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Originally posted by: tashi26

Have they actually??

Arnav eventually wanted to share and he would have shared so when he couldn’t he went to Aakash but he was too late,( he had hurt her a lot specially in the month of November that even if there was no lunatic episode khushi would have been hurt as he took all the decisions on both their behalf.)

Also khushi was so hurt who would want to listen after the lunatics pics.

And no wife would want to hear from her husband that after 10 years he replaced her because he found someone more sophisticated.

But yes had they talked like Aakash said may be things would have been different.

But one thing I don’t get it how was lunatic so sure that Khushi will not show the pics to Arnav?

Or she knew about Khushi’s insecurities about her background or she started the rumours of her being infertile.

God knows what goes on in that lunatic’s mind. 😂😂

Originally posted by: Learrntowrite

No no I get it. I don’t blame Arnav alone at all.

but I think in the last few chapters more light has been shed on it.

When Arnav decided to try for a baby, till then Khushi also wanted a child. It was only after the Nov-Dec’15 behaviour of Arnav that she steps back and decides that she doesn’t want a child.

When they were trying, she didn’t tell him she doesn’t want a child because she wanted one back then. She just wanted to wait till things were a little better between them and Arnav can finally be onboard one day.

Yeah she does want a child and saw Arnav being half heartedly ready. But why are we expecting her to immediately give up her dream of being a mother. Why was it wrong on her part to assume she can make things better because till now she has always done that.

Plus, Arnav mentioned that he never wanted to discuss with her why this sudden change of heart because he would lose the will and the courage.
Arnav was the one to put a stop to this discussion after dumping his acceptance for a child on her head and expected Khushi to agree because that’s what she wanted. Pill was a wise decision by her.

And Arnav clearly mentioned why he went away from Khushi this time. It was because he felt relieved everytime she told him she wasn’t pregnant yet. She was trying to talk to him and spend time with him but that time just made him realise that he absolutely does want a child even though he tried. Plus she was also afraid that the smallest of disagreements and he was abandoning her.

It wasn’t because of these 4 months he became convicted that Khushi wanted a child more than him. On the contrary she was trying to get things back to normal between them. He got concerned because he saw her with leher twice.

I have always maintained my stand that Arnav loves Khushi a lot. More than it shows in the FF and probably more than we know. I don’t find him guilty on any other count.

But communication stonewalling is his doing. Probably his only mistake. She repeatedly asked him what was wrong and even when she stopped talking about the baby altogether. Kept asking him to come back and he kept sending her away. At the end of the day she is also a human. She also has her limits. I can’t fault her for not immediately giving up her dream of a baby for a husband who wouldn’t even talk and hoping that he might change his mind someday. This is exactly how Arnav also saw her decision and situation and I think the author clarified, had the pill thing not happened, Arnav would have thought that she lied in her anniversary letter about not wanting a child since she could do anything to save the marriage.

Yes , he did wrong but then he was also right in assuming that no baby meant they have nothing common anymore. Yes he didn’t talk or come back to bed because he had decided to call quits because their ways forked. The very reason he wanted khushi to move on. There was no point in talking and sleeping together when they wanted completely different things from life. He couldn’t pretend that everything is all right when they were not. For khushi her traditional background would never have allowed to even dream about it . What stopped her to put her foot down on trying for baby if he doesn’t want to talk!!! I agree pill was the only option.Ok she had hopes but even after he left the bedroom, she skirts around the topic ignoring the elephant in the room asking him what’s wrong,doesn’t make everything alright . What stopped her telling him about the pills after he left the bedroom . Yes she was hurting but he was too.
The lunatics episode has pushed them to the edge but they both were walking towards it. I don’t understand why it’s only his fault. To him khushi wanted what he can’t give so holding on to her makes both of them miserable!!! The most important talk never happened because of lunatic episode. It was no one’s fault.

I know I’m coming off as bipolar 🤣 but this is simply because somehow I can empathise with both these characters and call them out on mistakes which I believe they made. (Miscommunication in Arnav’s part and insecurities on Khushi’s)

Originally posted by: Arilip

Yes , he did wrong but then he was also right in assuming that no baby meant they have nothing common anymore. Yes he didn’t talk or come back to bed because he had decided to call quits because their ways forked. The very reason he wanted khushi to move on. There was no point in talking and sleeping together when they wanted completely different things from life. He couldn’t pretend that everything is all right when they were not. For khushi her traditional background would never have allowed to even dream about it . What stopped her to put her foot down on trying for baby if he doesn’t want to talk!!! I agree pill was the only option.Ok she had hopes but even after he left the bedroom, she skirts around the topic ignoring the elephant in the room asking him what’s wrong,doesn’t make everything alright . What stopped her telling him about the pills after he left the bedroom . Yes she was hurting but he was too.
The lunatics episode has pushed them to the edge but they both were walking towards it. I don’t understand why it’s only his fault. To him khushi wanted what he can’t give so holding on to her makes both of them miserable!!! The most important talk never happened because of lunatic episode. It was no one’s fault.

