What is Payal's PURPOSE in life? Feminist POV - Page 3

Originally posted by: princessunara

well nice topic...:-)

the thing is not every person has a very well defined or obvious purpose of life..u know she is a stay at home house wife, who is neither ambitious nor over expectant.. she is like the proverbial vine that wraps around a tree, never a tree herself..but like vines that exist, she does too..

she is a quiet presence, that doesn't draw much attention to herself..they r not in need of an extra income, have more than enough wealth for her to not raise a finger n lay in comfort..and right now she is newly married, trying to adjust to this unexpected wealthy life away from her humble home..
and she has been groomed to be a wife and a mother all her life..most girls from her status, that r not highly educated r like her. not like u or me who has thought of nothing but exam after exam half our lives..

and well khushi broke away from the mold of the norm..she was like the son (u know the middle class mindset wise) of the house that they never actually had..remember how her parents used to take her to do their accounts work, speaking out against things n the 1st few episodes in Laknow?.. and payal always fulfilled the role of the meek daughter.

and therefore i can't say i blame payal for not caring for her mayka, cz according to the mindset that she was brought up, a married daughter's home is her sasural n she hasn't got anything to do with her mayka.. so unlike khushi who always broke the norms n created her own rules n limits, payal plays within the age old traditions of a small town..

a year or so later she will have a baby with her hubby, n then her small world will be filled with her hubby n baby..then probably another baby n her whole life would be spent caring for her family being their for their small needs..
always in the shadows..but quite essential too..

i don't condone this for myself cz frankly it'll drive me insane..i am too independent for that..but there r lives like Payal's...so well how can we judge if one life is better than another?

Originally posted by: CDlove

well said ! 👏👏👏

Its kind of harsh to judge Payal in that manner. She does have a sense of purpose in life. Not like us women who are career oriented; but she does have her own way of looking at what she wants. After all it's all a matter of perception. What we think is good might not be good for her and vise versa.

Its how she's geared to live and she's living her dream.

Originally posted by: MrDarcyfan

Good points raised by you Mary! I dont understand why they cant show Payal being more sensitive to the issues of Khushi! I know she is newely married, but her sister IS living in the same house as her!

I also dont understand how she just fills her days with making a meal or two and walking around RM and trying to see if Akash ate?

Personally I could not handle such an existance! But that is me! I am married too and have a child and a home, but I also have a career! These days, I dont have as much time for friends coz my career and marriage takes up 95% of my time! However, sometimes certain things do get a bit compromised after you get married, coz you just dont have the same life anymore!

Girls like Payal are bought up to be "stay at home" Mum's! Khushi is independant, and wants more from life! (In a way, Khushi was forced to think beyond a career as a wife and Mother after her arrival in Delhi, and the entrance of ASR into her life!)... HE broke her out of her "Mould" in a sense, and made her step outside her comfort zone!

Payal on the other hand, has continued on the same path she was on in Lucknow! The only differance now is that she has married into a wealthy family, as opposed to a middle class family! However, she has had enough eduction and knows enough english and is clutured enough to surive at RM!Lets hope the CV's give her a job to do! Just like Manorama has a job to do!

Point to note: I DO have a lot of respect for stay at home Mum's! My Mother had a career and still does, and so do her sisters! But my Dad's two sisters were stay at home Mothers! They were bought up to be home makers! Neither of them went to Uni, where as MY Mum and her sisters are highly educted with post graduate degrees!

For this reason, my sister and I chose education and careers as well as eventually settling down with guys of our choice! So to each their own! There is no "Right" or "Wrong" way to be! However, I DO have an objection to people who have NO purpose in life but to dress up and play house!

Originally posted by: Marybarton

I know what you mean. I agree that maybe Payal is setup this way to move on from her own family. I also see what you are saying about Khushi being like a son. Most Indian sons are expected to do that and when the daughter does it she is seen as a boy. But not all boys are that amazing, many abandon their families. Khushi to me is just a daughter, a very good and responsible one. There Payal contributed too by taking care of the household and keeping peace between Buaji and Khushi. But nowadays the character gets no screen time. That is really what I am saying. There's more to Payal.