😆

Bajaj’s move was wrong, but his intentions weren’t. Kuki isn’t the only reason why he married Prerna. There’s more to it. His past with Basus is still not disclosed. That will answer all the questions we have. It’s something related to Moloy or/and Mohini for sure. Maybe Bajaj’s mother’s death or downfall or something like that is associated with them. That’s why he’s turned into who he is.

Originally posted by: Dinahjane

Bajaj’s move was wrong, but his intentions weren’t. Kuki isn’t the only reason why he married Prerna. There’s more to it. His past with Basus is still not disclosed. That will answer all the questions we have. It’s something related to Moloy or/and Mohini for sure. Maybe Bajaj’s mother’s death or downfall or something like that is associated with them. That’s why he’s turned into who he is.

Originally posted by: IAdoreYou

I cannot disagree. I know where you are coming from and I do find your perceptions right even from where I see it. The only thing I differ in is the point - do I think Bajaj is beyond redemption concerning to his and Prerna's relationship? I don't. I don't think that he is beyond redemption. Just... just had he married her forcefully - I could have never been able to accept him. I have seen a couple of forced marriages in ITV and I could accept none. It is not similar with Prerna and Bajaj. He is not a saint. I will never say that he is one. He was never one. He is selfish. Humans are selfish, and for what they are selfish, varies. He is selfish for his daughter. He got an opportunity to do something that could put his daughter on the path of healing and he did that. Prerna was selfish for Anurag's life so she gave in. The difference here is - the person who is suffering the most is Prerna. No matter how much I call out her for the ways she chooses, I can't have a dislike toward her. All that she has ever wanted is - happiness and well being of her loved ones. Having said that, I repeat that I don't think that he is beyond redemption rather I personally believe, he is a good fit as Prerna's partner. The man knows to trust, respect and understand her.

I cant accept him for the same too. His one move has subjected pre to a lifetime whr she will never hv the liberty of painless options. Every move is gonna break one heart and eventually its gonna hurt her. Shes torn.

Anurag is right for her or bajaj that was her choice. And she loved anurag. I believe ppl learn from their experiences. Atleast thr wont be any regrets in life or the pain of unrequitted desires even if it failed. A part of her will always yearn for the life that cud hv been.

Originally posted by: najma123

I think that's exactly what TM wanted to convey. Anurag's actions left her with no choice coz she was emotionally bound to take that decision. And because she was shackled then, her love for him made her take that step, and now she's in another trap.

The way I interpret it, she just jumped from the frying pan to the fire. The problem is they didn't show the Anurag in jail sequence with the intensity with which they SHOULD have shown it, so it seems like she wasn't helpless enough. But maybe she was.

TM was trying to say, she was trapped, and she got further trapped and Bajaj is the instigator for the next trap. There again, I am not saying he should plead guilty or anything.

Before Kuki got introduced, if the marriage had only been to spite Anurag, Prerna could have hated him easily with no qualms and who knows eventually she could have gotten back to him. We don't know.

But a child got involved here, and Prerna herself has gotten chained to this relationship now. She loves the child, it's a strength if you look at it one way and a weakness from another point of view.

Yeah, Bajaj didn't ask her to love Kuki, so he can easily be cleared of all blame.

I'd only say it isn't very easy to pinpoint who's guilty or what's the guilt here but at the end, Prerna is the one who's hurt, and she isn't going to be happy anyways. Keeping aside Anurag's hurt of course.

It was Anurag's fault to get into the mess he got into.

But Bajaj taking advantage of Prerna's misery (mind you, he could have point blank refused to help her right, saying I hate the guy and I won't help), was a deal nevertheless and both of them got something out of it. But the end result was, she's turned from the devil to the deep sea and wherever she turns there's only gonna be misery.

Potentially, Bajaj could be hurting as well but this post was on Prerna so only sticking to that.

Thanks for putting this. Yes i intend to focus on prerna only here.

Just one thing that anurag definitely didnt know he was getting into mess. But bajaj knew he was innocent. Dont want to stretch on this here though.

Just tht its unfair tht prerna got caught in crossfire.

Originally posted by: _charu_

Sorry i don't understand how it is difficult for prerna to make a choice in future life. Kuki is not an orphan, his father is there for her and if he dies, prerna can adopt kuki and live with anurag. Is it that tough? I understand she is blasted from all sides but most of it is self invited.

