Originally posted by: Arilip
Another one to fall in your trap, commenting after years in India forums 😊
Somehow ,sneaking behind khushi like she mentioned at the end of the update doesn’t at all go inline with the proud Arnav you created.
So , I do think that Arnav felt alone with khushi emotionally abandoning him . Whatever relationship he forged with lavanya definitely was not affair, I think he was hurt and gave in to lavanya . Lavanya did mention that she is grieving, because she did understand that whatever relationship she was able to get Arnav in , had taken a big hit with this. He felt immensely guilty and his pride came for his rescue, and he instead of apologising for this he took it as a sign that he has moved on from khushi!! Hence the divorce!!! Only to realise that she is integrated with him so much , that parting was not possible!! I loved that even after his realisation he waited to know if khushi has a fair chance to move on. For he knew the heartbreak it will cause her. When his pride was at peak he even was ready to use the same thing to get divorce from khushi. It made him think this way he will be finally away from any responsibility and be free. But khushi’s easy acceptance and the whirlwind around it has brought the EGO down and now he could clearly see the damage…
Cheating is a very sensitive topic and when it comes to Arnav khushi it’s really not welcome!!! But kudos to you I am hooked to this story!!!
For many people world is black or white, but things are all sort of colours. If he has cheated, of course he has done a sin . But I do like to see the reason. Circumstances sometimes make ppl do what they never could even think. I have recently come across someone very dear to me pushed into this situation, I could never support him but I did understand how lonely and suffocated he felt in his relationship. Sometimes it’s hard for men as the society expects them to do the right thing.
Arnav has taken his families responsibility from a very young age and his marriage was also was a huge responsibility for him . It was good that he found an understanding partner like khushi . So when he didn’t want the responsibility of a child , I can understand him.
I somehow failed to understand khushi, and I trust you to give us her insights. For now as much as I love the bubbly 19 year old. I don’t understand this khushi. If she didn’t want Arnav to go through the agony of having a child , why let him believe that they are trying to get pregnant. Cheating is not just sleeping with someone else, it is also letting your partner believe something that is not true. While she understood that he is giving in to hold the relationship, why couldn’t she assure him that he didn’t have to do any of it. I really don’t know why she kept running to lukhnow when it was hurting them both!!! I understand that their fights started mainly because of it. I guess the timeline to be around starting of 2014 which makes it 2 years!! What took her so long to write that letter!!!!!! From the little glimpse we got of her mind she seems to believe that he never loved her!! I guess that in light of what she knows about lavanya , and with her own insecurities she concluded that. For her sleeping with someone is a huge emotional deal, very true to women!!
I am from a very small city and somewhat similar story is my marriage. I got married to a highly educated and handsome guy. I ended up in London and all our friends are much more educated than me I do understand khushi’s insecurities!!!
What I don’t understand is how she turned blind eye to the increasing distance between them. She is no more 19 year old. She worked at a ngo she should know what women go through to dismiss a very willing husband stating his parties boring!!!
Once we fought and I slept in the other room, my mum was here and she told me to never to do that again. Work on the differences, and always be there for him to hold , if he is your world then show him. It’s not always about sex , sleeping in separate rooms creates more differences than any fights. I understand they have been doing that for months!! I don’t know what exactly were they thinking. I really need to know how traditionally bound ever loving khushi ignored this!!!
Arnav always was indifferent and critical about society and with anger and ego he became more comfortable with the idea. And that made him lonely. His pride stopped him approaching khushi and he fed his ego with every instance.
Phew!!!!!!
Thank you Ari, for taking out the time and sharing your view ♥️😊😊😊
So, let me come to the comment and the points.
I’ll address the distance within the same house part first. A lot of it needs to be see from Khushi’s pov but I think there are enough clues spread throughout the story that I can make some comments without spoiling it for the readers. :) You did guess correctly, things started going south somewhere in late 2014. Let me quote the paragraph here where Arnav and Khushi are in hospital for leher’s birth around march 2015.
“This was the first time in ten years when they have been away from each other for a week and had not spoken to each other at all. The disagreements had been escalating and things had worsened to the point where Arnav was now spending majority of his nights inside his study. On some days Khushi had wandered into his study, asking him to come back to bed, only for Arnav to tell her that she was adding to his stress by being up till so late because of him. She eventually stopped. And every now and then when Arnav did go back to their bedroom, she did not make a big deal out of it.”
I don’t intend to say Khushi took it lightly. The first time Arnav went away, they just had a fight and Arnav actually went away to work and ended up spending the whole night there. Then it mentions that they did have related fights about the topic (well, the kind of fights they were capable of since both of them opt for not letting their emotions take control and yell out things). It did get uncomfortable to the point where Arnav opted to stay away and Khushi did try to reach out to him, asking him to come back unless he pointed she was just adding to his stress. I don’t think Khushi is that kind of confrontational. She stopped pestering him but up until this point, Arnav did go back to their room, even if scarcely. Also, I leave it to reader’s discretion but in my head, it would have happen just gradually.
This, I also leave it to readers but both of them may have tried some sort of reconciliation after this. Especially the whole trying for a child part. I don’t think they’re the kind of a couple where Arnav would have spent time with her just for the sake of sleeping with her. This according to him, was also his effort in trying to salvage this clearly sinking relationship because he tells Payal that he did try, even if he was forcing himself to the idea of parenthood for Khushi’s sake.
But the cracks go deeper than this. It’s the aftermath of the half hearted attempts at trying to make a baby and not tackling the real problems brewing between them that the final fall out happened; which would have happened gradually too, I believe. (Again, some of this, for the sake of clarity, NEEDS to be addressed in the story itself)
Coming to the point of pills. We have just known that Khushi thought it was the correct option since Arnav wasn’t ready. Arnav did not counter this point, even after reading the letter because he knows it was the truth, no matter what he says. I believe there are things that partners just know. Simply by the virtue of having lived with each other for so long. Plus, Arnav was the one who was putting his foot down on the discussion, absolutely denying it and cementing that Khushi and Arnav did not deal with the real problems.
What took Khushi so long? I believe she was the only one who was even reaching in the first place. It didn’t take her too long. She had just stopped for sometime which Arnav had misread as Khushi giving up on the marriage too :)
I hope I was able to put to rest some of the doubts if not all ☺️
Rest, these two obviously did make the mistakes which has resulted in the whole mess anyway 😅
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