NEW TRACK=KHUSHI'S REFLECTION/NAYI SOCH

I'm an avid reader of this forum and just had to post my feelings on this upcoming track,

There's two things I want to say, and it will be lengthy so bear with me.

1.) Khushi understanding Arnav's total past:

I've always seen Khushi as the girl who is in love with the idea of being in love.She was always being chastised by Buaji for talking about her wedding, she had big plans for her wedding, and when she was trying to make LA a bride, we saw how much she believed in love and marriage.

Pre-Diwali of last year, we saw Khushi in what I call 'puppy love' phase version 1.0: she's confused and seeing Arnav everywhere, dhak dhak-acidity, etc. Then there's the 'attempted kiss, followed by a cool off period where she believes that he's not into her, etc, etc.

Eventually, we get to the Payash wedding events, and while Arnav is aware of his feelings and is in hot pursuit of Khushi, Khushi, who has always had a soft corner for him, is back in puppy love version 2.0 phase, and is seen teasing him and challenging him and enjoying this flirtation. We all know she was waiting for him to confess his love for her on the terrace pre-Shyam fiasco.

In all this time, we see the 'realization' of love, the glory days of young love, the excitement, the rush of emotions, etc. So while their love is there, it is starting to develop enough for outsiders to see (Nani, Anjali, Shyam).

Then, the 6 month marriage began and they began to grow accustomed to each other, while hiding their love from each other. The kidnapping event is what set things in motion when they finally realized that they love each other and can't live without each other, they are husband and wife. Their love, which had been hidden, is now out and in the open and though they haven't said the words, it's there for everyone to see. They're basking in this new level of love, completely and totally.

Dadi's entry focused on Arnav's dark past, and Khushi is finally able to understand what it is that made him turn from Arnav to ASR, and she accepts him and his past, and they remarry. And they continue basking in love.

Now, this new track, (going the way it's going form Misti's spoilers) will force Khushi to understand the other side of Arnav's past.

One of the things that I wish we would have seen after the Diwali attempted kiss is Khushi thinking about Lavanya,
(I hadn't thought about this until a Korean friend of mine, who just started watching the show with subtitles a couple weeks ago, told me she didn't like the Diwali scene because (and this is her quote) "I don't care what village you're from in India, or Africa, or in the Amazon Jungle, but when a man has you up against a wall, with your face between his hands and his lips moving towards yours, you know what he's doing, and what's going to happen." She didn't like that fact that Khushi went around being confused about what Arnav did when it was pretty apparent what would have happened had the phone not rang. My friend wanted the show to show Khushi thinking about Lavanya and what it means for LA-ASR relationship. She said, "I get that the show is aimed at the love story of Khushi and ASR, but for Khushi being portrayed on this moral high ground, would she not have thought, at least once, "OMG, LA is my friend and I was about to kiss her live in boyfriend! Am I supposed to tell her about this? Isn't this cheating, a betrayal?")

I'm ashamed to say that since I was so focused on ASR-Khushi, that this thought never crossed my mind until my friend bought it up. Khushi and LA left on friendly terms, they were bffs, but there has never been a reflection on Khushi's part where she thinks "You know, how ironic is life? I was hired to tutor Arnav's girlfriend who became my best friend, and now she's gone, and I'm marrying my bff's ex!" It just seemed like once LA was gone, out of sight, out of mind. I always wanted Arnav and Khushi to talk about Lavanya, or at least for Arnav to admit that he broke it off with LA b/c he was in love with Khushi and to tell her what LA's last words were to him. Because, like it or not, LA was in this triangle.

I've gone off topic again, so let me get back to my point. This new track is going to force Khushi to go back and think of LA-ASR relationship and all that it entailed. We saw at the beginning how distraught she was with the concept of live-in, and she understood what it meant to 'live-in' and what ASR-LA were doing/ or had done before LA moving into RM. But the CV's never show her reflection on this. It just seemed like, once LA left, she swept it under the rug and continued on with her love story with Arnav. This new track is going to make her understand the other side of Arnav's past: the pleasurable side of his past. She will realize that LA was not the only girl, and that what she and Arnav shared at the farmhouse is something he shared with LA, and Sheetal, and whoever else. And of course, little Aarav is in the picture now.

See, you can't help you love. Khushi knows that, Arnav knows that. But you have a decision to make, you can choose to be with the person or not be with the person. Khushi and Arnav decided that they can't be without each other and decided to get married and spend the rest of their lives together. This means that Khushi, knowing Arnav, knowing his past with LA, his live-in status, all his quirks, mannerisms, dark history, etc, entered into the union willingly. She will undoubtedly be surprised, shocked, and devastated that the kid is Arnav's, and I'm sure that while she knew that he had been intimate before marriage with LA, she probably didn't think that a kid would show up from another previous relationship. There's two ways this can go: Khushi freaks out and leaves, which we know won't happen. What will happen is Khushi being the sacrificial lamb again, because she's selfless in her love for everyone.

She accepted his dark past, and this track will force her to accept his 'pleasurable' past, whether she likes it or not. (Remember, this is a Star Plus show, geared towards a certain audience, and it indirectly tells people, women especially, what a 'good woman' is supposed to do.

This brings me to my next point

2.) Nayi-Soch: Star Plus goes on an on about Nayi-Soch, but they never actually go through with it.

