In defence of a brilliant sibling relationship

But today, after reading the reactions to the episode, I felt the strong need to defend Anjali. I know a lot of people dont like her, find her stupid and irrational. I get it. Sometimes her naivety is almost infuriating. Even for me who is a huge fan of her character. I'm not going to defend her regarding how she doesn't notice Shyam's deceit. I'll leave that for another day although I believe she is right in her own way. If someone treats their husband as God, how to do you even think of questioning that God with no proof or actual reason whatsoever. Even The ASR didnt know what Shyam was until he saw it with his own eyes; so I refuse to understand how Anjali is at fault here!

But now coming onto today's episode, I cannot believe the accusations people are throwing on Anjali! It is such a slap on the face of sibling relationships and love. Anjali is like a mother to Arnav, how can jealousy even come into the picture?!? I have a bigger brother that I absolutely love and I don't care if he's married, if he just fainted right in front of my eyes, I would never think about giving his wife a chance to feed him/take care of him, etc. Why would that even come into my mind? Who cares who takes care of him, as long as he is ok and he is safe, it is all that matters. Anjali is the bigger sister, she loves her brother more than anyone in the world. Would Arnav have bothered allowing Shyam (when he didnt know the truth yet) to tend to Anjali had the situation been reversed? I think we all should know Arnav well enough to know the answer to that.

As for the reaction in the dining table, Anjali has told Khushi that Arnav runs away and creates a barrier whenever someone expresses love to him. He hates that, he hates showing or receiving love, so when Khushi told her she'd wait for him, Anjali's expressions weren't of jealously - they were of confusion. Why was Khushi doing the opposite of what Arnav wants? Are they still fighting like she read in the letter? Are they not happy together? Are they hiding something? That is not being nosy - that is Anjali being her concerned and loving self.

She is the one who wanted Arnav to get married. She wanted her brother to love and be happy. To be as happy as she is in her marriage (which is obviously the lie she is living). She wants Arnav to love Khushi the way he loves her. And Anjali is not deluded to the fact that her brother would do anything for her, and loves her more than anyone in the world. But she doesn't mind being the second (as she had said only the other day while putting his teekah - that you must allow others to care for you too). In the precap, she was happily telling Arnav how awesome Khushi is and how lucky he is to have her, and that he made the perfect choice. She wants him happy, as much as he wants her. It is their bond, their strong and unbreakable relationship that has been so well maintained in the show.

I truly think most of the fans who dont like Anjali is because she somehow breaks Arnav and Khushi apart even as she tries so so hard to do the opposite. Is it her fault that she is very trusting towards her husband but that her husband is interested in her sister in law? I'm sorry but if anyone is going to say well she needs to open her eyes my answer is simple. To what? How will she open her eyes if there hasnt been a single strong moment where suspicion can be made? If Arnav cannot see Khushi's innocence even while knowing she is so naive, how will Anjali all of a sudden suspect her 'doting', 'loving', 'caring' and 'perfect' husband??

I love Arnav most as a character. I find him strong and unwavering in the love he has both for his family and for khushi. I'm sure every single IPKKND fan wants both Arnav and Khushi to solve their problems and MU; but I dont want that in the cost of the one of the most purest relationship in the show. Arnav and Anjali loves each other too much, and people who question Anjali's intentions are somehow - i feel - disrespecting the sibling relationship. I know that I would never be jealous of my Bhabhi, no matter how much I love my Bhai, but that doesn't mean that just because he is married, I wont take care of him and baby him when he is ill. I don't care what my Bhabhi thinks (and I'm pretty sure Khushi didnt think anything of it), I will be there for my Bhai, just like Anjali was for Arnav.

At the end of the day, Anjali has know Arnav since he was born. They have shared their lives with one another for more than 20 years at least. That love and haq wont vanish just like that. Is isnt supposed to...

I'm really sorry for the long post, I just feel the need to support Arnav and Anjali's relationship. If you reached this far, thanks for reading it. I hope the hate for her would lessen a bit. *Sigh*

Just because her brother is married does not mean that she has to give up her rights as his sister. She is a mother figure for him & it will never change & should not change..

By the way wonderful post 👏

My thoughts exactly!

We all know Anjali's character to be unnaturally naive. That much is understood & accepted.

What really, I mean really irritates me no end in their relationship is what you call 'enabling'.

They are loving & supportive of each other. That I understand and love. It is as it should be in a sibling relationship.

But, they also enable each other, with respect to their weaknessess. She enables & turns a blind eye to his taciturn ways. He enables her by treating her as a fragile carton, which will crack at any moment. It is linked to their past. I get that. But, it is still my pet peeve.😡

I have 2 older brother's myself. They would never enable my weaknessess. More like do the opposite. Get me off my arse to work on eliminating my weaknessess.

My two cents on this discussion.

I know, without this equation we wouldn't have this show. But yeah! I can't help feel this way.