Can wives in a polygamous marriage be friends? - Page 5

Originally posted by: smile.sara

this is very difficult but polygamy marriage system , its condition, needs, and do and don'ts are very define and clear atleast in islam ... I have seen some example of polygamy in my life not from my close family member ..

...but where ever I saw they share good relation ...baki jeleousy n compotation is also very common in btw dewrANI jhethani, nand bhawaj in our culture ..but main thing depend upon husband tht he make sure not to do injustice in fulfilling rights and show incline toward any wife specially in open ...

next upon wifes to give space to their husband in his relation with his other wifes ... think positive n of justification... polygamy has no space for possessiveness or open love for one wife because of justice ...

Originally posted by: Cleo12345

@ khushi...thanks for writing this thought provoking post...well written.

@ayesha/ashpat ...I do remember writing about an American sect...members of fundamentalist church of Jesus Christ of Latter day saints( FLDS) who practice 'pleural marriage'...I had a chance to know two women from this sect who chose a different lifestyle but helped me understand the mindset of women from this sect and the reasons behind their acceptance of polygamy in a 21st century society...I also remember writing about Amish and Mennonites. Don't remember the post (or the forum to be honest😉...probably JA, as I usually write about politics and healthcare on other forums)...will sieve through my posts and send you a link if I am able to find it.

@Liz...GET REAL girl...polyandry...Are you kidding???? come back to planet earth...this is from a 'happily married' woman after 10 yrs of "blissful marriage'...one is more than enough😡...Add 'pulling your hair out on weekends to your 'to do' list. Like after seeing stars in front of your eyes when you hit brakes while driving...you look back and the mystery is solved...the tennis balls on the back seat of the car decided to follow Newton's third law of motion ( a body in motion stays in motion...)...and decided to use your head for target practice...all this just because someone refuses to use a bag and forgets to clean the car after a tennis match...thank your stars( not the ones you just saw) that the tennis racquets preferred to follow the law of gravity😡

Originally posted by: anisha222

Does polygamy still happen in 21st century?? It suckss,, I mean how can a woman live wid a man who is openly unfaithfull to her,,, & who gonna marry a man who does marrige only fr benefits,,, disgusting

Originally posted by: deepi04

I haven't read all the comments yet so I'm not sure if this has been asked, but here when we talk about polygamy and the relationship wives would share, are we looking at polygamy from an Islamic point of view? I don't know much about Islam but I think if it's acceptable in Islam, obviously there is a good justification for it.

So especially back in those days it was the norm, and not just for Muslim rulers, but also some Hindu Raja's. To give an example for Jo's case, Bharmal himself had mentioned it. So how I see this is that it would depend on the context. If a woman is brought up in a society where polygamy exists, and she marries into a culture where it is prevalent and the norm, it really comes down to how accepting she is towards this situation. And on the other hand, jealousy is natural, you just can't escape that.

So overall I think it depends on the individual to decide whether they can be friends, or at least cordial towards other wives. They don't have to be good friends to coexist peacefully. Personally for me if I were in that situation, jealousy is something I would never be able to overcome; however, I would strive to live peacefully, though I can't see myself being best friends with other wives, whether or not I would be the most 'favoured' wife is another question all together 😆

On that note, favouritism would hurt the other wives, so it shouldn't be declared openly, like Mandy di has explained, but I really think actions would speak louder than words, and either way it would always be obvious how a King feels towards a particular wife. It's not his fault, but his other wives do not deserve it either.

Originally posted by: ---Khushi---

Very interesting. To say whether or not I agree to your views, I need time to ponder over your views. Will get back to you definitely.

Originally posted by: LizBennett

".thank your stars( not the ones you just saw) that the tennis racquets preferred to follow the law of gravity..."

U mean else they would have followed the 3rd law...of every action having an equal and opp. reaction...

( Did I say how much I love Isaac?)...

About the polyandry thing...( picture me being bashful here..not the dwarf u twit !...the emotion...😳...like that emoticon...sigh! Now that I have clarified THAT)...

Hmm..so where was I...yep! Being bashful...and meekly saying that all I was doing was gently tossing a small spanner into the polygamy wheel...see how well behaved I am...foot in air coyly swaying..(do not stick your tongue out at me..)

I did mention the headaches...did I not!...

Btw..could actually picture the car scene perfectly...awww...did it hurt? ( tongue firmly in cheek)...

Originally posted by: biancay

khusi

i honestly cannot answer your question . beacuse i cannot fathom that type of situation .recently i was surprised reading kenya passed a law about polygamy and women in that country were happy

but women members in the parliament walked out .

Originally posted by: LizBennett

Err...do I care about who is the father...not really...Coz I am the mother...and that is the beginning and end of legitimacy for me...

The woman who brought forth that life in...has the nmero uno claim to that life..

All others...can do whatever they want...don't really care...

Polyandry...btw..did exist...whatever happened to those good times!

Damn...and they did not have Ibuprofen then...gosh! Those were women with guts...

you may nmot care husband will and first right of child is always father no matter what century they get to give their name and child belong to father family