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Reboot and return of the ... not Jedi ... Shivvay
Also Read ...
1. The IB PH's obsession with Arc's, Loops, Jelabi's and Re-boots
2. My letter to the writer : IB - A story of 3 brothers it is NOT
I hope you didn't mind I borrowed a bit from you Shalini 😉
They just got married n on wedding night husband left her and returned after 15 days with a new woman as wife and failed to recognize her. This is a serious issue and not something which needs to be dealt in a comic way.
You know I did not watch IB today because of exactly the same reason. I cannot enjoy this comic track that they are covering the real issue up with. It is amazing to see people are so easily distracted from the fact that this comedy is being done with a woman, other than the wife, living in that bedroom. I wonder how many of us would find it funny had that been our bedroom and our husband.
I know that (from posts) the writer has again provided the 'Lollipop' of comic relief to make up for the whole humiliating ... 'you are not my wife - get out' that he very conveniently yells at her and she swallows like a wife with no self respect or pride.
I will not call her 'Patni Vrata' because i do not think that defines her. Those women had self-respect and dignity for the word 'Patni' whereas here that word is more a joke than pride, thanks to the writer.
We know he is acting out the ML and it is even sadder that he does not trust his wife enough to take her into confidence. There are plenty of opportunities if he wants to truly do that and where there is a will - there is a way.
I am saddened because I know that even after the truth that he is faking ML comes out he will not bother (as always) to justify his hurtful action, apologize for his act and acknowledge that what he did was wrong by her. The writer does not find it necessary for a husband to do those things for his wife. It is even more sad that she is a woman herself.
Also, I am not sure about others but this whole 'forget that it happened because he hugged her when she cried in the dark' is something I cannot digest. So that act of humiliation is all nullified now because omg!! he now felt her pain. How messed up is this writer and how messed up is she turning the audience into!??
As for Annika, the writer has turned her into a real piece of work.
Annika not questioning, not upset, not resentful and not hurt by what he did, irrespective of 'why' he did it is not normal.Point out one woman, in real life, who would have not been hurt, humiliated and broken at that very moment to go through what she went through, including the person who wrote this script. What understanding came after he shared his problem with her is another matter altogether but to show such a numb and lifeless Annika is making me start to think if the girl even knows what self respect means anymore!!
And herein lies my second beef with what the writer her written and turned Annika into. The hatred for the character is very evident by the way they have progressed (or have not) with Annika, as much as they might refute that all the FL's of IB are equally important to them
It is bad enough he treats her this way but what is worse is that she brushes it off without even asking him to justify what her place, as the one he loves, means in his life. There is understanding and there is self respect ... the writer is confusing us and mixing the two so that it is justified as his act under pressure and as her act of love.
To love someone is not to lay down your self respect for them ... you CANNOT love another unless you love yourself FIRST
You cannot expect respect from others unless you respect YOURSELF FIRST.
Nari Shakti my foot!!!
So basically someone said humiliate and insult your wife in public and I will spare your Family's secret from coming out in the open and he did that without batting an eyelid but she is 'mahan' enough to not feel anger over it or at least a healthy dose of resentment!??
This is the same land that bore great women like Draupadi who stood up for her honor and her self respect when her husband staked it in a game of dice!!??
Both women were used as a bargaining chip, a 'get out of jail free' card and both reacted in completely different ways to that being done to them. Neither could do anything about what has been done but the reaction of both is worlds apart.
One makes us proud and the other feel humiliated to be a woman, courtesy of Writer Saheba (surprisingly a women herself)
I respect Draupadi the married woman, who stood up for herself and questioned her husbands decision in open court more than I respect Annika the married one, who has made excuses for her husband treating her like a worthless disposable commodity
This is not about Annika, this is about the real women who go through this. This is about those women watching this and using this as their yardstick to stay in abusive relationships. Maybe they are young and impressionable and will mold their marriages according to this that they see.
I know I will be told that 'Meeh! it's a soap so just chill' but even then it is a soap about humans not aliens.
To those asking me to chill - This is not a Sci-Fi ... this is supposed to be a human drama hence the appropriate emotions have to flow.
There are those who are exalting her for her forbearance, patience and understanding in this whole thing saying that she is so great to clue into his problem and fight for him.
