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Great post...both of you.. I will reply to Sudha's later..!
Originally posted by: april2003
I just love this and I only saw it this morning. Society and their code of conduct and set rules for every situation can be stiffing. Classless, disgusting and uncouth are the words used to describe women and young ladies who behave and operate outside the norm.Oh, I have first-hand experience.. why society.. it's your own relatives that start the name-calling! In the show, we do have Mami who knew what Khushi did and still resorted to accusing her when she saw the opportunity.. put all the blame on the girl!I love your take on "intent" which is same a motive. What motive did Arnav have behind everything he did? The happiness of his Di, to degrade and hurt Khushi. Khushi's Intent/motive was to save her sister's marriage, his sister's marriage and to appease the man she thought had feelings for her when that very same morning he became a waiter to help her serve food to guests. Regardless of the fact that he had a misunderstanding on the matter I still firmly believe he compounded that MU and it eventually caused more harm than good. I know a lot of us frown on Anjali's behavior but Arnav was and is her enabler. Everything points back to him. I really don't want to dwell on the sibling duo right now.It does.. that's why I hate him. But what could he have done at the MU?a) Talked to Khushi about it. He couldn't, because he was scared to know the answer.b) Ignored Khushi. He couldn't, because her sister was getting married to his bro.. and she will be part of the family.c) Tell everyone what he knows and give Khushi an opportunity to explain (well ideally he should ask her in private, since he loved her, but he didn't have the balls to do that)... why didnt he do this? Because of his Di.Yes, he did everything because of his Di. There are people like this, who put their family into every equation. To me, they dont deserve to get married unless they realize that once they get married, the wife and you become a family unit.. which needs to be more important than the other bigger family unit that you are part of, because it is the wife that will be with you for the rest of your life. Your Di will have her own family unit.. which is hers.. not yours. You have no right to take the decision for her. That is where Arnav failed. He always made Di his responsibility, his family his responsibility.. they need him.. they can't survive without him. Then how about Khushi? Why did he fail to see her needs? That's because she never let him.. unlike his family. So now he takes her for granted. Ok, tell me.. who is to blame? I don't know.
khushi is a girl who refused to wallow in her sorrows and let the world pass her by and that is what we were lead to believe by the writers of this story. She is the girl who went to work so her family can be provided for. Even after giving so much she was still asked to give a little more when buaji practically forced her to agree to a marriage which almost ruined her life and character because society never asks for explanations. Everything she's done was for others happiness, she believes in relations and her trust in the people she loves is unwavering. Last Friday I laughed at her antics no ended and I must admit I did cringe a bit.
People were saying she ignored Arnav at cinema, I did not see that. Some people were saying she ought to know couples should sit together, but we need to remember who Khushi is. She did not go out to cinema with the intention of spending time with Arnav but with Arnav and his whole family. It was family affair and when asked for to sit with him in the beginning she did not object at all...but we all know what happened from there.I love Khushi, a lot. But, this is not normal! This is an SP bahu. This is not a normal woman. I cannot find excuses for anything Khushi does. I love your write-up though. Yes, she has been wronged again and again, and why.. it's because she lets people run all over her. She hasn't stood up for herself even one. Yes, that's the Indian woman for you! But remember this is the girl who did stand up for herself at the beginning.. I will never ever forget the guest house scene and the scene where she hands her resignation. She even yelled at Arnav the day after the wedding.. the I hate you. But then she disappeared! The trust in people she loves in unwavering.. yes, that's where I wish they had shown it differently .. I would have loved to see a normal girl .. this is where I started seeing an SP bahu, rather than a normal girl.I said she ignored Arnav at the cinema.. she was busy with NK. She ought to know who to sit with.. how would she have liked it if Arnav sat with Lavanya? So does Khushi also need to be jealous to pay attention to Arnav? This is a girl who gave love advice to Payal. When it comes to her own love life, she doesn't know? How do we know what to do.. because we watch movies, right. Khushi is a huge movie-buff. Oh was she asked to sit with him? I skipped the cinema part.. because I couldn't stand it.I once went for a family date with my bf.. with his mom and my parents.. I cried. Because I sat with my family, while his mom made sure I was sitting far away from him. I missed him .. and I couldn't even talk to him.. the whole dinner we kept looking at each other sadly. That's why I didnt watch the cinema scene.. it was too depressing.. it reminded me of that night!
I don't understand why some people are so hard on a girl who has never dated before marriage, never really got the chance to know her husband properly. Was practically forced into a marriage which she clearly was not ready for. A girl who is still learning and discovering womanhood.Who dates before arranged marriages.. she was forced into marriage, yes.. which is why she should now take the chance to get to know her husband.. instead the SP bahu of course tries to run away from him! She knows she should spend time with him, remember her advice to Payal! She even appreciated Akash for spending time with Payal and for doing things for her. Why is she not appreciating Arnav for it.. oh wait, because she also cared more about Di than spending time with Arnav.. why? 'coz she is an SP bahu!Life is a learning process and we all make mistake. Khushi's OTT behavior should not be the yardstick to judge her by as is the norm.What?? Who judged her for that.. screw them!Not because Arnav made temporary a paradigm shift in his attitude and behavior on the day of the wedding that we must forget how Khushi suffered up until the moment he married her.He is an idiot! That day he didn't come back because of her. He came back because he remembered his Ma telling that he shouldn't hurt innocent people! He loves his Ma, and not Khushi. If he loved Khushi, he would have gone straight to her when he remembered the farmhouse and also the promise he made to her, that he wont be late. But again like the MU, he chose to not give Khushi a chance, why? Because he is a coward, he has no balls! You can't keep giving your bad past as an excuse all your life!They both need fine tuning tuning and there are areas that can be improved but if people start keeping tabs then I'm afraid Arnav will be the only guilty party here according to the law.I don't agree. I blame the CVs, lol! Arnav and Khushi both had flaws, but they would have never behaved this way. Ever! The CVs twisted the characters!!!Let not forget that she forgave him of all his atrocities without batting an eyelid. Only someone a big heart and understanding can do that.Only a moron would .. scratch that.. only an SP bahu would.A normal woman would.. I will.. but I will still feel upset thinking about them.. but then again I am normal.. I am not an SP bahu!I say again and again.. the CVs ruined their character! That's my problem. I am still in love with the old Arnav and Khushi.. I still love Khushi.. because she deserves more.Ok I should stay away from this page. Haven't practised my talk even once.. lol.. đ
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