As usual in cases like this there's more than just a sole responsible.
Bharmal managed everything wrong and resulted in having one of his daughter flee from her own shaadi bringing shame and insulting her other daugher's sasural.
He should've mentioned Jodha and Jalal about Shivani's feelings. Yeah. Jalal, most probably, would've not agreed to it but it would've saved him the embarrassment. Is not like Bharmal was looking to marry Shivani anyway. He should've talked with her and make her understand his point of view. After all, a father wanting her daughter's economical/social well being is understandable. Maybe he could've convinced her, maybe she would've realized she was not really in love with Tejawant or maybe not, but anything is better than what happened.
And then, Shivani. I don't agree with the way she let things happen. She should've said something to Jodha and not let the Nikah happen. But I don't judge her for choosing her own happiness. The essential thing(according to specialists) to a healthy mind/life is to not do what you don't want to do. I applaud all the brave people who dare to live their lives without caring about what the ignorant, greedy, prejudiced, extremely hypocritical society has to say. It's only job is to make people miserable. Was she egoistic? probably but forcing your daughter to marry against her will just because of societ.y and what people would say(the economical aspect is not even the first reason) is rather egoistical, too. And a life of torture. After all, that's what life is about: living happy, otherwise is just existing. A meaningless life. Shivani was aware of it and choose it, now she is responsible of her own. And it's impossible to say it could'nt have happened by that time. Maybe not with the frequency of today but it surely did.
I bet Bharmal will never hide anything again 😆 He's lucky Jalal is the way he is.
Edited by TheGiggles - 11 years ago