Originally posted by: VeiledWords
Thank you Ari, for taking out the time and sharing your view ♥️😊😊😊
So, let me come to the comment and the points.
I’ll address the distance within the same house part first. A lot of it needs to be see from Khushi’s pov but I think there are enough clues spread throughout the story that I can make some comments without spoiling it for the readers. :) You did guess correctly, things started going south somewhere in late 2014. Let me quote the paragraph here where Arnav and Khushi are in hospital for leher’s birth around march 2015.
“This was the first time in ten years when they have been away from each other for a week and had not spoken to each other at all. The disagreements had been escalating and things had worsened to the point where Arnav was now spending majority of his nights inside his study. On some days Khushi had wandered into his study, asking him to come back to bed, only for Arnav to tell her that she was adding to his stress by being up till so late because of him. She eventually stopped. And every now and then when Arnav did go back to their bedroom, she did not make a big deal out of it.”
I don’t intend to say Khushi took it lightly. The first time Arnav went away, they just had a fight and Arnav actually went away to work and ended up spending the whole night there. Then it mentions that they did have related fights about the topic (well, the kind of fights they were capable of since both of them opt for not letting their emotions take control and yell out things). It did get uncomfortable to the point where Arnav opted to stay away and Khushi did try to reach out to him, asking him to come back unless he pointed she was just adding to his stress. I don’t think Khushi is that kind of confrontational. She stopped pestering him but up until this point, Arnav did go back to their room, even if scarcely. Also, I leave it to reader’s discretion but in my head, it would have happen just gradually.
This, I also leave it to readers but both of them may have tried some sort of reconciliation after this. Especially the whole trying for a child part. I don’t think they’re the kind of a couple where Arnav would have spent time with her just for the sake of sleeping with her. This according to him, was also his effort in trying to salvage this clearly sinking relationship because he tells Payal that he did try, even if he was forcing himself to the idea of parenthood for Khushi’s sake.
But the cracks go deeper than this. It’s the aftermath of the half hearted attempts at trying to make a baby and not tackling the real problems brewing between them that the final fall out happened; which would have happened gradually too, I believe. (Again, some of this, for the sake of clarity, NEEDS to be addressed in the story itself)
Coming to the point of pills. We have just known that Khushi thought it was the correct option since Arnav wasn’t ready. Arnav did not counter this point, even after reading the letter because he knows it was the truth, no matter what he says. I believe there are things that partners just know. Simply by the virtue of having lived with each other for so long. Plus, Arnav was the one who was putting his foot down on the discussion, absolutely denying it and cementing that Khushi and Arnav did not deal with the real problems.
What took Khushi so long? I believe she was the only one who was even reaching in the first place. It didn’t take her too long. She had just stopped for sometime which Arnav had misread as Khushi giving up on the marriage too :)
I hope I was able to put to rest some of the doubts if not all ☺️
Rest, these two obviously did make the mistakes which has resulted in the whole mess anyway 😅
I am deducing my thoughts from the story so far and willing to wait for the insights but couldn’t hold back myself from responding..
Has Arnav ever thought from Khushi's perspective, he dumped his decision on her to not have kids she desperately wanted. And to avoid pressure from family, he further expected her to disconnect from the family just like he did. He didn’t give her proper reason or discussed either to deny kids, now they are rich, can afford plenty of servants, she can take up more responsibility of kids just like she took more responsibility in making the home. Did he step up to talk and find middle ground when he knew his decision is the main bone of content and caused hurt, unhappiness for her too? She clearly asked him will you ever change your decision and care for my feelings? That speaks volume of his selfishness and ignorance too.
In spite she kept trying and trying and when she gave up, he conveniently used it as she too is unhappy and doesn't want marriage; and that is because he did not want it anymore. it was him who distanced her, his way of life is Khushi must abide by his decisions and his choices of lifestyle too.. Khushi had no close friends or family to share and get advise from, she was any day lonelier & more hurt than Arnav because she is the one who is asked to sacrifice the biggest wish any woman can have especially traditional one like Khushi without proper justification.. How many sacrifices is he expecting from her? They both became stubborn not to compromise for the other but in the end, again it was Khushi who thought to fix differences while Arnav chose the divorce that too after cheating...
He had already moved on to satisfy his needs outside the marriage! He knows they both were unhappy and hurting, did he ask himself will Khushi cheat and go to another man to have a baby like he went to other woman for his physical needs?? He knew that she will never cheat on him ever and still he chose to cheat. He could have simply discussed, separated before cheating, dumped the decision of separation on her too as usual, then go to whoever he wants. His dalliance with Lavanya doesn't seem to be one time, his big fat ego or guilt or pride stopped him from talking to his wife across the room but allowed him to sleep with another woman and continue after; in the excuse of hurt, loneliness, and unresolved issues that he himself created in the first place, unbelievable ???
Arnav has gone through interesting personal changes while chasing power and money! He disanced himself from his own family, ghosted his wife of 10 years, most importantly who supported him through his worst days.. The Anamika, Lavanya or any other woman will never be his foundation like that, he knew it. Now even Lavanya was in his life for 6+ years, though she is equally horrible, despicable woman, she was there to warm his bed and to talk as well when he was lonely or whatever; but then he dumped her unceremoniously and ghosted her too... What does it speak about him? The changed Arnav to me is epitome of narcisst behavior; look at his decision making style, self importance & ego/pride, assumptions that suit his agenda, lack of empathy, very few boundaries for himself and the list goes on...
We cannot cover up Arnav's sin and behavior just because he worked hard all his life, so did Khushi. To me, there is no excuse for cheating, period! Sorry if I am coming too strong for a fictional story (I need to do ancestry, I sure have Polish roots, haha ) but in real world the mental toll it takes on the partner that got cheated, takes years to heal and they still keep blaming and asking themselves what they could have done differently, when actually they are not at fault.. This is universal no matter small town in India, London, or California where we live... Let us not glorify cheating, please… The story is of 21st century, more modern and open society where world has become pragmatic, no one dies from heartbreak.. These days divorces or separation are ok in small villages in India too.. I visit India every year and I am amazed how modern and realistic people have become where as people like us who have been staying out for years seem to be more culturally attached. Nothing negative, just an observation..
Arpita this is for you - story aisi likho ki khud ki story pe reply na karane wale bhi crazily reply karane lage.. I am never this serious in real life... ha ha
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