To those I wish to tell ... we all, as wives/partners fight for our husbands/ other half's, stand up for them, protect them and are the Durga's and Kali's when we need to be but we are those Devi's (goddesses) because we are treated with the due respect Goddesses are treated with by our husbands/partners.
A goddess is venerated and put on a place of respect so that it is evident that she is treated with dignity and respect, not shunned and disowned by the Family that has installed her as a deity
Annika is supposedly a 'Lakshmi' according to Indian Families as a bahu ... I will leave the rest unsaid.
None of our husbands/partners would dare cross that line (Shivvay did with Annika) with us and not expect to face that same wrath directed towards them.
What understanding and problem solving comes after that explanation is given is beside the point but none of us would ever be taken for granted by our husbands the way Shivvay does Annika.
Being a Goddess does not mean you lose yourself and your dignity - being a Goddess means you are true to yourself first and dare anyone to tarnish that dignity you wrap yourself with.
And what is it with Annika?!! The writer has turned her into a real 'dual personality' with serious issues from what I see. One minute she is laughing at her own childish antic of mixing 'jamal ghota' for the other woman her husband is so valiantly protecting from HER!!! (who is the wife here!! 😕) and the next she is crying buckets in a corner in the dark because he refuses to acknowledge her as his wife ... is it just me or is this not just abnormal !!?? 😲😲
Again, I am sure that there are many who will prefer not to delve into this because it is way too much to think about because this is just a show. They would like to live in the make believe world that the writer is spinning like gossamer silk threads around them while mulling their intelligence with doses of crap like this.
But remember as a responsible viewer you owe it that your show be entertaining not promoting negative role models.
Shivaay definitely owes an explanation to his wife regarding his decision and actions, they need to have a heart to heart conversation before moving towards comedy.
That will never happen because the writer will never let the ML actually behave like a responsible and involved husband. Their ML will make the decisions and act expecting the FL to just roll over and play dead like the obedient dog they have trained. No need to consult, share or even respect that the wife is intelligent enough to deal with Family issues shoulder to shoulder.
The wife in turn will be made by the writer to provide comic relief and entertainment while performing childish antics to oust the other woman, her husbands betrayal and insult very conveniently forgotten.
What a lovely image of what a married couple should be.
Also Read ...
1. The IB PH's obsession with Arc's, Loops, Jelabi's and Re-boots
2. My letter to the writer : IB - A story of 3 brothers it is NOT
I hope you didn't mind I borrowed a bit from you Shalini 😉
They just got married n on wedding night husband left her and returned after 15 days with a new woman as wife and failed to recognize her. This is a serious issue and not something which needs to be dealt in a comic way.
You know I did not watch IB today because of exactly the same reason. I cannot enjoy this comic track that they are covering the real issue up with. It is amazing to see people are so easily distracted from the fact that this comedy is being done with a woman, other than the wife, living in that bedroom. I wonder how many of us would find it funny had that been our bedroom and our husband.
I know that (from posts) the writer has again provided the 'Lollipop' of comic relief to make up for the whole humiliating ... 'you are not my wife - get out' that he very conveniently yells at her and she swallows like a wife with no self respect or pride.
I will not call her 'Patni Vrata' because i do not think that defines her. Those women had self-respect and dignity for the word 'Patni' whereas here that word is more a joke than pride, thanks to the writer.
We know he is acting out the ML and it is even sadder that he does not trust his wife enough to take her into confidence. There are plenty of opportunities if he wants to truly do that and where there is a will - there is a way.
I am saddened because I know that even after the truth that he is faking ML comes out he will not bother (as always) to justify his hurtful action, apologize for his act and acknowledge that what he did was wrong by her. The writer does not find it necessary for a husband to do those things for his wife. It is even more sad that she is a woman herself.
Also, I am not sure about others but this whole 'forget that it happened because he hugged her when she cried in the dark' is something I cannot digest. So that act of humiliation is all nullified now because omg!! he now felt her pain. How messed up is this writer and how messed up is she turning the audience into!??
As for Annika, the writer has turned her into a real piece of work.
Annika not questioning, not upset, not resentful and not hurt by what he did, irrespective of 'why' he did it is not normal.Point out one woman, in real life, who would have not been hurt, humiliated and broken at that very moment to go through what she went through, including the person who wrote this script. What understanding came after he shared his problem with her is another matter altogether but to show such a numb and lifeless Annika is making me start to think if the girl even knows what self respect means anymore!!
