Why so much hostility about Aarav event planning his dad's engagement?

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Posted: 10 years ago
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I don't get it.
Neil and Ragini have been divorced for 15 years!
Ragini has never indicated to Aarav that she is pining for her ex-husband and wants to be re-united with him. His dad has never indicated to him that he does not want to re-marry. His fiance Niveditha is very nice to Aarav, at face value.
His dad's engagement was announced at his sister's wedding! To everyone. No one objected. He can't read his mom's thoughts. As far as Aarav could tell, she seemed fine with it.
He is starting a new business, showing some initiative and entrepreneurship. Very admirable! And he thinks Nive is being encouraging, giving him his first project!
However, it is highly stupid of Aarav to hide this business venture from his mom. He needs to tell her that he is organizing the engagement. He hides things from her. Their relationship needs a lot work. It is a very one-sided relationship, she orders him around and he has to obey! Not healthy. They need to listen to each other more.
Aarav is starting on a better note with his dad. But they a have long way to go as well!
Aarav needs more attention from both his parents. Compared to his siblings, he is much more emotional and needy.

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Posted: 10 years ago
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My only point of contention is about Nivedita..
she is stooping lower and lower with each plan of hers..

logically of course there is nothing wrong now that both of them think the other has moved on and that Ragini is supposed to be 'married' to Aman for everyone concerned..

Wish Aarav knew about this fake marriage business! He does not even know that there is an act going on!
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Well he is one sensitive brat.
Wonder why he didn't think once about asking his Mom why she hasn't moved on ?
Or whether she would be OK with his arranging his Father's engagement party ? Even if there are no feelings involved, these are typically sensitive issues for families. People don't connect happy emotions with divorces.generally.
But I guess he is so naive and innocent, that it works for him. After all, it's just business.

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Posted: 10 years ago
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I don't think Aarav has any serious intentions of being an entrepreneur.. Forget about him being a naive boy .. The other day, when his Dad was asking about his studies, he was much focussed into studies and wanted his Dad's genuine help to score in Maths .. But now .. Out of a sudden, he realizes he has no interest in studies... After a couple of altercations with Ranbir+Shilpa and Shilpa accepting her love for Ranbir, he has become so disturbed .. WHY ? The other day he had a quarrel with his Mom for the possession of Shilpa and just because she refused to interfere in her son's internal fights and asked him to better focus on studies ... He lost his interest in studies and has lately developed a HATE for his mother ? Did he ever try to understand his mother's role, that too as a single parent, in his upbringing ? Just for some foolish baseless so called 'love' ..he's after his Mom .. Does Shilpa mean so much to him that he is ready to ditch his mother to win Shilpa's heart ... He is a teenager and is mature enough to think that what his Mom is advising him is for his own good ..
And now we get to know .. another quarrel in the coming when he yells at his mother regarding his first business deal ...

Dude .. High time you realize the importance of parents in your life .. I can assure you that NO BOY OR GIRL CAN LOVE YOU AS MUCH AS YOUR PARENTS LOVE YOU ... Learn to respect your parents .. Without them you would never have been here in the first place ...
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Planning your dad's engagement with some other lady without taking permission from your mother :/
Thats quite a big deal and then you react as if your mother has done nothing for you in these years! Too much.
Apart from all these things yes ofcourse good parenting is much required for him.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: poetic

Well he is one sensitive brat.

Wonder why he didn't think once about asking his Mom why she hasn't moved on ?
Or whether she would be OK with his arranging his Father's engagement party ? Even if there are no feelings involved, these are typically sensitive issues for families. People don't connect happy emotions with divorces.generally.
But I guess he is so naive and innocent, that it works for him. After all, it's just business.

I recall Nishi saying (to Pam) that both she and Aarav had tried to convince their mom to move on and marry Dr. Aman, but she had refused.
It doesn't appear that Ragini has shared her reasons for not moving on with her children. She comes across as a very private person. I think if they knew of her real feelings for Neil, and that she still loves him, I think they would react differently.
And yes I agree that arranging his dad's engagement to someone else, (even after 15 years) can be a sensitive issue and he needs to discuss it with his mom. But they've never had a good relationship. They barely communicate about important things. And emotions get swept under the rug. Ragini handled his Shilpa obsession very badly. And now he is handling the engagement badly.
But he is allowed to make mistakes, he is only 17.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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He just wants to find a way to get at Ragini. I find it pathetic that he sees this as an opportunity. Like really, is Neil going to give him the acceptance just because he did a good job of planning his marriage.. ?


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Posted: 10 years ago
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Oh, N will be ecstatic with a gem of a son. Budding entrepreneur instead.
Wonder why his Mom refused to gift wrap Shilpa and give it to him ? Mainly because Shilpa doesn't care for him. That's what Shilpa had told Ranbir at their first meeting that she didn't harbor any feelings for Aarav, though she respected Ragini.
N should really take this one with him when he goes to Us with Nice.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Aarav is way too immature for his age... he is a big fool...yeah...fool. At 16 he is already in love and he is always wanting a rich lifestyle. Thats all.

At 16 most of normal kids, think about their schooling, their education, their future and their aims in life. But this boy never thinks of this...he is infatuated towards Shilpa and thinking that its love.. Moreover, he always compare his life with his rich friends life. He is always getting affected by his friends and now his other siblings rich lifestyle. He just wanted to enjoy richness.. And am really sorry to say...but Ragini's efforts are all wasted by her both kids..nishi n aarav. They are the most selfish kids on the earth and never think of their mother. No doubt..Ragini thinks herself as a failure.

Coming to his business...first off all he is not enough mature to start business...Again..he is hiding his activities from his mother and on the top of it...he is starting his so called business with his own father's engagement. His parents are divorced or not...its not important.. But he at least should inform his mother...seek her permission.

But this guy in so much hurry that he is not at all bothering about his mother and he even don't know what his mother gone through for last many years and how much she will be hurt after knowing this truth.

Currently he needs a psychiatrist...counselor.

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