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Hi KKG,
Hope u r doing good. This letter is going to be a long one so i suggest u make those famous Lucknow jalebis of yours, lounge at the pool side on ASR's recliner & read this letter. You may not know me my dear friend but i know you very well. Or rather i thought i knew you very well. My journey with you began in June last year when a young waif like teenager kicked her ancient scooter & dashed around the streets of Lucknow to desperately try & ensure that her jiji's marriage occurred without any glitches. I was fascinated when she with righteous indignation admonished ASR for his boorish behaviour in the Dargah. I was impressed when she shut the mouths of all those stupid journalists & made them regret the video incident. In that moment she won not only the respect of those folks for that news channel but also audiences like me.
I liked the quite dignity with which she took on the mighty ASR in his own den & took up his challenge boldly. I laughed when she used her street smart skills to complete all the tasks given to her. I was awe struck when she expressed her opinion about the photo shoot & convinced not only the upscale photographer but even the mighty ASR. I cheered with her when she rejected ASR's jacket in the parking lot & refused to plead a lift after being insulted by him.
Well if you are still feeling lost, I am talking about you my dear friend. I never watch Indian soaps coz they r all women centric where the female lead is either a frigging doormat or a loud dimwit or in some cases both. I thought u were different, this show was different. But i ve sadly been proven wrong.
Ever exercised that minimal grey matter to wonder why your marriage is a failure. Well dear let me tell while LOVE & LUST is enough for 2 ppl to get married after marriage there are 2 vital things which are required to sustain & nourish that love so that the marriage is a blissful success.
ITS TRUST & RESPECT.
The husband must trust & respect his wife to treat her not as a pet poodle but as a partner, his soul mate his friend, philospher & guide. Due to that creep's antics you ve lost that TRUST but i was hoping that you would win his respect so that he would start mulling over things. BUT SADLY YOU LET ME DOWN.
Rather than winning his respect with quiet poise & dignity you only made him during the shower fiasco reiterate that HE IS NOT CHEAP LIKE YOU.
Now for all those feminists out there baying for my blood spouting stuff like why its always the woman who must try to win her man, women are women's worst enemies blah blah please calm.
I write this letter to Kushi & not ASR for the same reason why though for all practical purposes MEN are physically stronger than WOMEN, the excruciatingly near-death experience of labour pain & child birth was shoved onto women by nature/god. Because its women who are mentally stronger & more mature than men. Its the reason why while the father might be a lush drunkard the family still runs on the tired but unflinching shoulders of the mother. The reason why while a man gets married easily after losing a wife while a woman carries on alone for her children without pausing to think about her physical & emotional needs. The reason why more men commit suicide than men.
We are the stronger species. We are the ones who rock the cradle as well as make a business presentation with elan. In marriage the first step always comes from the woman. The wife needs to win not just the love of her hubby but also his respect & trust coz love might happen even aft marriage esp in an arranged marriage. But without the other 2 LOVE would simply die a painful death.
Everytime he taunts you & is rude to you how do you answer him or get back at him. Hmmm lemme think.
1. By sneezing in his face.
2. Fighting with him over bathroom.
3. Hijacking his wardrobe.
4. Charging into his board room while he is having an important meeting.
I would like to point to u the instances when he felt like an ass. When he hurt ur hand you coldly told him to Eff off & walked away with ur head held high. When you cold shouldered him, ignored him royally & went about your business in a dignified manner making him miss you, search for you, long for you. Remember for men the chase is more interesting than the conquest.
Of course i am sure the forum folks ll go gaga saying OH YOU ARE CHO CHWEET. I understand that most of the ppl who visit this forum are students under 20 who arent married. The ones who voice their concern are the wordly wise folks who ve been there seen it all.
So my dear friend, you may say that u want him to kick u out of his house & heart but we all know that u actually yearn for his love. If you want to satisfy the feminists then simply wait out ur 6 mth sentence in RM & walk out of his life forever. But if u really want to remain his wife which i suspect is what u actually want then plz read thru my letter once again slowly till the truth sinks in. Then act on it. Not by mocking marriage & wifely duties or by screaming like a banshee. But by showing your mettle in your silent courage.
Remember SILENCE IS MORE DEAFENING!
Love,
Your dear IF Friend.
