Originally posted by: sashashyam
Dear Mansi (and Tripti and Jyothi as well),
This is a very important and pertinent question, and all the objections and puzzling elements have been covered and cogently analysed by Mansi.
No one on this thread has really been able to answer Mansi's main question to my satisfaction. I do not know about Mansi's.
Even allowing for all the standard issue reasons, the main one being that Hamida Banu sees Jodha as the winning competitor in the treasure hunt for Jalal's dil , they do not add up to a valid and credible justification for the way in which she carries on vis a vis Jodha. Monday was still ok, Tuesday was unbelievable.
I always found it bizarre that right from the beginning, Hamida discusses her son in such a negative manner with his new begum , thus lowering him even further in Jodha's eyes. Yes, she does try and qualify her criticism of Jalal by citing extenuating circumstances, but the overall approach is invariably negative. How does Hamida think that she is helping bring them together by cribbing non stop about Jalal to Jodha?
She does not like Ruqaiya, who obviously despises her as weak and of no account in the power stakes. Fair enough.
But she does nothing to make sure that Jodha, who is obviously most unpromising begum material, is also taught to compromise, adjust, be polite and accommodating to Jalal and so on, so that she gets somewhere with him.
Any sensible woman out to bring her estranged son and this new wife of his together would have worked on both of them, to smoothen the rough edges of both. A successful interlocutor has to have credibility with both the warring parties. No on can accuse Hamida Banu of being impartial between Jalal and Jodha.
Instead, all that Hamida does is to puff Jodha even more in her self-esteem,which is one of the contributory causes for the present disaster. At one point, she tells Jodha that she can do no wrong. A worse certificate to an already sanctimonious and preachy young woman could hardly have been thought of.
She does nothing to educate this small town girl in what it means to rule an empire and about what Jalal means to his subjects. Jodha seems to treat Jalal most of the time with open defiance and hostility. What does Hamida do to tackle this bent of mind? Nothing.
That she feels her son is in the wrong means nothing; if she wants to bring them together, she has to get some hold on Jalal as well. This cannot be obtained by constantly siding with Jodha.
Lastly, Mansi, I too was startled by Hamida's priorities on Tuesday, as Jalal lies on what is presumed to be his death bed.
The only explanation I can think of is that Hamida's love for her son is a theoretical construct, not one from the heart. Maybe his passing would also have been only a theoretical loss, not a gut wrenching, corrosive grief.
Whereas, her sudden obsession with this Rajput girl is a real passion, into which she pours all the reserves of her maternal feelings in which her son is not interested, for he still resents what she did to him as a child.
Jodha, on the other hand, laps it all up eagerly and, like Oliver Twist, is always asking for more from her Ammijaan. Which, in turn, is manna from Heaven for Hamida, who finally has found someone for whom she is all important, and who loves, respects and obeys her.
That she does not use this obedience to good effect to drill some sense into Jodha is another matter altogether.
Shyamala
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