Originally posted by: PPak
well captured analysis enjoyed reading it. Here is a counter
1. Why does Ani not proclaim love to J - yes agreed he has tried to many times, quite clearly to share hsi feeliings with J, but while he is hinting and flirting with J, he is also telling Arshi he loves her at every juncture, even with J in full earshot. What value is Anis' interest in J when he always goes back to Arshi. In fact he has said that, he will always find his way back to Arshi. Do you want J to take Ani's words seriously?. J has proclaimed her love so much more openly than Ani and many times. He just does not want to listen and understand. You think when he realizes he will layega buchaal, J already said during Avinash marriage track that acknowledging her love will cause bawaal, and Ani thinks he is talking abt Rahul.????..what bawaal will shaadi with Rahul cause? Ani has issues. While he feels intensely, when he wants something, he is so afraid of it that he cant see the truth.
2 fold answer, - 1. he cannot read signals J has clearly sent (why is a red flag) and 2. he consistently sends out mixed signals. If J really thought Ani loved her, she would expect him to still keep his commitments, but is it unreasonable to expect that he avoids open declarations of love and eagerness to marry Arshi asap.
You spoke of consent. Ani def does not seek consent from Jhanak in any aspect other than expressing love? Where is consent when he semi - forcefully kept her in BH, made her participate in his office show, took her shopping, out to a hotel, do ads, removed her dupatta in the hut, no end here. J for whatever reason told Ani she wants to go with Tejas, yet Ani without her consent held her back for her own good. That means for him her well being is more important than consent, no?
One more - sorry an edit. Where is consent in keeping her dad's truth and mom's letter from her. This is totally unacceptable. Who is he to decide what is good. If something happens to him, she will never learn the truth. Unbelievable control complex here. He needs to be part of her life.
2. Why does Ani want Rahul to marry J - I agree with your response, yet again he is doing this without her explicit consent. She is an adult who left him behind in Calcutta to come to Kashmir per him for Rahul. What is his business in fixing this relationship? If she wants and Rahul wants they will figure it out. They don't really need him to play Cupid. Ani has such a ownership feeling wrt J it is downright scary.
3.Why does he not proclaim his love to the world? Even though Ani has tried to communicate his feelings with J he has never given a hint of this to anyone else. Even with choton, he has never accepted his love. What badnaami for J with proclaiming his love. Exact opposite is happening here. J is seen as someone who is seducing Ani, bcos he claims he loves Arshi and only has zimmedari for J. If he becomes a man, and says he loves J and is doing all these things for her, the BH cannot accuse J of doing her best to trap Ani. Him keeping quiet is not helping her, its adding to her be-izzati, because BH is saying Ani loves Arshi - so his obsession with J is instiagted by J, and Ani is bola.
4. Why should J break the wedding? I feel very strongly here. Why should she? What confirmation she has that Ani loves her and not Arshi - mind reading? or a few occasions of flirting and words like tu berehem hai? I agree Ani's actions showed his care for J over Arshi, but with every incident end, Ani proclaims love for Arshi and his eagerness to marry her. Ani has never made J feel she is his world and Arshi means nothing. Everything he has done will make J think Ani wants her on the side and Arshi for his wife. He said he cannot think of life without her, did he ever ask her to accept the marriage, The one time he broached it, the timing made it seem like he did it to get sexual favors,he could not control himself, his words too - the climate the rain made him say it??? J asked the right question, why are you saying this -what do you want???
Ani is not a bachha for J to save him from himself, he has put her in the same position her mom died to get her out of...beizzati...he violated the purpose of her mothers death to satisfy his own need to "protect" her. How many times J has told him, her wish was to get away from BH and to let her go? She attempted suicide to get away from him, it shows she was not speaking juts like that. She felt the beizzati was worse than dying, yet Ani disregarded her wishes and made his better counsel to save her from herself. When J finds outher mom committed suicide to free her from be-izzati and Ani dumped her into more of it how will she reconcile with this? BH has called her besharam, behaya, what not? J has gone from being a strong willed spunky girl to a very docile subservient version of her, because of all she has faced at BH. She may have fared better in the shelter house.
Also J has been a shield for Ani in many scenarios, saved him from villagers, offered herself as sacrifice each time to keep safe and happy with his family and Arshi by going with Tejas. Effort in a relationship can be diff percentages across the board, but respect, love and standing in a relationship has to be 50-50. Ani has never considered J a 50% equal. The day of the patt bhawaal, Ani courtesously requests Arshi to come to his room to speak, and then orders J to go to her room. Arshi, Vinayak and others have spoke of how Ani needs to control J.
Best interst for J is to not interfere with the wedding. If Ani is truly in love with her, he will not and cannot marry another girl. After recognizing he cannot even hug Arshi he went to marry her and put sindoor even after pandit tells him not to. He has had so many excuses to postpone the wedding. Yet he is always eager to jump to get married asap to Arshi.
If J stops the wedding she will forever be called marriage wrecker. Even with doing nothing she has this tag, imagine the be-izzati she has t endure all her life. Knowing Ani's personality, if she does something to upset him, he may even bring up that she was the one who broke his relationship with Arshi. So glad she stuck to her guns and did not call the wedding off. I knew she would not. It would become untenable for her.
Also J can live with out Ani, he is the one who is needier.
5. Why dioes Ani not stop his wedding with Arshi - Vira nailed it - Its because he values his commitment to Arshi in terms of years spent, more than his love for J. Lets say J does not love him and is marrying R. OK -so if not J, then Arshi?
Ani is marrying Arshi, lying to her that he loves her, while he loves J and will imagine Arshi as J. What kind of wimp is he? If he had the guts to tell Arshi - I love J, but to honor my commitment I will marry you, thats a true man. Again here he is taking Arshi's consent to a loveless marriage away from her. Arshi is resigned to a loveless marriage and still wants Ani, but he does not know this. What kind of person is he to marry Arshi without telling her he loves another. The way he desperately wants to marry Arshi at any cost is so off putting, unless there is good reason, he has just lost all respect from me.
Somewhere Ani has to feel something for Arshi. Maybe not love or physical attraction, but there is a strong feeling here that makes him willing enough to sacrifice his entire life. I would not underestimate this feeling if I were Jhanak. It will come back to haunt her later, his guilt his need to redress the wrong done to her, esp if she cannot move on. Here banshee has openly told J she will never let her have Ani even if she has to be in a loveless relationship.
Sorry yaar long post and yes its very anti-Ani. Sorry if I offended you or any Ani lovers. Its just mean tto be a counter argument to yours. I defended him very much yesterday and Ja lso is to blame but def not equally. I was drawn to Runak for their story. The makers just destroyed the guys image. I think they are building his grey shades for later conflict and that makes me worried for my own sanity.. Im sure when he actually sees J with R or realizes that J does not love R all his ownership feeling for J will surface and she will also get weak esp if Ani gets hurt, but nothing will take away the bad taste he has brought to all the viewers.
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