Example: the concept of the live-in. ASR-Nani are totally at war with LA moving in, and ASR brings LA home, both of them expecting to be together in one room, but then Nani interferes and they stay in separate rooms. I understand that the target audience of this show would freak out if they had actually shown LA moving into ASR's room, but still, don't call it a live-in if it's not a live-in. (Off topic, I always wanted there to be a scene where everyone's at dinner, except Arnav, and Nani asks where he is, and everyone looks away coyly, and then you flash to the scene where Arnav is at LA's apartment, putting his shirt back on, getting ready to leave. LOL, I always thought that would be a hilarious scene, seeing as how that one scene would have stopped the many topics posted on here about Arnav's virginity status, lol.)

I feel like the CVs and SP have the potential to go with the Nayi-Soch theme with the introduction of Sheetal like this. They could show her as a strong, independent woman who chose not to abort her child out of wedlock, instead having it, raising it on her own, having a successful career, and is not vampish or trying to be a gold-digger, or home-breaker. They can show a woman standing on her own feet, supporting her family without the help of a man. After all, they show Arnav supporting his family, why can't they show a woman doing it just as successfully. Unfortunately, I don't think they will do this because the characters of women like Sheetal and LA are meant to show one thing: that these are the types of girls that the guys should have fun with, but Khushi is the sanskari girl whom every guy should end up marrying. This is where Nayi-Soch goes bust.

THere's nothing wrong with the character of Lavanya. She was modern, she didn't believe in marriage, was okay with the live-in, etc. But, the audience is made to see that she's unfit to become a wife because of who she is. She has to change herself entirely to prove that she's worthy of becoming someone's wife. Why is that? Is she not also kind hearted like Arnav? The same with Sheetal, (of course her storyline hasn't started yet, but let's just assume for now that she's going to be a negative character). If the CV's choose not to show Sheetal as a positive character, a strong woman and go the route of home-breaker, gold-digger,etc., what they're essentially saying is this: that Sheetal, just like LA, are not the girls a guy should marry. They are the kinds of girls guys have before settling down with a good girl like Khushi. It's not the right message to send.

Where is the Nayi-Soch?

Okay, it's late here in the US, and I can't remember if there was anything else I wanted to say.

I agree with your post. Lavanya was a girl who just like Arnav had pre conceived notions of certain things. Arrogance driven attitude peeps in based on how we are brought up . It has nothing to do with being rich or poor. Though arrogant she had a kind heart which came out while living in RM thanks to the guidance of khushi and other RM members. She having a physical relationship with a man before marriage doesnt make her a "bad" girl. Because as per her and also Arnav, there is nothing wrong in it and they both being adults probably went ahead with it. My philosophy in life is to be good, kind to other living things, do not judge or hurt anybody, live a honest, hardworking life, be happy and spread happiness. If a human being can achieve that then he/she is perfect.

Originally posted by: ipkkndfan30

I agree with your post. Lavanya was a girl who just like Arnav had pre conceived notions of certain things. Arrogance driven attitude peeps in based on how we are brought up . It has nothing to do with being rich or poor. Though arrogant she had a kind heart which came out while living in RM thanks to the guidance of khushi and other RM members. She having a physical relationship with a man before marriage doesnt make her a "bad" girl. Because as per her and also Arnav, there is nothing wrong in it and they both being adults probably went ahead with it. My philosophy in life is to be good, kind to other living things, do not judge or hurt anybody, live a honest, hardworking life, be happy and spread happiness. If a human being can achieve that then he/she is perfect.

Further i feel whatever we do in life, we should believe in it and be happy with our decisions. Following all rituals and customs because we are forced to do it is not okay as per me.

Here both La and Arnav didnt believe in marriage and hence what they did is not wrong as per them.

Coming back to sheetal, I really hope if they show Aarav as Arnav's son then they also potray sheetal as a strong woman who tells Arnav that she decided to bring Aarav into the world since she wanted to. Arnav should offcourse play a part in the child's future and play his role of father to him. But I am sure they will not show it this way.

On why Arnav didnt tell khushi about it, i feel he was not aware of the child. and as you said, I feel khushi knew that Arnav had a prior history of physical relationships.

But if the show was to show this as a nayi soch then they did a shoddy job. On one hand they showed Arnav as a man who believes in live in and not marriage. On the other hand they made Arnav call khushi a characterless girl implying that she lures men . Why did they show Arnav like that ? Isnt it double standards on part of Arnav ?

A few thoughts from my side - Arnav called khushi characterless coz she was having an affair with a married man, he never doubted her intentions with NK etc.

Khushi would have known asr may have had other relationships. And she wud also know that if he knew of a child with or without marriage even when he was asr avatar earlier, he wud have taken the child's responsibility.

Khushi will ask asr about Sheetal and since he accepts to the fling she will get a dna test done.

If the test is negative she will investigate why Sheetal is doing all this - in all probability leading to Sham- she cud be Sham's sister or friend or...maybe Sham out of revenge married Anjali- so that loop will b closed. Here Khushi will not leave ASR.

If the test is positive khushi will move out of ar's life since she would want both the the mother and child to have their rights and make the family complete! asr wont let her go but tell her he is willing to look after the child with her. But this is an unpleasant situation since Sheetal will also want the child with her etc... so this wont happen despite what Mishti says. Another logic for this not happening is why wud Sheetal wait for 10 yrs after the kid is born and meet asr? and then pretend not to know who the boss is at AR Designs? This seems Sham's plan- he always uses women as pawns- first Anjali, then Khushi, then dadi and now Sheetal!