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From the beginning of this serial, I loved Zaara's character for her idea of independence and assumed her to have her own goals and ambitions in life but these days her only ambition in life seems to have becomes competing with Rukhsar for Kabeer's affection. Firstly, I hate how Zaara is shown to stoop down to Rukhsar's level in her interactions with Rukhsar: she seeks Rukhsar out and taunts her, deals with Rukhsar as if Kabeer is a baby who will be lulled away by companionship or lollipop. What does she think Kabeer will do if he is left alone with Rukhsar? Does she think he will just get married to Rukhsar and bring her home if he goes anywhere outside with her? Or she thinks Kabeer will start having an extramarital affair with Rukhsar? I am trying to understand Zaara's frame of mind with regards to Kabeer and Rukhsar's relationship. I understand her discomfort at Rukhsar's cheap behaviour and I also understand her being upset when Kabeer seems to treat Rukhsar with more respect than he treats her but I don't understand exactly what she is afraid of or insecured about? If we are talking about Kabeer trusting Zaara why are we not talking about the lack of trust towards Kabeer that Zaara's behaviour reflects towards?
I can't believe a woman is shown to compete with an outsider, interact with her and repeatedly reminding that outsider that she is the man's wife! She is the man's wife and she does not need to tell this to anyone, should not have anything to prove or show and does not need to bother about this other woman at all, period. Where is her sense of self-respect when she is dealing with a woman who has no social or religious standing beside her husband? Why give that woman so much importance and most importantly, why get down to the level of that woman? As a woman it is disturbing for me to see that Zaara gets affected by the difference in treatment of Kabeer towards herself and Rukhsar: she questions why he is okay working with Rukhsar but not with her! Because you are his wife and she is a no one! People form business partners with strangers, friends, colleagues etc all the time but many people will never form business with their spouses because they are afraid that if difference of opinion occurs in business, their marriage will be affected. And here they both know that they think so differently from each other, why would they even want to work together? It is obvious that Kabeer does not want a spillover of their difference of opinion in their marriage and he has made it abundantly clear and that is a problem for Zaara? I don't understand why CVs make women lose their agencies in the name of empowerment time and again in serials. Why does Zaara not open up a madrassa for girls herself? Why does she not encourage women to work? Why does she not develop a project of her own or join an NGO or do something on her own instead of making it her aim in life to work with Kabeer?
Also, whether to keep Rukhsar on her toes or not, I cannot find it in me to appreciate Zaara's becoming part of Kabeer's project knowing that he does not want to have any professional dealings with her. Every person is entitled to have his or her freedom with regards to pursuing his work. In the tea scene although she seemed to give Kabeer all the freedom to take the decision but she is the one who initiated involvement in the project in the first place. As an independent woman, if I take a pause and imagine myself in Kabeer's position, I would hate it for my husband to have anything to do with my work/project and I would also not want to become a part of something he voluntarily does not make me. Why put him in a position where he has to choose me? Why does a couple need to just stick like a glue together and do everything together? Can they have no dreams or ambitions for themselves? As a wife to Kabeer she wants to encourage and support him,is it necessary for her to be a stakeholder in the project to do that? And whatever Zaara was, she was never manipulative. But she did manipulate this time around. She did ask Miraj for a favour but told Kabeer that Miraj had asked her her opinion with regards to the project. Does it suit Zaara to be this manipulative? Does it suit her to lie to her husband ever, let alone in a month where muslims fast to practice abstinence and better human beings? In fact, even her dialogues with Rikhsar, other than being distasteful, seemed to me to be completely against the spirit of fasting: one should not speak harshly, behave rudely, taunt, etc in this month with the hope that this one month's practice will turn this into habit for all of us for the rest of the year. CVs should be a bit more careful with context when they are writing scenes and dialogues.
In my opinion, Zaara is a beautiful character who is being messed up by CVs post Kashmir: she does not go to Sharia board, does not even work anywhere else (fulfilling Kabeer's wish for a housewife or not I have no clue), compares the way she is treated by her husband and how he treats another woman, her only purpose in life seems to be a part of Kabeer's project (i have no clue why) and keep Rukhsar away from him.
I can't believe a woman is shown to compete with an outsider, interact with her and repeatedly reminding that outsider that she is the man's wife! She is the man's wife and she does not need to tell this to anyone, should not have anything to prove or show and does not need to bother about this other woman at all, period. Where is her sense of self-respect when she is dealing with a woman who has no social or religious standing beside her husband? Why give that woman so much importance and most importantly, why get down to the level of that woman? As a woman it is disturbing for me to see that Zaara gets affected by the difference in treatment of Kabeer towards herself and Rukhsar: she questions why he is okay working with Rukhsar but not with her! Because you are his wife and she is a no one! People form business partners with strangers, friends, colleagues etc all the time but many people will never form business with their spouses because they are afraid that if difference of opinion occurs in business, their marriage will be affected. And here they both know that they think so differently from each other, why would they even want to work together? It is obvious that Kabeer does not want a spillover of their difference of opinion in their marriage and he has made it abundantly clear and that is a problem for Zaara? I don't understand why CVs make women lose their agencies in the name of empowerment time and again in serials. Why does Zaara not open up a madrassa for girls herself? Why does she not encourage women to work? Why does she not develop a project of her own or join an NGO or do something on her own instead of making it her aim in life to work with Kabeer?
Also, whether to keep Rukhsar on her toes or not, I cannot find it in me to appreciate Zaara's becoming part of Kabeer's project knowing that he does not want to have any professional dealings with her. Every person is entitled to have his or her freedom with regards to pursuing his work. In the tea scene although she seemed to give Kabeer all the freedom to take the decision but she is the one who initiated involvement in the project in the first place. As an independent woman, if I take a pause and imagine myself in Kabeer's position, I would hate it for my husband to have anything to do with my work/project and I would also not want to become a part of something he voluntarily does not make me. Why put him in a position where he has to choose me? Why does a couple need to just stick like a glue together and do everything together? Can they have no dreams or ambitions for themselves? As a wife to Kabeer she wants to encourage and support him,is it necessary for her to be a stakeholder in the project to do that? And whatever Zaara was, she was never manipulative. But she did manipulate this time around. She did ask Miraj for a favour but told Kabeer that Miraj had asked her her opinion with regards to the project. Does it suit Zaara to be this manipulative? Does it suit her to lie to her husband ever, let alone in a month where muslims fast to practice abstinence and better human beings? In fact, even her dialogues with Rikhsar, other than being distasteful, seemed to me to be completely against the spirit of fasting: one should not speak harshly, behave rudely, taunt, etc in this month with the hope that this one month's practice will turn this into habit for all of us for the rest of the year. CVs should be a bit more careful with context when they are writing scenes and dialogues.
In my opinion, Zaara is a beautiful character who is being messed up by CVs post Kashmir: she does not go to Sharia board, does not even work anywhere else (fulfilling Kabeer's wish for a housewife or not I have no clue), compares the way she is treated by her husband and how he treats another woman, her only purpose in life seems to be a part of Kabeer's project (i have no clue why) and keep Rukhsar away from him.
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