Perception vs. Reality - ONS vs. EMA

One thing that has been bugging me a lot lately is the way that the "truth" is coming out. The way it is being presented to everyone is that JW willingly and willfully is having a full fleged extra marital affair under his wife's nose.

The reality as I see it.

It has been shown that JW in a drunken stupor gave in to Pia one night in dubai and immediately get up and think of it as a mistake. Think of it as a mistake even before it happened when he pushed off Pia several times.

Immediately next day he told Pia it is Bani that he wants and that she was a straw that he grasped while he was drwoing and it was a mistake.

Since than Pia with the blackmail of aborting his child has gotten him to give her a phone and make him run errands for her and gift her a diamond necklace. She tried to blackmail him into leaving Bani which did not happen

He told Rano it was that one night and he cannot understand how he let it happen.

Massi overheard him and Pia say that it was a moment of weakness on his part and since than he has "nazarandazed" her in favor of bani. He screamed to Pia that he loves bani and threw her out.

Bani saw him yelling merra baccha and kiss Pia on the forehead when he thought the baby was dead and so was Pia.

The above is the reality of what has happened or has been shown.

However, the way massi, rano, pia have potrayed it is as if he is having a huge blatant affair with Pia. Massi compared JW to Uday Walia.

I am not saying anything about ONS being any better than an EMA or not. I am just saying that the facts are being distorted and this is ultimately going to hurt bani more. Rather than a husband whom she had divorced for all intents and purposes making a mistake in a drunken stupor with her sister, she has a husband who is having a wild affair with her sister under her nose intentionally.

What do you guys think?

meghna

Actually Meg, I agree with you. I dont deny the ONS is wrong in any way, but there is a huge difference between an EMA and ONS. An ONS is one time, where as EMA is ongoing. I dont agree that they have portrayed it or interchanged the words throughout the revelation, because it has been incorrect.

Rano had pointed out on Bani's birthday that JW was having an EMA, which really isnt true. He HAD an ONS and in all truth didnt want anything to do with Pia anymore. An EMA would implicate that he wanted to have a relationship with Pia as well as with Bani, but since Pia was blackmailing him, he was forced into his actions.

So yes you are right to interpret that they have been misinterpreting it incorrectly. There is a huge difference between an ONS and EMA. I wish they had gotten it correct to- it would have been better.

Megha perfectly said! Especially what Rano did was not rite! Repeatedly saying to Bani that her husband cheated her and he has a relationship with Pia?? Helloooo is she dreaming? I think JW told her the entire truth, then is she dumb to understand the difference between ONS and EMA?? And he has clearly told Rano that he loves Bani and Bani only! Then how else a person should explain his feelings, agony? At times I feel these characters have lost it! I cant deny that their performances are rocking, and the dialogues are powerful, but is it required? Actually its the people around who is making things worser than it is!

u r absolutely right
i way it is being potrayed now is really hurting bani a lot she became totally dead

Originally posted by: Hkaurk22

Actually Meg, I agree with you. I dont deny the ONS is wrong in any way, but there is a huge difference between an EMA and ONS. An ONS is one time, where as EMA is ongoing. I dont agree that they have portrayed it or interchanged the words throughout the revelation, because it has been incorrect.

Rano had pointed out on Bani's birthday that JW was having an EMA, which really isnt true. He HAD an ONS and in all truth didnt want anything to do with Pia anymore. An EMA would implicate that he wanted to have a relationship with Pia as well as with Bani, but since Pia was blackmailing him, he was forced into his actions.

So yes you are right to interpret that they have been misinterpreting it incorrectly. There is a huge difference between an ONS and EMA. I wish they had gotten it correct to- it would have been better.

I agree its not true but Rano said at that moment was the truth in itslef. She saw Pia telling Jai that she was off to Tirupati to offer her prayers for their child and that he should let Bani know of their affair immediately. Rano didnt tell Bani on the basis of the CD, she told Bani abt the EMA when she saw JnP together and she also saw Jai lying to Bani, remind you. Its true from her POV.

The destructives have managed to twist the ONS and EMA together, but from Rano's POV at that point, it was not wrong. Also, if we are allowing everybody their instantanaous reactions, she should also be allowed. She cannot and doesnt know that it was an ONS, the entire situation was in front of her as an EMA. And on top of all this, was Pia's behaviour.

Aash,

I totally agree people around are making it worse than it is. I think massi keeping Bani in WM is right, she is too shattered to go anywhere and needs protection. I also think JW would have wanted that. But the way he is being potrayed by everyone is so wrong.

meghna

Originally posted by: Hkaurk22

Actually Meg, I agree with you. I dont deny the ONS is wrong in any way, but there is a huge difference between an EMA and ONS. An ONS is one time, where as EMA is ongoing. I dont agree that they have portrayed it or interchanged the words throughout the revelation, because it has been incorrect.

Rano had pointed out on Bani's birthday that JW was having an EMA, which really isnt true. He HAD an ONS and in all truth didnt want anything to do with Pia anymore. An EMA would implicate that he wanted to have a relationship with Pia as well as with Bani, but since Pia was blackmailing him, he was forced into his actions.

So yes you are right to interpret that they have been misinterpreting it incorrectly. There is a huge difference between an ONS and EMA. I wish they had gotten it correct to- it would have been better.

Harveen,

Arunima has been rocking but the way Rano is handling it is making me a little sad. She know JW is Bani' whole life. She knows it was one night of mistake. Agree bani has right to sever relationships based on that one night but Rano could have presented the true facts of the situation. JW is madly in love with bani and make a horrible mistake and punish him as you may see fit.

meghna

Originally posted by: sangitadas

I agree its not true but Rano said at that moment was the truth in itslef. She saw Pia telling Jai that she was off to Tirupati to offer her prayers for their child and that he should let Bani know of their affair immediately. Rano didnt tell Bani on the basis of the CD, she told Bani abt the EMA when she saw JnP together and she also saw Jai lying to Bani, remind you. Its true from her POV.

The destructives have managed to twist the ONS and EMA together, but from Rano's POV at that point, it was not wrong. Also, if we are allowing everybody their instantanaous reactions, she should also be allowed. She cannot and doesnt know that it was an ONS After she and Jai were yelling at each other in the garden I think she realized it that it was one time. Jai admitted that he wronged Bani and that he was paying for it now, the entire situation was in front of her as an EMA. And on top of all this, was Pia's behaviour.

I guess you are right. For Rano it was only clarified that night after she told Bani the truth, and then had a shout fest with Jai out in the garden. I think it was after that she realized that it was not ongoing, although of course she wasnt accepting of it as it is.

Originally posted by: m3ghna

Harveen,

Arunima has been rocking but the way Rano is handling it is making me a little sad. She know JW is Bani' whole life. She knows it was one night of mistake. Agree bani has right to sever relationships based on that one night but Rano could have presented the true facts of the situation. JW is madly in love with bani and make a horrible mistake and punish him as you may see fit.

meghna

Right- but as Sangs pointed out- it was Rano's interpretation that JW was having an EMA- she based it on what she saw with JP in the hotel...

Aash,

I totally agree people around are making it worse than it is. I think massi keeping Bani in WM is right, she is too shattered to go anywhere and needs protection. I also think JW would have wanted that. But the way he is being potrayed by everyone is so wrong.

meghna

***I too agree that Bani being in WM is correct! But the way things are moving, we cant see any room for their re-union? 😭