Youll never truly understand something until it happens to you !!!

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Posted: 9 years ago
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You will never truly understand something until it actually happens to you. No matter who tries to teach you lessons about life, you wont understand it until you have to go through on your own. You do not know a situation until you experience. Those who judge will never understand, and those who understand never judge.

The quotes...Walk a mile in my shoes, see what I see, hear what I hear, feel what I fell, then maybe you'll understand why I do what I do, till then don't judge me. We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows their own pain and renunciation.

It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path...You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view. Until you climb inside of his skin and walk around in it...hold true.

Don't judge someone's journey till you have walked their path. There is a story behind every person, a reason why they are the way they are so, think about that before you judge someone. Without knowing the whole story you may think you understand, but you don't.

No matter what, you will never understand someone's pain, until you're the one feeling it. So do not mock a pain that you haven't endured. When someone needs you, the worst you can do is blame them for the things they do to handle their pain. So do not judge, learn to respect and acknowledge the feelings of another.

When Dhani had to face molestation by the esteemed judge Asthana who is supposed to bring in the law and order in the society no one understood what she had to go through instead they were just mute spectators...Had they ever thought this attempt can be made on any women...the offender doesn't look for the rich or poor.

The so called prestigious society have they lost their ability to think, that they fail to see who is guilty of crime and instead of punishing the guilty (Asthana) they simply watch the situation from entertainment pov.

No one raises the question of safety of women there...today Dhani had to suffer what is the guarantee that beast like Asthana who hide behind the power to commit such heinous crimes may not attempt the same on some other women??

When people like them are left scott free then crimes are bound to increase ...it is a lesson to the society that such crimes should be punished under law even if the offender is a judge himself...instead of judging the victim focus on the crime committed and should be seen that such things do not get repeated.

The blame on Dhani is absurd, no one has thought what she had to go through instead they blame her for going to the night school...has anyone thought how does it feel to go through such a tough situation ...people like PC don't know the entire story and they are ever ready to instigate the crowd.

One needs to understand the situation and respect people's feelings who are going through a tough situation after all it is them not you who has to go through a lot...in case we can't help them then do not mock or blame them. Be in their shoes then one will understand.

Do share your views.😊

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Posted: 9 years ago
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Agree with you completely. I do have some experience in life and one esson I have learnt, is not to hurry to pass on any judgement because we do not know where people are coming from and making them behave as such.
There is always a reason behind whatever happens. Howver another more important point is we should learn from our mistakes and other's mistakes also. An error once is understandable, twice is acceptable and more than twice is foolishness.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Swathi,

We humans are in such a habit of judging people and that too within the confines of our own views, thoughts and prejudices. Within before a hearing we pass the verdict of who is wrong and who is right . What appropraie actions should have been taken and what should not . And all this is without knowing all the facts .
Take anything ... example dressing .. Dhani wearing a lace saree is provocative and sends a come hither message and that of a loose women.
Viplav crazy about his wife is only because she has cast a spell on him.
Dhani is not educated or rich and was a widow hence totally lacks virtue...
Any many more that are beyond the show. Even while interacting within this forum we have made so many opinions about each other and we hardly know anyone.
Your point as is mine ,,,we are too hasty to judge and opine of people and situations that we do not have facts about ..let alone us thinking outside the box or taking a leap of faith.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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It is said that experience is the best teacher and unless you face similar circumstances you can never be a true judge of the person 's actions in those particular situations
People in authority feel that they have a right to judge and the world sadly listens to them. That is why slimeballs like Asthana are secure in the knowledge that they can get away with the worst kind of offence.
The judge thought that once he brands Dhani as a prostitute it will be accepted by all. After all he enjoys the respect of his position. Indeed the spectators were more than ready to concur with him and never pay heed to the victim- It proved that they judged her and accepted the judge blindly. Only if they were faced with the same treatment would they realize how wrong they were.
It needed an strong character like Viplav with his unflinching faith in his wife to open their eyes to some extent. Yet I wonder - next time when they witness something similar will they be willing to pay less heed to powerful people and look at things from the other point of view!
Wonderful post swathi!
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Hey Swathi...a good insightful post yet again...This all we human suffer from,we tend to point fingers or comment at others before looking ourself or judging our own thoughts n actions...!We r hasty in forming the opinions about anyone without actually thinking or placing ourself in that situation n time...I had read long back n I still remember that line..."We usually judge people in that areas where WE are weakest" n this is so true...n cos our judgements reveal our softspots,our weaknesses n insecurities!
Same way all of AN are hell bent on abusing maligining Dhaani cos they themselves know that Dhaani is a genuine and a well character gal...but its their insecurity n weakness for VIPLAV that they cant see or accept the reality...As Daddi rightfully put in...why does everyone has an issue towards her? which simplifies that these ppl are all blind to their own shortcomings of hatred and insecurity towards dhaani...n So the BLAME GAME!
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Hello Kiranji 😊 ...thank you for reading and sharing your view...agree with you completely ...we do tend to pass judgment quickly without knowing the entire story which should be avoided ...there are reasons fro people to behave in a particular manner and we might not the reason as well...yes I agree while making the same mistakes we never learn anything from them...till then take care.


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Posted: 9 years ago
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Hello Ratna 😊...thank you for reading and sharing your view...True agree with you people do come to conclusions without knowing the truth or entire facts and we are habituated as well...whatever seems to appear we believe it. It has also become people's habit to blame others without thinking whether it is true or not...in the entire AN they blame dhani for wearing a lace sari without knowing that it was Km who forced her to wear it. Yes in the forum some did come to conclusions I gathered it in 2-3 posts 😆...till then take care.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Hello Magnolia 😊...thank you for reading and sharing your view...Agree dear money talks sadly people with power do get away with worst of the crimes...with power people do think they can misuse it to favor them...and yes had anyone been there in dhani's position it would be entirely different scenario for them...then may be they would understand how wrong they were...Till then take care.

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Posted: 9 years ago
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After a gap Swathi , such a brilliant post dear ! Enjoyed reading each lines . Keep on writing !!!
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Hello wise pearl.
How r u?
Again a beautiful post.
Amazed by d fact that my childhood is coming back to me through ur posts ...I used to judge people by things ..then walked on d same path n understood I was never right in d first place.
I didnt watch d episode so just trying to guess what made u post this particular thought.what dhani must have gone through.
Again loadshedding.
Watching ishq has become impossible here.will I have to wake up at 4,am n watch it?ughhh I cant do so.

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