Put yourself in Jassi's shoes... - Page 2

jp i think we ppl r not allowed to use our brains first of all. but if ur spking on reality. my take is same as urs., though i belive in evry relationship trust is important. and if u cant trust the person u love then u r not worth keeping the relationship... but here the prb is more of lack of communication. and also communication is the key to any relationship.
and whether its man or woman no one likes to be doormat. and each person has the right to talk out the problems
i think jassi was wrong here. she cant call herself jhansi ki rani as she ran away from the problem, thas insult to the rani yaar.

Thanks Jp for starting the topic.
Trust is important, but no one can and will trust someone 100%, 100% of the time.
What you bring up is another good point to maintain relationship-Communication!!!
But as we have seen it these people do not communicate or confront properly.
The T&D and Jassi should apologize and not justify the actions, as they are setting up a bad example. How can running away solve anything? Jassi seems to only do that.

Second bad example that Second bad example that they always show Jassi relying on or needing a man-Billu, Nandu, Purab, Armaan or now Parvatlal.

paheli said

Thanks Jp for starting the topic.
Trust is important, but no one can and will trust someone 100%, 100% of the time.
What you bring up is another good point to maintain relationship-Communication!!!
But as we have seen it these people do not communicate or confront properly.
The T&D and Jassi should apologize and not justify the actions, as they are setting up a bad example. How can running away solve anything? Jassi seems to only do that.

Second bad example that Second bad example that they always show Jassi relying on or needing a man-Billu, Nandu, Purab, Armaan or now Parvatlal.👏

i totally agree with u , a woman of today always dependent on others haha what a joke???

Jp i totally agree with ur statement"communication is the key to success in any relationship…personal or
professional. "
communication is very important...running away is not a solution to any problem....it just shows the disability to solve the problem....if she thought marrying armaan is not the right thing to do then she should said to armaan on his face rather than running away and creating shame and disgrace for her family.....T&D says that they wanna show a strong women of today's society, but running away is just cowardness....strong women is someone who would tell armaan right on his face, who would have fought for her rights in front of everyone, who would have faced every problem without disgracing her own family.....
is jassi right or armaan, is just question of our opinion....i personally think its more of jassi's fault than armaan.....armaan had full right to question and clarify things with her.....but our "brave and egoistic" jassi took that as a mistrust from armaan....
anyways jo hogya so hogya....wat we gonna do abt it....just sit and curse the makers of jjkn

JP....wow!! That was said beautifully. Except of course for the 'trust' part.
The foundation of any relation is Trust, Communication, Space & maintaining & respecting Individuality. At least according to me.
Looking at how Jassi's character has shaped up till now, well i think she can never be anybody partner...she is too full of herself. And sadly her family is to be blamed for some parts....the way her Papaji always puts her needs & wishes ahead of anyone else. So in the end, i think Jassi will be happiest ( and so will everyone else) if she remains a bachelorette.

Originally posted by: jprasad

I placed myself in Jassi's shoes. How would I have reacted? How would I
give a positive message to the woman of today? What power do I have as
a woman that I can utilize and be a role model to other women?. To be
the the best that I can be so that no one ever questions my intentions.

Armaan comes up to me and says Jassi, wah, wah, wah…cry, cry, cry…

Obviously, I would be really upset, but my inner voice says let's talk, "…
what happened? Let's talk about it. This is quite upsetting. Armaan we
have been through thick and thin. We are about to start a life together,
but if you are going to doubt me then perhaps we shouldn't get married. I
would never do anything to hurt you or make you mistrust and I would
expect the same from you. What would make you think of such a terrible
thing? I am sorry I didn't want CJ to sleep in the cold room downstairs.
He was helping me to get home and I didn't want to seem inconsiderate
so I invited him in my room. I can't believe that you would think such a
thing.

My husband put himself in Armaan's shoes and says he would have
replied to me that "I saw CJ getting up from on top of you, what was all
that? Then he comes and tells me...hey sorry buddy, things happen…
your jassi she really loves you. We had a one stand...it won't happen
again."

Then I would have asked Armaan, "Why would CJ say such a thing?
Armaan would say, "Good question, why would he say such a thing?" Both
of us would have questioned his intentions? We would have sought him
out to question him. Chances are he wouldn't know what to say…

I would go onto say, "I don't know why he would do such a thing. Look
Armaan, I love you and I believe in us. However, I also have to maintain
my self-respect and self esteem. Right now, I am really disappointed in
your reaction. Trust is very important to me and I hope that you trust me
always. I want to be the best I can be as a wife, daughter, mother, sister.
Can you help me or do you choose to not trust me?

Armaan would say to me, "Honey, I apologize…it didn't look right. I was
caught completely off guard and these thoughts have been driving me
crazy. I should not have spoken to you the way I did. It was not right...I
am still growing and I need your help to be a better man. I love you more
than life itself and I can't ever bear the thought of you with another man.
I know you would never hurt me. You are someone I look up to and
respect. You are my world and you revolve around me."

Ok, at this point my husband and I agree that we would have both felt
better and we would have learned something from this situation. For
Jassi, it is a feel good, give the world a positive message that hey you
can't mess around with me. For Armaan, the message he gives to men is
that don't judge the book by the cover.

Getting back into jprasad's shoes. Please someone I beg you if I am
wrong then tell me. I don't believe in trust, but I am making a point to
emphasize it, because isn't this the reason Jassi ran away, because of
Armaan's mistrust? More importantly than that, I believe that
communication is the key to success in any relationship…personal or
professional. This was so easily solvable, why is our intelligence being
insulted? Armaan and Jassi did the total opposite things of what was
considered normal. Therefore they are both to blame.

Jassi's shoes wouldnt fit me, they would be a total 'misfit'....😆...but even if I did do a step sisterly act and squeezed my feet into it, you are right I would not have reacted the way she did, rather I would have faced the problem and confronted Armaan. But apparently she does not have a spine (never did) and I/we do, I/we also dont train for 100 mts in the olympic nor am I/we interested in cross country running, which she apparently is. So I guess we should not be comparing her to other normal, logical people!

WOW! JP.Well said.As they say common sense is most uncommon.So it is about communication which is not so common in relationships.They should learn communication skills before marriage and during courtship.In fact your imaginary dialogue should be read by TD and writers.Sorry, they would not understand for lack of communication skills!
I cannot make out what you mean by "not trusting".

JP, very very well said!!! 👏 👏

Jassi is not normal nor should see be seen as some kind of national icon.

Don't do as Jassi does is my new slogan!!!!

JP, very well said. I probably would have done what you said. But that proves, I am not an ideal , modern woman like the great Jassi. I have not responded to the attack on my self esteem, dignity and all that the great Jassi mentioned in the letter. 😆 😆 😆 Crazy Jassi.

jprasad, tumhari udhawo pe main vari vari!! sorry, it was from mangal pandey, hehe, but you have read my mind. The way you have spoke it in human language, kash, JJKN's B R Sharan could understand this human language. Communication is they key to a successful relationship! Jasi and Armaan has that, until this big bomb explodes on them with untrust. Jassi might've thought that Armaan doesnt trust her, so she decided to be mum and except what he said and runaway from an unsuccesful relationship to her. Although, she doesn't know that, the communication that the end was lacking of truth, could've made her relationship even stronger instead of ruining her life forever.