Anyone Sane would fight tooth and nail for their life before giving up. That time she didn't know about kuki. Anurag was set free before she got married , she could have done anything , there were hundreds of options for her , but not marry bajaj. Like she could have faked her death , She could have told anurag if she trusted him , he would have tried his best to protect her. If she married anurag what could have happened? Bajaj would have destroyed basus financially right ? Did she trust anurag enough to live with him under any such circumstance? She thought money will be more important to him ?the way he is going mad after her ,he is already giving up on everything including his sanity.whatever may have happened in the future , she would have got her epic love isnt it ? Trust toh karo kisi par ? Who is to be blamed for that ? Intact bajaj found the perfect bakri who would have given up easily in her emotions ,it was so easy to get her. So this.is the choice she had. That is "TRUST her LoVE" but she chose not to.

Even now she can walk out anytime , hell with shadi rishta and everything..why not ? Like bajaj can be selfish and manipulate who is stopping her to follow his steps ? Like you expect the entire world to give everything to you on a platter only then you will start acting ? Not fight for what you heart desire ?

Charu i already said i hv problem with prerna's characterization post marriage portrayal.

This post was abt y i think tht marriage premise is wrong and why it was never a choice. She's a protagonist, they wont make her back out on her word. Besides if it was real life, she wud hv options and she wud hv capitalized on it too. Here they r downplaying the premise of marriage and justifying it time and again. Which is wrong.

She has clear 1 choice now though. Simple. Tell husband move out of house as she claim he is very nice person who dont hurt people and respect women.

She then can start to make a bond with him and step daughter and Her child. Simple.

How hard is it. She could have fight with her husband on not want to leave in her ex beds too. I mean ok she need time with Bajaj. Ok..fair enough but y stay in her ex house. She must have self respect right.

1 simple brutal betrayal to Anurag then he will be over too. It is soo simple. Now for her.

I dont care of Bajaj too..its just her who irritate me now. Just go out of the house.. matter solved simple as that. She is acting like doormat right now.

She want attention from Bajaj too but want to be in a good book with ex too by bringing him in friend zone. If he is irritating her..slap him.. and punch him and put him to jail..call Mahila Mandalay party and leave the house simple. Both hubby and wifey are not that poor too. Simple.

That is the easy way if she want him to move on. He will not even look her back.. if she does this.

Err writer Anupre are done..we dont need lollipop and NY doing thins..Anupre are not comming back lol. Start Bapre journey with their lovely children parenting skills. As simple as that. Y hurt Anurag soo much.

If she want him to move on.. this is the easy way out

If the focus is only on Prerna by default other characters also come in.

Obligations, responsibility and lack of communication go side by side in case of Prerna Sharks

When you r type of person who will jump from the pan into the fire, burns are inevitable.

If choices are to be placed, why did she take the responsibility of getting married to Naveen Babu, yes Anurag became close to her bcoz of Mr. Pervert Uncle but really Sharma Niwas is only her headache. What would have happened in dire cases, sell the house and property !!

When Anurag became her soulmate through the daga marriage and he got hitched to komo, Pre exercised her choices well.

Again its senseless to conclude that Bajaj was on the verge of destroying Basu Publications bcos Prerna had the magic wand to treat Kuki. The past has not been revealed.

Yes when it came to Bajaj, Pre once again took it on herself. This is why its a catch 22 situation, when her loved ones are at stake financially, she tries to rescue them on her own. When it comes to claiming her rights, Prerna can put up a fight.

Who sent her to Bajaj, Mohini Basu ? Pre had a choice to pass the responsibility to Nivi. A business woman like her is more capable of striking a deal with Prerna. No she doesn't do it, goes to the lions den herself.

When she reached Bajaj's den, yes she really did not have a choice. Being Prerna Sharma it was not her persona to say no and the lady is pretty naive in front of a business shark like Bajaj

Conditions put forward were only in RBs favour if she refused, Bajaj was on the verge of taking over everything that belonged to the Basus. They would have come to the road which was not her intention.

If we consider past, present and future situations. Some could have been avoided with a straight no. Others Circumstances were not in Prernas favour

Originally posted by: manzilmukul

Every person has a choice in life, but we often feel that we are victims to circumstances. I concur with what you wrote. Rightfully so!

But, I believe our choices are not indicative of our circumstances but are merely a reflection of our personality. Prerna’s personality is like that and that’s how sadly Indian women are expected to behave. As superwomen who have the ONLY option to sacrifice themselves. Faulty writing, NO but this is called creating empathy. Mass media caters to women who are vastly TRP audience. Majorly, to a generation whose lives have either been confined to homes or are still attached to the names of traditions. Women are supposed to be docile and are largely expected to be sacrificial lambs.

So, when you create a character who sacrifices everything all the time for family, it somehow creates a psychological empathy in the minds of the audience who believe strongly that they too are victims to circumstances. This empathy evokes the curiosity to know more about them and watch the show the next day. They relate to it.

It’s always easy to blame circumstances, isn’t it? That’s what these show makers create. A make believe world and situation of comfort for the watchers.

