Indi di I have been thinking about what you wrote above about Khushi and you are absolutely right. I guess it is our opinion and some people may differ but I also think she wouldn't have reacted this way. The girl who was willing to get carried away on Diwali had progressed so much in her relationship with this man. I am willing to understand why khushi wanted to complete the wedding..maybe she was young and her sense of right and wrong overshadowed what already felt natural and right to her. But we are talking about post kidnapping so Khushi had already acknowledged all the love in her heart for her Arnavji and also knew how much he cared about her. And if she felt just because they hadn't taken pheras they aren't really married it somehow makes me very sad. It undermines everything that their love has withstood.When Arnav on the terrace says "don't our feelings matter? and who are these people anyway?" I felt so proud of him and also so bad for him. His wife should have understood him. Even when everyone was making the big fuss about the wedding being incomplete he kept saying "whats the big deal? Why are you making this so big?". "I am willing to marry my wife again" sort of vindicated him.I can't tell you how happy I was that they showed the farmhouse scene before the marriage. i wasn't expecting it but it was very very welcome. Khushi and Arnav in their own world. Drawn together by love and desire and not bound by the shackles of worldly right and wrong. When Arnav utter "Khushi.." trying hard to resist the urge and when Khushi not only surrenders but embraces the feeling. perfect! Also when Khushi wakes up the next day there is one fleeting moment when sanaya does express the wonder of the night before. I would have absolutely adored a more pink blushing sharmati Khushi even when she spoke to Arnav on the phone instead of the sort of over chirpy Khushi we get to see. But then am so thankful she did not regret it that I will happily will take her acceptance and not ask for more.Then coming to the Sheetal track. It seemed so unreal that Khushi would only be worried about Aarav. Why didn't they show her being more hurt or getting jealous? Where is the "uske baal noch lenge". Confused ok but is it this easy to accept such a thing? Not even ask Arnav about it? And when he denied it not believe him? Just dismiss it all? A real girl can't be this way right? And a woman madly in love with her husband definitely can't be so lightly touched by all this. I get it that they wanted to keep the mood light but why? The early revelation of her engagement to Shyam and his to Lavanya had brought such raw emotions onto screen and then something this big just got undermined. It just felt off.Sorry for rushing ahead with the story lines.. we will come to it some day but your post had me obsessing about all this. The newly remarried Khushi even make up wise I felt was suspiciously a little "too pink" and very rarely seemed to care about what Arnav really wanted. It hurt me to see this change. Your words expressed the vague feeling i always had about what went wrong.
aarwen,
thanks for that thoughtful one on kkg. horizon and i have often chatted about this. all the things you point out are so true... and that love and sex connect when it is made less, not understood for its essentiality and beauty, aaah what a loss.
this story was about love, a deep even painful look at it... honest in a way i'd rarely seen anything be. and yet so light frothy lovely. the wedding was forced into the plot and somehow the writers never could get into it properly. the contract marriage that never really got talked about, the issue of what's sex really when two people love each other... and that ridiculous remarriage.
i can see khushi uncomfortable during suhag raat because she had a set of beliefs and dadi's behaviour was possibly making her terribly uncomfortable, i can see asr first a bit worried then even losing his patience, since he'd been so giving and patient (poor baby ha ha not his thing this) with her ever since she walked out on him and he figured it out... i can even understand the sr didn't work out if it is handled with honesty, in a way that feels arnav and khushi.
that was the crux of it for me... it just didn't feel right.
nor did many things after that. i too thought sheetal was brought in for the chudail factor... and giggled thinking how tight the writing was and now finally we'd see khsuhi claiming her haq... in every way.
but instead...
i went and looked at what i'd written the first time i saw farmhouse. i too was very proud of khushi for finally figuring things out and understanding sex is not the thing, love is. i was delighted and thanked the writers in my mind. but i realised i was so desperate at the way kkg was being portrayed that i actually tried to make sense of it and said, yeah maybe i understood why she rejected him during suhag raat...
i did not.
i was trying to somehow hold onto something close to my heart while it was cast aside and allowed to disintegrate.
also at that point every little positive thing used to make my heart leap with joy. just days before that, i'd raved and ranted about remarriage on the forum... can't tell you how many times i thought ipk was back, and then would come the "what the!" moment and the sadness in me.
now thankfully, we all know the story, and i am here because i can't stay away... 😆 i am hoping not to get too rattled as the difficult days come in...
in the farmhouse... barun's expressions, movements, portrayal of the longing, the hesitation, the concern, the submission, the sheer need, his body language... incomparable.
i was watching it last night. yeah, at 3am...just missing this actor so badly. 😆
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