Jyoti marrying Kabir?

hey friends,

as the proceedings r going on, it's a big probability that there will be another marriage on cards.
but wont it give a bad message to viewers of the serial which mainly depicts abt a journey of a woman including fundas and goodness abt women.

but if jyoti gets married to kabir, it'll obviously spread a bad message abt character of jyoti. First she was with brij, then with Pankaj and now with Kabir.
Irrrespective of the storyline, whatever gets unfolded raises questions on the main theme of the serial and the lead character JYOTI...

wat r views guys

Completely disagree about it being a bad message.

First of all, Jyoti & Brij - yeah, they were an item, but Brij was a cheat, and was cheating on her while they were together. Jyoti expected an engagement that never happened, and finally, Brij married Sushma. What was Jyoti supposed to do - keep herself free for Brij whenever he felt like cheating on Sushma?

Then, Jyoti & Pankaj - she married him fair & square @ his behest. She was loyal to him, but the mistake she made was always chasing after Sushma, giving a misconception that all she cared about was her maayka (even that wasn't true, since Sushma was no longer part of her maayka, while Sudha was). She would have done fine had she either not helped Sushma @ all, or had she told Pankaj early on about Brij & Sushma, so that she wouldn't have had to hide anything. After all, she never had to hide anything about Sudha, who they all knew.

When Pankaj kicked her out, he was justified, given how she had lied to him. But when her parents visited them to tell them about their grandkid, that's when Pankaj should have taken her back, and tried analyzing that in a reasonable manner, instead of moping about it today. He didn't, and instead went on to divorce and re-marry.

I know that you've not suggested that Pankaj is okay, but if he can re-marry, why is it wrong for Jyoti to accept a proposal from another guy who loves her? Is it the duty of divorced women to live like widows for the balance of their lives? I agree that the situation is somewhat complicated by Jyoti's pregnancy, which is why I had wished that she had aborted it, or that she still loses it one way or another. But aside from that, if Pankaj can divorce her and re-marry, why would it be wrong for Jyoti to accept the hand of another person, since she is no longer in a marriage?

There would be no negative message about her character for re-marrying. But there have been several negative messages about her character - for being a doormat to Padma & CM, for being a complete pushover for Pankaj, for having a misplaced sense of priorities when it comes to money, for treating her well wishers like Kabir, Sudha badly, for always silencing anyone who wants to speak up for her while sucking up to Pankaj & Padma, for putting the kabash on Sushma's abortion plan and getting her to marry Brij, etc. In fact, the rehabilitation of Brij is the worst message in the show to date, and one of the worst things that she has done so far.

Actually, re-marrying would be a positive in that it would be a message for divorcees that just b'cos one marriage was incompatible and had to end does't necessarily imply that others have to as well. I'd hate it if Jyoti lived the rest of her life moping, and getting flashbacks of Pankaj all the time. He's moved on, and she needs to as well.

I totally agree with you. The serial is going in circles first falling in love then again fallying in love

I ABSOLUTELY 10000000000%%% agree with Vrisha! In todays world if there are jerks like brij or pankaj who can be forgiven and who can move on with their life, why cant jyoti??? Just because she is a woman? It is not just Jyoti's responsibility to set an example for society! And what kind of example will she be setting? Someone who was cheated by one guy and the second one was blind and idiot enought to not trust her, her love and her sincerity! She is supposed to move on with her life and not look back and be sad abt her past just because she was not at fault and also she didnt get someone who would understand respect and value her.

She would be setting a great example if she moves on in life and married Kabir who is open minded and honest and is willing to accept her the way she is. She would be setting an example for millions who think that it is ok to live alone in misery or live in an abusive relationship. She would be giving hope to others that there is a life, there is someone out there who would understand them and love them.

If you think she is setting a wrong example do you think it is ok that even if she talks to a guy everyone starts talking abt her and accusing her of bad character including her own mother.

I think the creatives for once are right in showing that if likes of brij and pankaj can move on get married so can SHE, who is the only one who deserves to be happy.

Originally posted by: Vrisha

Completely disagree about it being a bad message.

First of all, Jyoti & Brij - yeah, they were an item, but Brij was a cheat, and was cheating on her while they were together. Jyoti expected an engagement that never happened, and finally, Brij married Sushma. What was Jyoti supposed to do - keep herself free for Brij whenever he felt like cheating on Sushma?

Then, Jyoti & Pankaj - she married him fair & square @ his behest. She was loyal to him, but the mistake she made was always chasing after Sushma, giving a misconception that all she cared about was her maayka (even that wasn't true, since Sushma was no longer part of her maayka, while Sudha was). She would have done fine had she either not helped Sushma @ all, or had she told Pankaj early on about Brij & Sushma, so that she wouldn't have had to hide anything. After all, she never had to hide anything about Sudha, who they all knew.