Hope u r doing good. This letter is going to be a long one so i suggest u make those famous Lucknow jalebis of yours, lounge at the pool side on ASR's recliner & read this letter. You may not know me my dear friend but i know you very well. Or rather i thought i knew you very well. My journey with you began in June last year when a young waif like teenager kicked her ancient scooter & dashed around the streets of Lucknow to desperately try & ensure that her jiji's marriage occurred without any glitches. I was fascinated when she with righteous indignation admonished ASR for his boorish behaviour in the Dargah. I was impressed when she shut the mouths of all those stupid journalists & made them regret the video incident. In that moment she won not only the respect of those folks for that news channel but also audiences like me.
I liked the quite dignity with which she took on the mighty ASR in his own den & took up his challenge boldly. I laughed when she used her street smart skills to complete all the tasks given to her. I was awe struck when she expressed her opinion about the photo shoot & convinced not only the upscale photographer but even the mighty ASR. I cheered with her when she rejected ASR's jacket in the parking lot & refused to plead a lift after being insulted by him.
Well if you are still feeling lost, I am talking about you my dear friend. I never watch Indian soaps coz they r all women centric where the female lead is either a frigging doormat or a loud dimwit or in some cases both. I thought u were different, this show was different. But i ve sadly been proven wrong.
Ever exercised that minimal grey matter to wonder why your marriage is a failure. Well dear let me tell while LOVE & LUST is enough for 2 ppl to get married after marriage there are 2 vital things which are required to sustain & nourish that love so that the marriage is a blissful success.
ITS TRUST & RESPECT.
The husband must trust & respect his wife to treat her not as a pet poodle but as a partner, his soul mate his friend, philospher & guide. Due to that creep's antics you ve lost that TRUST but i was hoping that you would win his respect so that he would start mulling over things. BUT SADLY YOU LET ME DOWN.
Rather than winning his respect with quiet poise & dignity you only made him during the shower fiasco reiterate that HE IS NOT CHEAP LIKE YOU.
Now for all those feminists out there baying for my blood spouting stuff like why its always the woman who must try to win her man, women are women's worst enemies blah blah please calm.
I write this letter to Kushi & not ASR for the same reason why though for all practical purposes MEN are physically stronger than WOMEN, the excruciatingly near-death experience of labour pain & child birth was shoved onto women by nature/god. Because its women who are mentally stronger & more mature than men. Its the reason why while the father might be a lush drunkard the family still runs on the tired but unflinching shoulders of the mother. The reason why while a man gets married easily after losing a wife while a woman carries on alone for her children without pausing to think about her physical & emotional needs. The reason why more men commit suicide than men.
We are the stronger species. We are the ones who rock the cradle as well as make a business presentation with elan. In marriage the first step always comes from the woman. The wife needs to win not just the love of her hubby but also his respect & trust coz love might happen even aft marriage esp in an arranged marriage. But without the other 2 LOVE would simply die a painful death.
Everytime he taunts you & is rude to you how do you answer him or get back at him. Hmmm lemme think.
1. By sneezing in his face.
2. Fighting with him over bathroom.
3. Hijacking his wardrobe.
4. Charging into his board room while he is having an important meeting.
I would like to point to u the instances when he felt like an ass. When he hurt ur hand you coldly told him to Eff off & walked away with ur head held high. When you cold shouldered him, ignored him royally & went about your business in a dignified manner making him miss you, search for you, long for you. Remember for men the chase is more interesting than the conquest.
Of course i am sure the forum folks ll go gaga saying OH YOU ARE CHO CHWEET. I understand that most of the ppl who visit this forum are students under 20 who arent married. The ones who voice their concern are the wordly wise folks who ve been there seen it all.
So my dear friend, you may say that u want him to kick u out of his house & heart but we all know that u actually yearn for his love. If you want to satisfy the feminists then simply wait out ur 6 mth sentence in RM & walk out of his life forever. But if u really want to remain his wife which i suspect is what u actually want then plz read thru my letter once again slowly till the truth sinks in. Then act on it. Not by mocking marriage & wifely duties or by screaming like a banshee. But by showing your mettle in your silent courage.
Remember SILENCE IS MORE DEAFENING!
Love,
Your dear IF Friend.
Kyunki Saas Bhi Kabhi Bahu Thi 2
Bade Achhe Lagte Hain
CID
