Originally posted by: sargamfriends
I totally agree with you tht wht she went through was hell...no girl should have to go through wht she did..but in saying tht i also belive tht part of it is her fault...dnt get me wrong i am a girl too but she always kept taking all the crap tht happened...nt once did she stand and showed her anger...i am all for forgiving bt shouldnt her value be realised... eg whn Arnav gt all angry on her and told her tht she was the biggest mistake of his life and she had decided to leave the house...whn Arnav came back to apologise she stood there and accepted tht yes it was al my fault and i am nt at all angry...also if she showed the maturity of being forgiving thn right now her character shows no maturity...wht i am trying to say tht her character graph has too much variation
also her birthday...i personally think tht she loved wht Arnav had planned for her...the only reason y she dint accept it was because she knew she has to smehw leave him...i dnt think she threw tantrums...i think she just dint want to accpet anythng from him coz at point in time she knew it was best of she left...
So if they show tht she understands him so much then why dint she just do a simple thing for him and just wish him and nt do anythng ott...also her asking the family nt to wish him was so wrong...there is obviously a reason y Arnav dsnt like to celebrate for his bday...he never siad dnt wish me he jsut said dnt do anythng special...she should have understood tht...also she knws there is a boy in ASR...whn at lunch she figured tht he wanted to be wished thn she could have dne smethng special and also made him realise the point...
for the past few episodes her character has been shown as very immature which is confusing...also nw tht we knw she is 26 and nt 18 clears the fact tht she is nt a lil girl bt a woman...and yes the whole concept of a girl being child like innocent is one thing but being childish is all together a different thing...from where i stand the CV's have showed too much variation in her character...so much tht although we love her bt it confuses her coz we dnt knw which aspect to relate to 😊...
ps nt bashing ur post at all just telling my views 😊...apologies if said anythng wrong tht offended u
Even though this has nothing to do with the TM's query or the post which I had written to justify something completely different, I will address your reply.
Firstly she took the crap dished out during the marriage due to her sister's well being. So no arguments there.
When Arnav said she was the biggest mistake of his life, she actually believed him. It was a classic case of a the person having the upper hand in the situation bullying/psycologically manipulating the under dog to actually accpet his/her words. She had already fallen in love with him and seeing his and his Di's conditions, she started to believe it's all due to her fault. Happens all the time when a person is stressed out and forced to believe unreasonable argumenst that's actually against their sentiments.
Dont forget she faught tooth and nail to get out of the marrige and had it gone her way, she would have been divorced by now. It was Arnav who forced, tricked, manipulated and did all the things in the world to keep her with him by hook or crook. So she did blow up in his face and gave him a piece of his mind although Arnav brushed it off and continued to do everything to keep her with him.
Thirdly you said she asked her family not to wish him...when was that said? they NEVER wish him for his birthday and they were the people who discouraged her to party it up in the first place. He thought that now that she is here, she would make the others wish him HB too. So no I dont think there;s any manipulation there.
And I believe she did throw a tantrum during her birthday. She said she didn't want the lavish celebrations but a simple wish from him. It was what SHE wanted and when she didn';t get it she back lashed. If she had been afraid to accept his gestures becz she was going to leave him, she would not have given him hints about what she wanted.
Personallly I thought it was highly selfish and insensitve of her to have refused Arnav's attempts to please her. It's the thought that counts right?
Forthly as I said earlier, it was her way of showing that if he wants something he will have to come out direct and tell it to her face. In her books he can't act as if he doesn't want it but secretly wish for it. She was indeed teaching him a lesson, not to fool around but to be truthful about what he wants.
When she figured out that he wants to do something special and had she relented do you think he would have accpeted? He would have brushed her off and scolded her but then secretly would have been pleased. Whats the point in that? She wants him to demand for his celebrations becz he had always refused to celebrate it. It was her way of making him taste his own medicine.
People like ASR would never get it through their thick skulls any other way.
Khushi is 23. Not 26. It was stated during the 'fake suicide' track.
Lastly I hate the word bashing. It;s a word that's been abused in this forum to no end. There's nothing bashing about disagreeing.
Edited by CDlove - 12 years ago
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