When Pankaj kicked her out, he was justified, given how she had lied to him. But when her parents visited them to tell them about their grandkid, that's when Pankaj should have taken her back, and tried analyzing that in a reasonable manner, instead of moping about it today. He didn't, and instead went on to divorce and re-marry.

I know that you've not suggested that Pankaj is okay, but if he can re-marry, why is it wrong for Jyoti to accept a proposal from another guy who loves her? Is it the duty of divorced women to live like widows for the balance of their lives? I agree that the situation is somewhat complicated by Jyoti's pregnancy, which is why I had wished that she had aborted it, or that she still loses it one way or another. But aside from that, if Pankaj can divorce her and re-marry, why would it be wrong for Jyoti to accept the hand of another person, since she is no longer in a marriage?

There would be no negative message about her character for re-marrying. But there have been several negative messages about her character - for being a doormat to Padma & CM, for being a complete pushover for Pankaj, for having a misplaced sense of priorities when it comes to money, for treating her well wishers like Kabir, Sudha badly, for always silencing anyone who wants to speak up for her while sucking up to Pankaj & Padma, for putting the kabash on Sushma's abortion plan and getting her to marry Brij, etc. In fact, the rehabilitation of Brij is the worst message in the show to date, and one of the worst things that she has done so far.

Actually, re-marrying would be a positive in that it would be a message for divorcees that just b'cos one marriage was incompatible and had to end does't necessarily imply that others have to as well. I'd hate it if Jyoti lived the rest of her life moping, and getting flashbacks of Pankaj all the time. He's moved on, and she needs to as well.

I agree with you Vrisha word by word

I don't agree with you. Life is not always we expect it to be, or want to be. Simply because we live in india, does it mean women dnt hv any right to move ahead in life and find happiness???

N yes, jyoti hadn't lied about Brij, she hd simpy concealed her past from Pankaj. and sometimes in real life also, whn a gal gets married, she is afraid to tell about her past to her husband, due to male ego. So that part is a realistic one.

Originally posted by: Vrisha

Completely disagree about it being a bad message.

First of all, Jyoti & Brij - yeah, they were an item, but Brij was a cheat, and was cheating on her while they were together. Jyoti expected an engagement that never happened, and finally, Brij married Sushma. What was Jyoti supposed to do - keep herself free for Brij whenever he felt like cheating on Sushma?

Then, Jyoti & Pankaj - she married him fair & square @ his behest. She was loyal to him, but the mistake she made was always chasing after Sushma, giving a misconception that all she cared about was her maayka (even that wasn't true, since Sushma was no longer part of her maayka, while Sudha was). She would have done fine had she either not helped Sushma @ all, or had she told Pankaj early on about Brij & Sushma, so that she wouldn't have had to hide anything. After all, she never had to hide anything about Sudha, who they all knew.

When Pankaj kicked her out, he was justified, given how she had lied to him. But when her parents visited them to tell them about their grandkid, that's when Pankaj should have taken her back, and tried analyzing that in a reasonable manner, instead of moping about it today. He didn't, and instead went on to divorce and re-marry.

I know that you've not suggested that Pankaj is okay, but if he can re-marry, why is it wrong for Jyoti to accept a proposal from another guy who loves her? Is it the duty of divorced women to live like widows for the balance of their lives? I agree that the situation is somewhat complicated by Jyoti's pregnancy, which is why I had wished that she had aborted it, or that she still loses it one way or another. But aside from that, if Pankaj can divorce her and re-marry, why would it be wrong for Jyoti to accept the hand of another person, since she is no longer in a marriage?

There would be no negative message about her character for re-marrying. But there have been several negative messages about her character - for being a doormat to Padma & CM, for being a complete pushover for Pankaj, for having a misplaced sense of priorities when it comes to money, for treating her well wishers like Kabir, Sudha badly, for always silencing anyone who wants to speak up for her while sucking up to Pankaj & Padma, for putting the kabash on Sushma's abortion plan and getting her to marry Brij, etc. In fact, the rehabilitation of Brij is the worst message in the show to date, and one of the worst things that she has done so far.

Actually, re-marrying would be a positive in that it would be a message for divorcees that just b'cos one marriage was incompatible and had to end does't necessarily imply that others have to as well. I'd hate it if Jyoti lived the rest of her life moping, and getting flashbacks of Pankaj all the time. He's moved on, and she needs to as well.

Agree with you.