I agree. His reasoning was solid. That they wanted different things and they should move on to diff things. He also knew Khushi would choose the marriage and he will have to make her understand.

When he left the next time I think our understanding is different. When this time he left FF write something in the lines of she didn’t know what to do anymore. Prior to that, Arnav was pretending to stay back and sleep in his study. But this time, he straight up moved into a different room. This was the time when he believed even Khushi finally stopped trying.

I don’t blame her for that. This must have happened around August September and by October shit had hit the fan. She can take a couple of months to calm down too. Being abandoned again and again will have her feeling bad too.

And even then, by the time she came back from Lucknow she had decided that this was too much. That she was going to talk to him but she was met by a husband who wouldn’t even talk anymore (not blaming him for avoiding her in guilt but just writing from her POV).

What we wanted her to do, step up, talk to her husband and let him know that he matters the most is exactly what she did even after being ghosted in the worst way. Her letter says that all. This was the whole point of her letter.

Frankly. If she takes a couple of months to figure out how to reach out to a husband who isn’t even ready to see her anymore, I don’t see a fault with that.

I’ll keep my stand clear. Arnav had made no other mistake other than pushing her away in his guilt. And I am soooo rooting for him to get his due justice. But From Khushi’s pov it’s extremely tough too. She is his wife at the end of the day. She shouldn’t go begging all the time while he is dismissing her every time amd walking out of any discussions. Or stopping them altogether.

This following paragraph is him, burning in guilt and assuming what he wanted to assume even when Khushi became normal.

And so, he started to shush down his consciousness. The one that told him that Khushi was only pretending to be alright. Maybe she’ll learn to be really happy without a child. That was what he found solace in when he noticed Khushi behaving normally with him.

here’s Arnav’s reasoning for what I said after moving out of the room

He did move back to his room after Leher’s birth; both of them trying to make things look normal to the point that they weren’t themselves around each other anymore. Khushi had wanted to talk, spend time together and he obliged half-heartedly. He knew that Khushi was trying to bring back the old equation; wanting to reconnect instead of only sleeping together. An equation where he didn’t have to pretend that he hadn’t almost moved out of their room. But at the end of the day, he knew why he was there.

He must have done a really poor job of convincing himself for this child because each month, when Khushi told him she wasn’t pregnant just yet, relief washed over his whole universe. But the resolve lasted whole of four months. He just did not want it. It was clear as day.

And so, he took the coward’s way out.

This time when he went to work away for the night, he did not come back. Days turn to weeks easily and he must have hurt her good this time because she did not protest much. And he had an inkling why.

Earlier, at least just for the sake of it, both of them could at least pretend that he fell asleep working in his study. But this time, he had started to spend time in the guest room next to it. This was him cowardly telling Khushi that he did not want to go back to ‘their room’. His stuff gradually moved in there and it had somehow become official. They were living separately.

What I’m trying to say here is that both of them need to go to therapy 🤣

Khushi is the last one who should be blamed for anything at all.

Her only fault was she loved a little too much, she never thought that a marriage like their's could be called quits, she never thought even after giving so much to the marriage, to the husband, the husband can think that a baby would be more important to her than him, she never thought that her husband will think a woman like her can go on to another man have a family and be happy, she never thought that her arnav will think she can ever un-love him.

Even khushi never thought on these lines in her DML even after her husband literally went on to ghost her. In her DML khushi never thought that may be arnav doesn't love her anymore, this was not even a possibility for her, why because she herself could never do that. It was only after the photos she thought on those lines. Such was her love.

And if even after so long someone doesn't understand all these then i donot think she should be at fault for it.

Why is it always khushi who needs to understand everything?

Arnav didn't even gave her the chance or the time to sulk like a wife should with her husband for something that she wants, as it is her haaq.

Except the deed with la, everything else was his own doing in his own head. I am not discounting him on anything else except the ONS.

Period.