It’s like telling them - ‘ SEE, the heroine too had no option but to sacrifice.’

Coming back to the topic. Did Prerna really have a choice? Of course yes, everyone has. In life, everyone has a choice until they are beaten up physically or forced. So, could Prerna saved this situation? Yes, had she not been Prerna. Remember, this Prerna is not a Prerna in your Head or as you would want her to react. She is the Prerna makers have created whose DNA is taking the most myopic way out-Put herself as shield to protect the family. When I say shield, that doesn’t mean, she fights but she simply takes the torment herself.

I would give you an example- Haven’t we heard our mothers, MIL’s say - Bhagwan Karen tumhari bimari mujhe lag haye. Bhagwan ko agar bulana hai toh mujhe bula le’.

That’s the most natural reaction a TRP audience has and imagine a character that is drawn similar to hers. They are thrilled.

Prerna is simply a reflection of such women and above all Prerna is written that way. We are all about the choices we make and the chances we take. Prerna took a chance and made her choice. Who are we to judge her based on that?

And, coming to blackmail. Who doesn’t blackmail in real life?

1. Boss- You should Butter me up or else your career suffers.

2. Teachers-Behave extra nicely and take Tutions from us or else we fail you.

3. Parents-Get married to a man we decide for you or else what will we tell the world.

You think the world is a beautiful place with saints walking around? No, it’s bitter manipulative and totally murky. No one is a saint and every human being is selfish to some degree or the other.

Does that mean, Bajaj’s actions can be negated? Of course not! He will have to take a journey of remorse and guilt. Coercion is crime, agreed, but we have seen coercion’s everywhere. He is a man of few words but he has WRONGED Prerna. What better punishment than not being loved by the one for whom your heart will beat eventually?

I am not NORMALISING OR TRIVIALISING the emotional manipulation and exploitation of her emotions. But, it’s a truth. Human interactions are complex and increasingly coupled with toxicity- be it emotional or psychological.

So, in the end my friend, the show is about Prerna, Anurag and Bajaj as characters. They are characters and not what we would want to see them doing.

Bottom line, we always have a choice! We just CHOOSE on the basis of our convenience. She is CAGED and stripped of her right to Love. The cage was definitely built by Bajaj. He dragged her there and then she took her step.

It’s not a WILL issue, it’s her SKILL issue!

While thr r few things tht i will like to agree to disagree upon in ur post... But i loved ur words.

Women i wud say are the overall victims to the patriarchal system. Divorce is still a stigma and so no matter wht kind of situation a girl goes thru, parents always hv one advice, beta nibha lo. Prerna is trapped in this cage of expectations where her walls are more psychological. Many issues exists more in our thoughts than in reality. But we r so blinded by our circumstances that we are nt able to clear out tht haze. Prerna fell to such haze where her desperation and fears didnt allow her to explore options.

Ppl do manipulate situations and others to make them do their bidding. And i know these r characters. But the trp audience make them and their conduct a part of their lives. And they find the behavioural models in them, which is scary. And thts whr media needs to keep a watch. So whatever we may want to call this marriage, my issues with makers is domt normalize this. Coz it is not normal. Call a spade a spade. Even if it was essential to the plot, don't justify it.

Coming bck to topic, Prerna as per her character is no more than 21-22 considering she was in college when the show began. And since i teach at college levels, i come across many such house bound middle class girls who do get trapped in their own ideosynchronies. They r naive and still full of flowery pictures, thus easy targets to such ideas of love and sacrifice for love. I have seen them walking in deep pits and then not knowing wht to do... It takes yrs for them till they realize if at all they do tht they need professional help. U cant really blame them as they watch the world with coloured glasses and keep faith in goodness.

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The marriage was sooo unnecessary really! There were 100 different ways B could have destroyed Anurag (for his yet to unfold revenge against Basus) and gotten Pre to care for his child, but they had to go with marriage. It all really came across as trapping Pre in a golden cage made of mangalsutra and sindoor. The whole marriage sequence left such a bad taste, that even though Pre Baj scenes are interesting, I cannot fully enjoy them. It's like somewhere my pity/anger for Pre to have gone through that marriage is overtaking any other positive impacts that Baj might have on her. I loved the small dialogue in Pre's breakdown (finally, after ages), where she says she wants to scream.

To be honest, the writers never really wrote with Pre in their mind. It was always either Anu or Sharma niwas or Basu Bari and now Bajaj. Rarely, do they show Pre's emotions. And it's frustrating to see her character being suffocated and stalled for the need of other's character development. It's true both Anu and Baj are here to stay in Pre's life. So can they focus on connecting the audience with Pre's feelings? I want to be able to support Pre without feeling she is a victim of Stockholm Syndrome.