husband like jalal in real life???? - Page 3

Originally posted by: Star_girl

If I speak honestly, the chances are very, very slim. Men generally equate sexuality with love in their heads. So, in the real, normal instances of the arranged marriages ( that I have observed closely and talked to the respective members), the consummation happens fairly soon. And before they "fall in love". This "taking one day at a time" doesn't happen in real life. Very very rarely, if ever.

When you start living with one another, a physical attraction/relationship always occurs before you fall in love. We make love seem so easy and sexuality so complicated. But it is the complete opposite actually. Falling in love with a person is way more difficult than being physically intimate with a person.

And, I know there will be people who will tell you that yes, there are husbands like Jalal, but I must speak from a long experience with dealing with female crises, there is not. Yes, there will definitely be a guy who will be gentle and patient with you. But a straight guy don't just live with a woman platonic style for months, particularly when said woman is his wife. That's just abnormal.

hmmm...u r ryt.

i dnt knw much abt ds bt ur point z gud...so we can say we can find ds kind of guys as tohru said in her frnd case bt d ratio of dt kind of guys z vry less.

Originally posted by: Star_girl

If I speak honestly, the chances are very, very slim. Men generally equate sexuality with love in their heads. So, in the real, normal instances of the arranged marriages ( that I have observed closely and talked to the respective members), the consummation happens fairly soon. And before they "fall in love". This "taking one day at a time" doesn't happen in real life. Very very rarely, if ever.

When you start living with one another, a physical attraction/relationship always occurs before you fall in love. We make love seem so easy and sexuality so complicated. But it is the complete opposite actually. Falling in love with a person is way more difficult than being physically intimate with a person.

And, I know there will be people who will tell you that yes, there are husbands like Jalal, but I must speak from a long experience with dealing with female crises, there is not. Yes, there will definitely be a guy who will be gentle and patient with you. But a straight guy don't just live with a woman platonic style for months, particularly when said woman is his wife. That's just abnormal.

agree with you to get a guy like we wish its tough only lucky onew will find a gem

^^ But do not worry, you guys. I have been in two very serious relationships, and what I have gathered, from my experience with dating and other people's experience, is always marry someone who is your friend. Always try to be friends first. When we build up a basic friendship, it always helps. This is why if you have an arranged marriage, please date the guy for a while. For as long as you both want to. That will help, trust me. 😊 The problem is when two people meet with marriage om their minds, they cannot fully express themselves in front of one another. But when they date for a while, they get to know little things about one another.

Originally posted by: Parijatrocks

even i dont know much about this after marraige stuffs

but i awlays wish to get a good hubby who understands me, i have seen so many marriaages were love marraiges without even thinking they got married because of love but now they got divorced

i get scared of love marraiges as our choice can go wrong

i believe in arranged marriage, and i hope when i get married i will love that person... i am full of myself, when i see movies and serials i feel is it possible to love someone so much ..

as i dont believe in the concept of love itself...i feel its limited to movies and dramas only

i think i will get married to someone in future and i dont believe in TV shows and will go along with flow

i hope i get a good understanding husband who will tolerate me...

i feel pity on the guy who will marry me

omg omg omg...i cant blv...i hv same concept abt love. i feel dt love mrgs dnt get successful bcz we are nt mature enough to decide dt wt z wrong nd right

nd smtime i thnk i shldnt watch any love story kind of movie or shw bcz after watching it seems dt i vl get my true luv vry soon 😆...

i feel dt two prsn get attract vry soon bt dt z nt love...after smtime if we dnt meet him/her we forget dt prsn...actually sm one can move in his or her life after lil efforts.

Originally posted by: Star_girl

^^ But do not worry, you guys. I have been in two very serious relationships, and what I have gathered, from my experience with dating and other people's experience, is always marry someone who is your friend. Always try to be friends first. When we build up a basic friendship, it always helps. This is why if you have an arranged marriage, please date the guy for a while. For as long as you both want to. That will help, trust me.😊The problem is when two people meet with marriage om their minds, they cannot fully express themselves in front of one another. But when they date for a while, they get to know little things about one another.

The rule of thumb is, as SRK will tell you, if your husband/wife cannot be your best friend, then no physical intimacy, no passion, nothing will help.

ummm...i dnt knw yr wt to say.

bcz m sure i cant do ds...may be i vl get time bw my engagement nd mrg dt too nt more 2-3 months...bt in ds time period we cant meet each other only chit chat on fone for long hours...

i hv 2-3 years to getting married so let's wait nd watch...

Originally posted by: anshfever

omg omg omg...i cant blv...i hv same concept abt love. i feel dt love mrgs dnt get successful bcz we are nt mature enough to decide dt wt z wrong nd right

nd smtime i thnk i shldnt watch any love story kind of movie or shw bcz after watching it seems dt i vl get my true luv vry soon 😆...

i feel dt two prsn get attract vry soon bt dt z nt love...after smtime if we dnt meet him/her we forget dt prsn...actually sm one can move in his or her life after lil efforts.

i have the experince when i was in Final year one of my classmate proposed me , i was like what the hell... than i told my best frfriend about of it, she told me about love how u feel i said i need sometime if i get that feeling i will definitely accept he gave me much time to say yes,...

i think there will be husband like jalal the world is so big so its possible & mens too have heart not every man but there will be few with such gold hearts

Originally posted by: Parijatrocks

i have the experince when i was in Final year one of my classmate proposed me , i was like what the hell... than i told my best frfriend about of it, she told me about love how u feel i said i need sometime if i get that feeling i will definitely accept he gave me much time to say yes,...

