I don't understand/relate to Khushi anymore...edit - Page 2

Originally posted by: CDlove

well you see, the mere fact that she changed herself and started loving the man who was horrid to her from the day he met her and then forcefully married her is enough don't you think?

She forgave him without cribbing about the 6 month contract and all that...so you see where she was coming from? I felt she was implying how she adjusted herself to his conditions in earlier marriage etc.

When you look at it from that aspect, ASR's small small changes can't even be compared to what Khushi had undergone. Afterall which woman would have stayed with the man who forced her, insulted her etc?

Now Khushi had been needy from the beginning. Remeber her own birthday and how she threw tantrums when Arnav didn't plan the birthday according to her wishes? It's the way she is. She expects certain things from people and when they are not fullfilled she gets crabby.

besides I felt that she indeed was teaching him a life's lesson by haulting birthday preparations when she knew quite well he was secretly looking forward to them. It's her way of ensuring that Arnav did not throw one of his silly fits the next year. He got the message and learnt the lesson. So I dont see anything wrong in what Khushi did.

I don't why CV's can't develop her character properly, they keep changing her behavior according to story.. One day she is very mature and next OTT silly antics..For God's she is the female lead not comic character who brings comic relief after heavy drama..why there is no monolgue of what she thinks..why her pain is never depicted properly? whenever there was a need to show her pain, its always CV's resort to some silly antics and in the end made look as if she is ok and does not care.

you mirrored my thoughts exactly.

Originally posted by: saalu1

Thanks for this perspective.. I totally agree that she went thru hell with him..but the way the CV's are protraying her from last few episodes is coming as though she is being little childish and bratty.. the CV's should stop butchering her character

They are trying to show her as a child-woman (a woman who hasn't reached the peak of womanhood) and then contrasting her and Arnav's characters. It's the typical M&B formula where a naive childish heroin and a mature experienced hero falls for each other.

😕 Khushis character just confused me...i mean i stll love her and no this is no bashing her...BUT i seriously expected her to do smethng for him...i mean at one time the show potrays tht no one understands him better thn her...and thn she fails to understand him...and anyways he said tht he dsnt want to celeberate it bt tht dsnt mean u dnt wish him...may be nt on a big scale bt u could have made sugarfree stuff for him...seriously i just read the update and my reaction was WHAT THE!!!

Originally posted by: Swati_

Exactly...i too was thinking the same...
Let me be clear i dont want Khushi to change but why should she expect ASR to change...?
Arnav loves her for what she is then why cant Khushi do the same...?
Yes she has suffered a lot but this doesnt change the fact that Arnav has practically turned into a new person for het...

I think the whole B'day fiasco was about letting Arnav know he cant have it both ways! Either he WANTS to celebrate his B'day or he does not!! In the past, it is clear he had spurned anyone who has tried to wish him, or do anything for him on his B'day! HE in turn does not wish anyone on THEIR B'day either!! However, this time, secretly he was hoping his wife would do something for him DESPITE him saying he dosent want it! (Coz he realized that she had been planning something)!!Therefore, she gave him what he ASKED for, which was a no fuss day, which is like any OTHER day! I think she wanted to re-iterate to him, that he needs to let the people who love him DO something for him on his B'day! THEY want to celebrate for him, but he has always BLOCKED them!! I think she wanted to show him that his loved ones also have RIGHTS to do things for him! SHE wanted to throw him a party to show him how much she loves him and HE didnt let her!She felt cheated and she was crabby! That is how MOST wives would act! I am a wife myself, so I get it! At least the CV's are not showing her as Mother THERESA, just being all NICE all the time without even showing some attitude to her man!! I found it refreshing!!Arnav got the message loud and clear! He will now let the people who LOVE him have the right to celebrate his B'day! Khushi did what non of the other Raizada's in ALL these years have managed to do! Including his Di who he loves so much!! Congrats to her!

Originally posted by: MrDarcyfan

I think the whole B'day fiasco was about letting Arnav know he cant have it both ways! Either he WANTS to celebrate his B'day or he does not!!