And herein lies my second beef with what the writer her written and turned Annika into. The hatred for the character is very evident by the way they have progressed (or have not) with Annika, as much as they might refute that all the FL's of IB are equally important to them
It is bad enough he treats her this way but what is worse is that she brushes it off without even asking him to justify what her place, as the one he loves, means in his life. There is understanding and there is self respect ... the writer is confusing us and mixing the two so that it is justified as his act under pressure and as her act of love.
To love someone is not to lay down your self respect for them ... you CANNOT love another unless you love yourself FIRST
You cannot expect respect from others unless you respect YOURSELF FIRST.
Nari Shakti my foot!!!
So basically someone said humiliate and insult your wife in public and I will spare your Family's secret from coming out in the open and he did that without batting an eyelid but she is 'mahan' enough to not feel anger over it or at least a healthy dose of resentment!??
This is the same land that bore great women like Draupadi who stood up for her honor and her self respect when her husband staked it in a game of dice!!??
Both women were used as a bargaining chip, a 'get out of jail free' card and both reacted in completely different ways to that being done to them. Neither could do anything about what has been done but the reaction of both is worlds apart.
One makes us proud and the other feel humiliated to be a woman, courtesy of Writer Saheba (surprisingly a women herself)
I respect Draupadi the married woman, who stood up for herself and questioned her husbands decision in open court more than I respect Annika the married one, who has made excuses for her husband treating her like a worthless disposable commodity
This is not about Annika, this is about the real women who go through this. This is about those women watching this and using this as their yardstick to stay in abusive relationships. Maybe they are young and impressionable and will mold their marriages according to this that they see.
I know I will be told that 'Meeh! it's a soap so just chill' but even then it is a soap about humans not aliens.
To those asking me to chill - This is not a Sci-Fi ... this is supposed to be a human drama hence the appropriate emotions have to flow.
There are those who are exalting her for her forbearance, patience and understanding in this whole thing saying that she is so great to clue into his problem and fight for him.
To those I wish to tell ... we all, as wives/partners fight for our husbands/ other half's, stand up for them, protect them and are the Durga's and Kali's when we need to be but we are those Devi's (goddesses) because we are treated with the due respect Goddesses are treated with by our husbands/partners.
A goddess is venerated and put on a place of respect so that it is evident that she is treated with dignity and respect, not shunned and disowned by the Family that has installed her as a deity
Annika is supposedly a 'Lakshmi' according to Indian Families as a bahu ... I will leave the rest unsaid.
None of our husbands/partners would dare cross that line (Shivvay did with Annika) with us and not expect to face that same wrath directed towards them.
What understanding and problem solving comes after that explanation is given is beside the point but none of us would ever be taken for granted by our husbands the way Shivvay does Annika.
Being a Goddess does not mean you lose yourself and your dignity - being a Goddess means you are true to yourself first and dare anyone to tarnish that dignity you wrap yourself with.
And what is it with Annika?!! The writer has turned her into a real 'dual personality' with serious issues from what I see. One minute she is laughing at her own childish antic of mixing 'jamal ghota' for the other woman her husband is so valiantly protecting from HER!!! (who is the wife here!! 😕) and the next she is crying buckets in a corner in the dark because he refuses to acknowledge her as his wife ... is it just me or is this not just abnormal !!?? 😲😲
Again, I am sure that there are many who will prefer not to delve into this because it is way too much to think about because this is just a show. They would like to live in the make believe world that the writer is spinning like gossamer silk threads around them while mulling their intelligence with doses of crap like this.
But remember as a responsible viewer you owe it that your show be entertaining not promoting negative role models.
Shivaay definitely owes an explanation to his wife regarding his decision and actions, they need to have a heart to heart conversation before moving towards comedy.
That will never happen because the writer will never let the ML actually behave like a responsible and involved husband. Their ML will make the decisions and act expecting the FL to just roll over and play dead like the obedient dog they have trained. No need to consult, share or even respect that the wife is intelligent enough to deal with Family issues shoulder to shoulder.
The wife in turn will be made by the writer to provide comic relief and entertainment while performing childish antics to oust the other woman, her husbands betrayal and insult very conveniently forgotten.
What a lovely image of what a married couple should be.
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