Originally posted by: Savera84

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Originally posted by: Arilip

That’s what she knew they don’t talk. Also makes me think she fed khushi something else to make sure!!!
Khushi didn’t go to the parties but waited for Arnav to come back and tell her all about it, that means that wasn’t a big problem and it worked for them. Then where did the insecurities about being gawar and unsophisticated came. In Arnav’s musings he always thought she is very graceful.
Also he didn’t take any decision, he wanted to talk with her about why it isn’t working between them anymore. If lunatics episode didn’t happen then he would have gotten a chance to finally talk. He had no need to engage lawyers.He didn’t ignore khushi that month ,he was too guilty to even look at her. He had decided that to wait for parents to come . He couldn’t have just played house with her in that situation.Just the thought about letting her go had pushed him to panic and that created more mess.

I am not blaming anyone, we all know what was going through our characters minds when they were taking the decisions they took.

But both of them did not communicate. Khushi also decided to but on the day of anniversary. Yes she did not share her insecurities before about why she felt uncomfortable going to the parties.

But also Arnav did decide that there should be a divorce, he wanted to make her understand not discuss because he was so sure whatever he was doing was right for the both of them.

And he was sure about the divorce when he made her leave his room and she did not want to go to Bhagwanpur. That’s what he told himself.

His biggest reason he was sure of divorce is also because Khushi’s happiness seemed forceful to him. Even when he made her room, he did not like when she knocked or tried hard to smile.

If he was not sure why would he tell it to lunatic and her sidekick though I do understand his guilt but still that doesn’t make it right.

I know his reasons were to protect Khushi but he should have talked to her before he decided her divorce is the best option.

And Khushi will ask him these things and she should if in future they even want to have a balanced relationship.

If lunatics episode had not happened both of them would have talked, Arnav would have found her letter, in fact Arnav himself might have dropped plans of getting a divorce after he saw khushi smile wholeheartedly, when she was back to being the way she was before with him after she came back from Lucknow.

So I don’t blame anyone, both of them in their round about way were protecting each other. Loving each other.

Originally posted by: VeiledWords

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Originally posted by: ilfordian

🤔😈😃😊While we are waiting for the next episode this is what I think. Arnav is going through a midlife crisis and a seven er ten-year itch. Arnav did not have a normal everyday life as a university student. He had to work to provide for his family and pay for his father's illness. His girlfriend left him .then he got married reluctantly to Khushi but the marriage was good. Khushi was a great help in stabilising his life by taking care of his house and his obligations from his meagre earnings, They had a happy married life but as he became successful and rich they grew apart. Khushi could not embrace Arnav's new lifestyle. They did not have anything in common and Arnav wanted out of the marriage. He believed he did not love Khushi and that Khushi too was unhappy with the marriage. He wanted to be free to pursue excitement which was lacking in his marriage. He believed Khushi will be happy without him and he had enough money to provide for his family and Khushi. There are no children so one less problem.

He will be free to jump off the high cliffs and go off to Nepal. drink, smoke and indulge in drugs. He would go roaming on "The Beach" with his infamous boxers up or down sowing his 'wild oats'.Hopefully, he has done vasectomy , so that his wild oats do not sprout or he will have to go back to the grind to feed and nourish his seedlings.😊

Khushi will take control of her own life. She is resourceful. She made Arnav's drab house into a beautiful house. She can turn her hand to interior designing, creating beautiful gardens in small places like balconies or terraces. Of course, she is staying back in Mumbai. If she accepts money from Arnav it will be as a loan and she can easily pay it back. Maybe in future, she will find her soulmate and have a family.😃

Lavanya? She gives up acting and tags along with Arnav, But if she hopes that Arnav will build a nest for her, she would be wrong. Arnav like a peacock will be fliting among hens and Lavanya will have to join his peafowl harem to stay with him😈

Epilogue: Years later Arnav returns with Lavanya still tagging on. He will find her the perfect partner for the life he wants to lead. They will go hand in hand to the parties but will not come back together. They will live a happy life as "swingers"🤔

Phew!!! 'All sorted' as the Londoners would say.

Originally posted by: tashi26

she posted about being stuck in office plus the poor girl is sleep deprived. I think DML are taking a toll on her more than us because things as a reader are becoming easier but she has to explain so much as a writer in detail.

Even she is surprised lunatics pov is also of 15k words approx 😜

She ofcourse needs to after all that she put us through for 3 months straight with the illusion of it being a story on infidelity.

GODDDDDD can't believe i suffered soooo much thinking of it all as infidelity, an affair and what not. I feel bad for myself man, the amount of tears i have shed, sleepless nights, crying in the middle of my AD, in middle of my exam, in middle of a class full of audiences, getting dark circles even UFFFFF. 🙆‍♀️

I was literally mind f cked and heart f cked.

This is arpita's redemption now 😈

She needs to tie all the loose ends now that she so cleverly put for making us belief that it was indeed an affair.. 😂😂

YOU ARE VERY CHALAK BRO, CHALAK BRO CHAALAAK. 🤣