In the past, it is clear he had spurned anyone who has tried to wish him, or do anything for him on his B'day! HE in turn does not wish anyone on THEIR B'day either!! However, this time, secretly he was hoping his wife would do something for him DESPITE him saying he dosent want it! (Coz he realized that she had been planning something)!!

Therefore, she gave him what he ASKED for, which was a no fuss day, which is like any OTHER day! I think she wanted to re-iterate to him, that he needs to let the people who love him DO something for him on his B'day! THEY want to celebrate for him, but he has always BLOCKED them!! I think she wanted to show him that his loved ones also have RIGHTS to do things for him! SHE wanted to throw him a party to show him how much she loves him and HE didnt let her!

She felt cheated and she was crabby! That is how MOST wives would act! I am a wife myself, so I get it! At least the CV's are not showing her as Mother THERESA, just being all NICE all the time without even showing some attitude to her man!! I found it refreshing!!

Arnav got the message loud and clear! He will now let the people who LOVE him have the right to celebrate his B'day! Khushi did what non of the other Raizada's in ALL these years have managed to do! Including his Di who he loves so much!! Congrats to her!

Originally posted by: CDlove

well you see, the mere fact that she changed herself and started loving the man who was horrid to her from the day he met her and then forcefully married her is enough don't you think?

She forgave him without cribbing about the 6 month contract and all that...so you see where she was coming from? I felt she was implying how she adjusted herself to his conditions in earlier marriage etc.

When you look at it from that aspect, ASR's small small changes can't even be compared to what Khushi had undergone. Afterall which woman would have stayed with the man who physically, emotionally abused her, insulted her etc?

Now Khushi had been needy from the beginning. Remeber her own birthday and how she threw tantrums when Arnav didn't plan the birthday according to her wishes? It's the way she has always been. She expects certain things from people and when they are not fullfilled she gets crabby.

besides I felt that she indeed was teaching him a life's lesson by halting birthday preparations when she knew quite well he was secretly looking forward to them. It's her way of ensuring that Arnav did not throw one of his silly fits the same time next year. He got the message and learnt the lesson. It was quite a clever way of making him see sense. So I dont see anything wrong in what Khushi did.

I totally agree with you tht wht she went through was hell...no girl should have to go through wht she did..but in saying tht i also belive tht part of it is her fault...dnt get me wrong i am a girl too but she always kept taking all the crap tht happened...nt once did she stand and showed her anger...i am all for forgiving bt shouldnt her value be realised... eg whn Arnav gt all angry on her and told her tht she was the biggest mistake of his life and she had decided to leave the house...whn Arnav came back to apologise she stood there and accepted tht yes it was al my fault and i am nt at all angry...also if she showed the maturity of being forgiving thn right now her character shows no maturity...wht i am trying to say tht her character graph has too much variation

also her birthday...i personally think tht she loved wht Arnav had planned for her...the only reason y she dint accept it was because she knew she has to smehw leave him...i dnt think she threw tantrums...i think she just dint want to accpet anythng from him coz at point in time she knew it was best of she left...

So if they show tht she understands him so much then why dint she just do a simple thing for him and just wish him and nt do anythng ott...also her asking the family nt to wish him was so wrong...there is obviously a reason y Arnav dsnt like to celebrate for his bday...he never siad dnt wish me he jsut said dnt do anythng special...she should have understood tht...also she knws there is a boy in ASR...whn at lunch she figured tht he wanted to be wished thn she could have dne smethng special and also made him realise the point...

for the past few episodes her character has been shown as very immature which is confusing...also nw tht we knw she is 26 and nt 18 clears the fact tht she is nt a lil girl bt a woman...and yes the whole concept of a girl being child like innocent is one thing but being childish is all together a different thing...from where i stand the CV's have showed too much variation in her character...so much tht although we love her bt it confuses her coz we dnt knw which aspect to relate to 😊...

ps nt bashing ur post at all just telling my views 😊...apologies if said anythng wrong tht offended u

I am actually starting to find her very irritating. When IPKKND started, thefirt character that I really liked was Khushi, but not anymore.

Originally posted by: Meghipk

khushi s asr s wife ...every wife wants her husbands to be on their ways.. she just want to celebrate asr bday n her own ways which he dont like ...khushi hasnt changed but she has gone through so much diff to become arnavs wife ...