at last i said i am not getting any feeling😆towards you till now...,and than he finished studies he went to Delhi back for his hometown... and we often chat in FB thats it.. till now i dint feel for him or he tried to propose me again may be he got another girl...

i feel when u can easily forget and move on in life where is the matter of love arises

seriously i feel the concept of love is for dramas and stories its tough to develop that feeling..

my friends are really fed up of me and my logic about of love...😆

kuch feelings hi nahin hothi hai ... i feel like laughing if anyone say they are in love,

but i love to see love stories on TV

and love should happen only once in my life ... thats my wish with the person whom i marry and i should be his first and last love too i am very selfish in matter of love...hope to get right person i know my wish is tough to get😆

i thnk m d only gal who nvr got any proposal 😆...My frnd told me dt she got 20-25 propsals in just three years i ws lika wt 😲...its nt bcz i look ugly bcz lookwise m quite ok. bt may be bcz everyone knws dt my ans vl be big no😆...anyways i dnt knw abt love yr...

Husband like jalal do exist even in this generation...and had seen guys who are as gud as jalal and opp to jalal...

A very close relative of mine got engaged 1.5yrs back..when she got engaged she told him that she is career oriented..she wanted to work in abroad for some time coz her organization had plans to send her for onsite project...that guy said yes...and immediately after 15days of her engagement she went to Canada..Initially it was for 3mons..but later on got extended to one yr..but that guys didn't say anything..he waited for her..he works in a reputed manufacturing company..and she works in IT mnc...later on she came to india after an yr ..her marriage was fixed and she got married and she wanted time to get into physical relationship..that guy was so gud ..he accepted..and till now they hv not consummated thr marriage ..then unfortunately after her marriage within a week she was forced to go to Canada for project... then also neither her husband nor her inlaws said anything..they accepted her each and every decision...now she is in Canada..it will take few more mons for her to comeback..but this guy is very gud husband,son in law too...he takes care of her family and her grandparents...must say one in thousands...and that guys loves her madly...and point to be noted hers was an arranged marriage...when it comes to beauty this guys is very handsome when compared to that girl..still he loves her heart..so pure love does exist...so marriage is not to get into physical relnship..but a relation ship which is sacred and pure...

Another case a friend of mine who loved a guy and he cheated her...but another guy who loved her sincerely accepted her as how she is..he knows her past..still he loves her..they both got married..but she needed sometime ...and that guy was too gud he waited for her to accept him and love him..almost after an year they consummated thr marriage...now they are happily leading thr married life..

I had seen people who does everything on thr first n8 itself..be it arranged or love...it totally depends on how ur life partner is..thr are guys who understands even girls are humans..they do value our emotions...they do want us to understand them, love them whole heartedly... I really hope that I also should get a husband who values our emoitions and understands us..for me withoout love getting into phisycal relationship is impossible..again here I strongly believe in arranged marriages...just praying I should get a person who loves me whole heartedly and accept me how I am...even if he earns less or not rich also I am fine with it...just need a husband who loves only me...madly & deeply ...

Originally posted by: Gem12

<font size="3" face="Calibri">Husband like jalal do exist even in this generation...and had seen guys who are as gud as jalal and opp to jalal...</font>

<font size="3" face="Calibri">A very close relative of mine got engaged 1.5yrs back..when she got engaged she told him that she is career oriented..she wanted to work in abroad for some time coz her organization had plans to send her for onsite project...that guy said yes...and immediately after 15days of her engagement she went to Canada..Initially it was for 3mons..but later on got extended to one yr..but that guys didn't say anything..he waited for her..he works in a reputed manufacturing company..and she works in IT mnc...later on she came to india after an yr ..her marriage was fixed and she got married and she wanted time to get into physical relationship..that guy was so gud ..he accepted..and till now they hv not consummated thr marriage ..then unfortunately after her marriage within a week she was forced to go to Canada for project... then also neither her husband nor her inlaws said anything..they accepted her each and every decision...now she is in Canada..it will take few more mons for her to comeback..but this guy is very gud husband,son in law too...he takes care of her family and her grandparents...must say one in thousands...and that guys loves her madly...and point to be noted hers was an arranged marriage...when it comes to beauty this guys is very handsome when compared to that girl..still he loves her heart..so pure love does exist...so marriage is not to get into physical relnship..but a relation ship which is sacred and pure...</font>

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<font size="3" face="Calibri">Another case a friend of mine who loved a guy and he cheated her...but another guy who loved her sincerely accepted her as how she is..he knows her past..still he loves her..they both got married..but she needed sometime ...and that guy was too gud he waited for her to accept him and love him..almost after an year they consummated thr marriage...now they are happily leading thr married life..</font>

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<font size="3" face="Calibri">I had seen people who does everything on thr first n8 itself..be it arranged or love...it totally depends on how ur life partner is..thr are guys who understands even girls are humans..they do value our emotions...they do want us to understand them, love them whole heartedly... I really hope that I also should get a husband who values our emoitions and understands us..for me withoout love getting into phisycal relationship is impossible..again here I strongly believe in arranged marriages...just praying I should get a person who loves me whole heartedly and accept me how I am...even if he earns less or not rich also I am fine with it...just need a husband who loves only me...madly & deeply ...</font>

omg i cant blv...r u serious?????😲 😲..it seems m reading an ff...hats off to these guys.